Why don't parents spank their kids anymore?

Question

1) The Bible supports it!
2) Nearly all kids need it now and then!
3) It worked for us...it's a timeless form of discipline
4) Don't let the bleeding heart liberals tell you how to raise your kid!
5) It will improve the next generation and lower crime rates! The last generation is suffering because most were not spanked or not nearly enough.
6) It should be brought back to the schools (with parents permission, but most would approve).
7) If you need to do it public, do it, with no interference, attitude, or glares from others, just a nod of approval and walk on
8) I mean, spanking, not abuse. A good sound spanking done lovingly is not abuse
9) Neighborhood parents should know and watch out for each other, and if they see a kid who needs a spanking, call their parents!
10) Your kids will appreciate it!

11) Most police stations should allow you to come in and spank your kid...basically a "woodshed room". They can "bless" the spanking, so that you don't need to worry about any "child abuse" charges (assuming it's not child abuse...if it is they should surely stop it immediately and arrest on the spot).

Answer 1

The bleeding hearts will cry child abuse ! in the public schools they teach the kids to call 911 if mommy or daddy try to spank them. somehow discipline has been confused with abuse! I say it is time to dust off the paddles and start warming some spoiled rotten bottoms!

Answer 2

I completely agree with you. I got spanked when I was a kid and I turned out just fine. I have kids of my own now and generally they're very good but when they have one of those days where they don't want to listen to anything that's when they get spanked as the last line of punishment. first it's three chances along with 3 warnings of the circumstances for not listening, then I start taking things away, then they're sent to bed and if all that doesn't work the last thing is they get spanked. It most certainly is not abuse but unfortunately a lot of people look at it that way.

Answer 3

Time outs and grounding may work for some children but some need a good spanking! Not a beating but a quick pop on the behind- I got my butt beat more times than I can count and I'm not abusive or hold resentment about being spanked. People- be for real!

Look at how out of control kids are now- they weren't like that back in the days of spanking.

Answer 4

My mother had a good reason for not using spanking as a discipline. When I was about three years old and started getting more difficult to deal with (if you've had children you know what I mean), my mother decided to try spanking me. It went terribly awry. You see I was mostly a wonderful child, but if someone did something unfair, I would say something or I would refuse to go along with it. That's what happened in this instance. The reason she decided to spank me when I spoke up was because her brother was there when it happened and he told her she was a push over if she didn't spank me. Well, she spanked me, and all he// broke loose. I started hitting her back and the more she hit me the more upset and violent I became. Pretty soon she stopped because she knew she had already hit me too much, but unfortunately, I now had lost my trust for her. Every time she tried to come near me, I would go berserk and attack her. It really freaked her out, and she had to shut me up in my room so that she could have some time to figure out what to do. My uncle was dumb struck and left her to have to deal with the situation on her own. She eventually came to the door and promised to never hit me again, if I promised never to hit her again. I agreed, and that was that. Unfortunately, most children do not remember things that happen when they are three, so when I was seven she tried spanking again, with equally horrid results. When I was 14 she slapped me on the face and I of course slapped her back. Anyway, I'm sure you see the pattern here. She ended up having to put the belt away and actually use her brain and her words to discipline me. I know about what happened when I was 3 years old, because my uncle brought it up one time, and my mom had to admit to it.

Answer 5

I personally do spank my son if he is being bad and won't listen after I tell him to stop 2 or 3 times my god he stops he you crack his little butt. Thankfully usually all I have to say is do you want a "pow pow" a.k.a spanking and he goes no and normally stops what ever it is he's doing right then and there. I don't believe in abuse I never in my right mind would hit my child with anything other then my hand I just don't believe in using objects. My mom used to hit me with belts and I swore I would never do that to my son and he's going on 3 right now and I've never touched him with more than my hand.

Also I do believe in spanking b/c I'll be damned if my child is going to be one of those loud mouth little brats screaming in the stores and parents you know who you are who let your kids do it. My son I think has done that twice in his life he knows I will not put up with it and anyone who ever watches my son say's he's so well behaved the whole time they have him so I feel like I must be doing something right.

Answer 6

1) a lot of christians dont even read the Bible any more :( there is no foundation for morality, therefore no more morality
2) yes , they do, but it takes effort to discipline your children- with so many undisciplined children having children, discipline is becoming a thing of the past
3) It worked for us, but with chidren who are still rebelling against their own discipline , they have not the wisdom or ability to discipline their children - they cannot discipline themselves
4) for too many people, it is a lot easier to let them tell them how to raise them then to actually do anything for themselves
5) don't we have the latest technology and pharmaceutical durgs to help with this problem- ooops, dang those things are actually contributing to the problem- dont tell anyone though, it works for now, we can worry aobut the future later
6) *gasp* and cause our children to feel shame and embarrassment for their innappropriate behavior, God forbid!
7) again,we can't damage their fragile self esteem now !
8) not if those bleeding heart liberals say otherwise
9) most people cannot keep tabs on themselves much less care what is going on with a neighbors kids, get involved and take action to make sure a child is safe and behaving in an appropriate manner- that is just way too much to ask a person these days (*rolls eyes*)
10) but my kids will hate me , whaaaa, we have to be their friend

excuses excuses!
Spare the rod, spoil the child!!
A parent who does not discipline his child, hates his child!

Answer 7

Thats a good question, I would like to know the answer to that one too. I DO spank my kids, not everyday, not everytime they are in trouble, but I do spank my kids. I was spanked, I don't hate my parents, I wasn't abused, neither are my kids. My children are well behaved and I don't EVER have to spank them in public, I have had people tell me how well behaved they are. I live in a state that allows for Corporal Punishment in school AND in public. I may need to bust one of my kids in the grocery store one of these days, and my state gives me permission to do that, not that it would stop me anyway, these are my kids, not the states. I do also believe that there are alot of BRATTY kids out there because their parents don't spank them. JUST MY OPINION

Answer 8

I spank my kids if after 2-3 times they do not listen to me. It's my right as a parent. I spank them with my hand ONLY....my parents gave me plenty of spankings and i turned out fine and do not hate them for it. I respect them!!!! if kids got spanked more and watched over more, the shootings in the schools would decrease.

Answer 9

To answer your question. Now days it's against the law to strike a child. It's called physical abuse.

I agree with you and disagree with today's logic. I use to carry what my kids called "The Hot Seat". It was a little red paddle. I never had to use it in public but I would have if needed. I did use it at home. When the kids would not behave and talking did no good, I would make them bend over, grab their ankles, take aim and one swat was enough. Just like we got it in school if we misbehaved. My children were well behaved, well mannered children. Every one bragged on them and ask how I did it. I was a single parent by the way and had no time for nonsense. The secret was to be patient but consistent and start when they are young. It's a shame discipline has been banned. Kids now days know they have it over the parents and take advantage of it. I blame the over crowded prisons on lack of discipline in the home.

Answer 10

While spanking may relieve a parent's frustration and stop misbehavior briefly, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (1995), researchers suggest that spanking may be the least effective discipline method. To test this hypothesis, researchers surveyed parents, with the assumption that if spanking worked, children who were spanked would learn to behave better over time so that they would need punishing less frequently (Leach, 1996). However, the results showed that families who start spanking before their children are a year old are just as likely to spank their 4-year-old children as often as families who do not start spanking until later. Thus, children appear not to be learning the lessons parents are trying to teach by spanking.

Spanking may be ineffective because it does not teach an alternative behavior (American Academy of Pediatrics, 1995). In fact, children usually feel resentful, humiliated, and helpless after being spanked (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). The primary lesson they learn appears to be that they should try harder not to get caught.

Spanking also sends the wrong message to children (Samalin & Whitney, 1995). Spanking communicates that hitting is an acceptable way to solve problems, and that it is all right for a big person to strike a smaller one. In addition, when children are spanked, they may know that they have done something wrong, but in many cases, they are too young to understand the lesson. It is a very difficult message for any adult or child to understand: "I hurt you because I don't want you hurt."

Finally, when spanking is the primary discipline method used, it may have some potentially harmful long-term effects such as increasing the chances of misbehavior, aggression, violent or criminal behavior; impaired learning; and depression (Straus, 1995).

Answer 11

I think spanking can have a place, but I also feel it can be overused as well. I feel that a child should have an opportunity to do the right thing... rather than just get a smack on the behind and have to wonder what it was for.