A man I really liked told me that I was very pretty and could have any man I wanted. I just got out of a relationship and told him I needed some time to figure out what went wrong.
After I realized that he probably thought that meant I wasn't attracted to him. I called him and told him that he was tall, dark and handsome the kind of guy I usually fall for so he would know I found him attractive. We talked for a while but it was awkward because we stopped trying to get to know one another and I was feeling needy.
The next day I wrote him an email and told him thanks for talking to me and told him in addition to being a tall, dark and handsome man, he was also very nice and level headed. I ended the email by letting him know that I wished him well on his interview and told him to take care.
Guys, if you were him would you be put-off?
2006-09-02 10:41:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I wouldn't be put off, it would be an ego massage and men love those.
but i get the feeling he thinks you aren't really interested in him??
2006-09-02 10:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by andylefty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You contacted this guy twice in less than 48 hours. If a woman I didn't already have a thing for did that I would be put off... because I'd think she was stalking me. So no, he probably doesn't think you don't find him attractive. If he's attracted to you, your attention is a welcome revelation. If he's not, he might be considering a restraining order right about now. 0;) Give him some space for a couple of days -- maybe he'll call you. Even if he doesn't, continue to be friendly. Just because he doesn't choose to date you doesn't mean that you should lose the friendship of someone who clearly likes you and has a high opinion of you.
2006-09-02 17:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking that as a compliment I would politely thank you.
No, I would not be put off and would consider you at least a well meaning young lady (if I wasn't interested).
If I was interested I would follow it up with you.
I was once sitting on the window sill of a book store looking for specific magazines, when a lady with a gorgeous fire engine red dress walked by. As she pulled level with me I said, 'Wow that is an absolutely gorgeous dress', and returned to my search. She walked on without speaking.
About 5 minutes later, as she passed me on her way back, she stopped shortly, smiled, and said 'Thank you; you just made my day!'. I just smiled at her and went back to my search.
No need to say, she made my day too. Nothing else was implied or said and I never saw her again.
I think that life would be so much nicer, if people could be a little more like that.
I remember it vividly simply because it is a rare happening. Too bad.... :-(
2006-09-02 17:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was his first mistake, he told you you were pretty and that you could have any man you wanted. Talk about leaving all the good fun stuff out like flirting, building anticipation, and being mysterious so you weren't quite sure if he was attracted to you or not!
He wasn't asking you for a relationship, he was just telling you how pretty you were (something men shouldn't do at first becuase it puts them in the category of "I'm just like every other guy out there").
I personally wouldn't be put off by this. I would take your compliments in stride and at least I know where you are at in your life. You aren't ready for a relationship and I'd be cool with that. I'd see if you'd want to hang out as friends. But I also wouldn't stop flirting and meeting other women. Single men need to learn how to build up a "dating funnel" so they actually have a lot of women who want to get to know them. It takes about 60-90 days to do this, depending on your skill level.
I love compliments from women, so I would NOT be put off by this. Though honestly, if he was a really HOT guy that you were really attracted to would you tell him you just got out of a relationship? A recent poll by a magazine showed that 7 of out 10 women wouldn't. Not saying that you should or shouldn't...but I realize that you just got out of relationship and if your really FEEL like you need the time to yourself then by all means. But if not really, you should hang out with this guy and take things really slooooooow.......
Rod Cortez
2006-09-02 17:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to find myself in that type of situation before I would know what I would do. But to be honest after 48 years I don't think I will have to worry about the situation ever coming up
2006-09-02 17:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope........seems like this guy may not be as level headed as you think if he is backing up......seems from what you have said he wanted to hook up......and now you do but he is not as forth coming anymore........well give it one more try and this time just outright ask him out......if it works then great if not move on........seems you have a lot going for you use it and get moving...live your life and have fun
2006-09-02 18:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by scotdic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cute. a bit of a cliche, but very cute. I don't think that line would put him off, although the turndown would be confusing knowing this opinion.
2006-09-02 17:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, probably not,, but I was not there for the conversation,,, I am a pretty head strong type though....
Hope it works out for you.....
good luck
2006-09-02 17:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a gentleman, no, this would be a complement.
If was like MOST GUYS, who knows what he is thinking!
2006-09-02 17:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not really,..i would still feel good about the situation,..just not entirely clear on it.
2006-09-02 17:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋