I am so mean to people and think that I am better than them. I want to stop this behaviour and start becoming nice. I always look down on others if they dont meet my standards.
How do I become a nicer person? I am 24 female.
2006-09-02 10:23:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You've taken the big step by acknowledging your faults and expressing a wish to improve yourself.
If you're sincere, you've taken a big step already.
Good luck.
2006-09-02 10:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Maybe you are better off remaining single. Some people are not relationship material, because they hold unrealistically high expectations that only Zeus could live up to.
2. You may function better on your own. Other people may frustrate you and get in the way of how you like to do things.
3. Hang out with some very mean people who are abusive verbally to you. I'm not kidding. See what it feels like to be on the receiving end.
4. Standards are all relative. Your standards are beneath many others, but they may not verbalize it to you. They may find you ridiculous with your arrogance.
5. To become a nicer person, you have to begin appreciating your friends and family who have remained loyal to you. Ask for their help, like a gentle nudge when you start to get nasty.
6. Just be honest with yourself about why you do what you do. You'll be able to fix the problems easier if you know why you are creating them.
Good luck and warm regards.
2006-09-02 20:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i would just like to say YOU DONT NEED TO BE RELIGIOUS TO BE A GOOD PERSON!! that really twists my nipples when people come out with that crap! Congratulations and i mean that sincerily because a lot of people can go through their whole lifetime without realising what an A-hole they have been. It has been said befor ethat you are already on your way to becoming a 'better person' there is no simple way around this its going to take a long time to re-train your mind not to jump to the usual conclusions, just as it took a long time for your mind to make those assumptions of people. The best you can do is to try and practise being aware of your actions and speech and over time you will find that you have re trained your mind with new habits of kindness and acceptance.
2006-09-02 11:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by xx_connor_uk_xx 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
don't worry I am sure you are a great person I think that is just something all girls your age go through I am 30 know but when I was 20-25 I was the same way. you still carry a sense of immaturity until you are hopefully about 25. I think we all tend to think we are better than everyone else. You just have to keep telling your self everyone is the same just rapped up in a different situation and in a different body. I have always set my standards high experiences in life will teach you that these standard need to be set at a normal pace to make life less stressful. try helping a person that you think is less than you or try saying something nice to one of these people you think is less than you, if you really want to change this activity will make you feel good about yourself and you may continue to act in this manner.I hate to say it but sometimes it takes a tragedy in life to open your eyes. example losing everything you have and being just like the people your mean to and look down on. Remember not one person is better than the next you could be them, it just depends on the choices you make in life. I hope this helps if not keep searching for the answer you'll find it and one day something in your life will help you realize its going to be hard to get very far feeling this way in life or you will just become very depressed. granted many people are the same way and thats whats making this world so hard to live in. If you have children you have to remember they will act the same way if you don't want this to happen to them you could use that factor to help you to change your ways. Good luck to you.
2006-09-02 11:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by whitetiger 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its good that you acknowledge that you have to change. Lower yourself to other peoples level. Golden rule, what you want others to do for you, you also have to do for them. Try doing something nice for someone and then you will have a feeling of self worth and become a nicer person in the mean time.
2006-09-02 10:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by janey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By realising that you do it, and wanting to change, you are halfway there.
I did this a couple of years ago, and I think I'm getting better now. Since you probably say stuff in the heat of the moment, and don't regret it until later (I know that was my problem) you should try and apologise as soon as you realise it, even for small things.
This will improve your relationships with people, as well as helping you to change your habits.
Eventually, you will find that you say things less often, and when you do you will probably apologise straight away.
You might also find it helpful to do something humbling, so you realise how small you are in the world (for me, it was becoming a Christian, but whatever works for you!)
2006-09-02 10:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by guest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start looking around for ways in which you might be able to help other people such as any small jobs you might be able to do for them, or errands you could run for them. Also praying should help you to change your attitude. Particularly when you find yourself in a situation where you are behaving in the manner you are describing, say a quick prayer asking for forgiveness and for God's help to make you the better person you hope to become.
2006-09-05 09:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're nicer than you think. Maybe you just have high standards and good taste. I lowered my standards years ago and paid a high price for years. My standards are back up now and I may seem mean, but I deserve the best and won't settle for less.
Who else is going to take care of you but you?
2006-09-02 22:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by fly boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel free to go to church and learn all lessons Jesus taught his disciples. I know it sounds very cliché (sorry, i do not know a better english word for it) or boring, but I think it really helps. Since I do not follow all of Jesus' rules I am not a entirely good person and I honestly regret it every single day I am alive. So, please, do not make the same mistake I am making. I am 24 years old, too. Maybe both of us should be learning Jesus' rules, shouldn't we? It is not too late!
2006-09-02 10:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think you are not that bad1because you mentioned that you are sorry ! ok freind let me tell you that love and kindness is the best thing in the world ! i am not near you i am too far from you .you are maybe from america and i am here in iran but believe that all of us are the same because god has created us and god is love god likes all of the people even a person does not like him i do not tell you that you have to act like god .no i do not say this because none of us can not do this! but try to be kind to people try to help them and i have to inform you if you think you are a better person than others maybe you are the worst person because the people who are good people never think like you.ok i do not want to make you sad but i have to say that you have waste your life up to now because you had seen everybody and you had liked everybody for their money or unimportant things but you can change and i am sure of it!so try ! you can be a very good person !
2006-09-02 10:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At night, go through your day and see how you hurt others or how you could have handled things better. Make a note (mental will probably suffice) of what to do next time.
Also make a list of what you are grateful for (loved ones, nice laptop etc) and of what you did right.
Sounds alot but can be fun remembering how you made someone laugh.
You probably aren't that bad.
Take care,
Regards.
2006-09-02 10:31:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋