If you are in a committed relationship who do you feel...?

Question

compromises the most, the woman or the man? and why do you feel this way?

Answer 1

the woman compromises more........ because she wants to please her man. Men have a tendency not to be able to think outside of the box ( the box being themselves).

Answer 2

So consider as a possibility the following:

What if being committed didn't mean giving something up? What would your life be like if being in a committed relationship GAVE you both a lot more than either of you could have without it?

That's what it's like for us. It took a LOT of years to get to that point, though. You have to learn to see what the cultural expectations are that drive you, learn to recognize when they're making you do things you don't really want but you've been trained to THINK you want, and then learn to look into your own soul and choose what you REALLY want out of life.

Once you do that, having a genuinely committed relationship is AWESOME. I couldn't live any other way, not happily.

And while chatting about this with my wife, we realized that of course there ARE things that we do, or don't do, to make life easier for the other partner. But in a genuinely committed relationship, they're not compromises -- they're contributions. This morning, our daughter needed to get to work at 5 AM, so I got up and drove her to the store. That was my contribution to my wife -- letting her stay in bed and hauling my own sleepy backside down to our daughter's job and back. However, my wife chose to stay awake till I got back so we could snuggle and chat for a minute when I returned, and it would be easier for us both to fall asleep. That was her contribution.

So I encourage anyone to start a conversation with your committed partner, a conversation in which the things you do are contributions to the relationship, not compromises. It shifts how you look at what you do, and a few simple shifts like this can change the way you look at each other. Highly recommended.

Answer 3

I don't believe it should be one or the other doing the compromising. Relationships should be founded on equality. communication is a must. As in any partnership there is give and take on both parts. sometimes you need negotiation as a team. I have been married nine years and I compromise as much as he compromises with me. Maybe that is why it works. I don't always have to be right and I respect that my husband has taught me that.

Answer 4

It depends on the relationship, but it's often the woman who compromises most, because they're usually better at it.

Answer 5

I think if it is a good relationship it will equal out. But most times I think women tend to give in more and end up blaming their partners later. Women I think love to much that they are willing to do anything to please their mates. But if you feel you give in more I suggest you try to work it out or get out. Because you will only regret it later and feel that the relationship may not be as great as you first thought it was in the beginning. I feel this way because thats the way I've been with my husband all these years and I've let him slide on a lot of things he wasn't willing to do that I wanted to do. Yet even if he knows I want to he won't. I wish I had paid more attention in the beginning because I do have my regrets now.

Answer 6

women have to compromise the most.

in a real relationship/marriage.. not ones most americans have.. girls have to be submissive to their man. treat them like the king that they are, and try to meet their every need. while the man take care, support and protect his family and set the rules.

this is the way it had been and should always be.


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Answer 7

I think if it's truly a committed relationship, you both compromise

Answer 8

after being married to my wife for over 10 years I can say it is equal. A comprise doesn't have to be a win/lose situation you can work things out so it is a win/win situation if both gives a little then all will win

Answer 9

the woman. we are nurturing by nature and it is almost natural for use to compromise so things remain stable and status quo.

Answer 10

i dont think its male vrs female, ive seen it both ways, but thats kinda what its about, sometimes i need him to pick up the slack, and sometimes he needs me.