Okay here is the scenario....at McDonalds the other day I was getting a Quarter Pounder and some fries and my girl was like, hey that sounds good I want that. I told her "no, sweetie, you need to watch your figure". She is very slim yet I want her to stay that way. I told her it was okay for guys to gain extra pounds but for women it was unattractive. Some days she understands this but this time she was on PMS and was pouting about it. I told her she was my Barbie doll and I couldn't let her eat stuff to make her fat. I told her that I would let her eat burgers and fries on her birthday but she said she wanted to go to Olive Garden for her birthday. I said that was fine. Anyways, her friend found out about this whole story and called me a jerk. Was I wrong here?
2006-09-02 09:43:03 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you really have to ask what is wrong? You are so shallow as to judge someone by their appearance---that is what is wrong.
She may not be happy with all you are or do & does not say anything. That is also wrong. One day she will wise up & leave you.
2006-09-02 09:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Selkie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...it sounds as though you're sincerely concerned about your daughter and her health. So, based on that I wouldn't classify you as a "jerk", but rather uninformed.
1. It is better for your daughter to probably not eat a burger and fries on a regular basis. These items shouldn't be considered treats, but food that is eaten far less often than other more healthy options. Take her somewhere you both can eat.
2. You, as her parent, are one of the primary influences on what she eats. If you don't want her to eat burger and fries, then guess what - you shouldn't eat them either. You should model what she should be eating.
3. Telling your daughter to "watch her figure" greatly affects her self image. Again, you are key player when it comes to having an impact on how your daughter views and values herself. While I doubt your intention was to tell her that you valued her any less if she gained weight, unfortunately that is what was relayed - whether she recognizes this or not.
4. So, here's the advice - if you want to eat burger and fries - do it on your own time. Eat healthy together with your daughter and enjoy family activities where she can continue to receive the affirmation and love that you obviously have for her.
Good luck!
2006-09-02 16:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Neenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen "supersize me"? What were you doing in there anyway? Burgers and chips in general are not bad as long as they are eaten in consideration. If she want's them why not do them at home. Avoid the deep fryer but cook your chips/fries iun the oven, this is a much healtier option. Also do your burgers fro lean cuts yourself. At least you know what is in them.
The problem with a lot of burgerplaces is the way the food is processed, transfats are only one of the probs.
For the birthday why not try a BBQ at home or a local park. A normally much cheaper and more relaxed option.
2006-09-02 16:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by ottmar_morett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely wrong. Why the double standard? Why is it okay for you to gain a couple of extra pounds and not her? "I want her to be my barbie doll." You want barbie go to Wal-Mart and buy one. This is a human being you are talking about. If you were my boyfriend I would of left you butt right there at Mickey Dee's and tell you to find you someone else you can try to control... You are a selfish butt and you have some growing up to do...
2006-09-02 16:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friend calling you a jerk was her being nice. I have a better word and it starts with an A. How dare you tell her what to do. You are not her parent and you simply have no right to try to control her behavior. You were rude and insensitive and you owe her an apology. If she had some self-esteem and a backbone she would have taken her burger to go and left you behind.!!!
2006-09-02 16:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A jerk? Probably. A hypocrite. Definitely. A chauvinist. Absolutely. A control freak? Yeah.
2006-09-02 16:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are setting her up for an eating disorder!!
Society already says that men can be fat but women can't,(Just look at the Simpson's, According to Jim, King of Queens) don't make it so by telling her that stuff.
2006-09-02 16:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by duckiejunkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really this bored that you will make up a rude scenario to enrage people, have them write rude things to you so you can laugh at how stupid they are for believing your abusive, archaic story? Or are you some knuckle dragging moron who thinks it is okay to control other people, and places looks before all? If so, watch out, your girl may get fed up and claw out your eyes. I bet if you lost your sight you would be begging for a "little extra" so you have something to hold on to.
2006-09-02 16:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r so shallow its un bloody believable!
how the hell do women actually stay with men like you???
u lower her self-esteem!!! u make her feel like carp im sure!
y is it okay for men to put on a few pounds and not women. after all she propbably went out with u cuz she wants u to be her 'ken'!!! not ken and then danny de-vito!!! yet that shud be okay with her but not u, if she puts on half an inch round her waist!!
i dnt even understand women who stay with BOYS like u!
it's one thing thing maintaning ur figure and looking after urself but completely another if you're boyfriend keeps stopping u from eating something that he's eating right in front of you!
2006-09-02 16:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Carefree? Noway! I wish! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes deffintly wrong. I can understand where u are coming from though as i like to watch my figure too. But there is nothing wrong with your gf eating foods like this occasionally. Eating fatty foods wont always make u fat, as long as u exercise to burn it off. Also, you should love your gf for who she is not just her looks/figure. And it is unnatractive for guys to be fat aswell you know! You are not helping her though by eating fatty foods yourself, thats not fair, why cant she if u are? U should do it together, eat healthy with her and this will motivate her lots. You can always treat yourselves and now and then with mcdonalds, etc. Also, you can eat fatty foods but make sure its in proportion, our bodies do need fats to survive too!
I say dont be so strict with your gf, its her body not yours.
Good luck anyway!
2006-09-02 16:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by rach_b_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are soooo full of what the cow left in the field it is unbelievable. It's ok for you to put on a few pounds and not her??? I can not believe this after all these years? Let her??
If I was her I would have dumped you on what must be your fat ***. I feel sorry for her.
2006-09-02 16:50:53 · answer #11 · answered by L C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋