If you had plans to go to another country for a year, but then you met the man of your dreams who wanted to marry you, would you put him on hold, go abroad and risk him or stay with him and not go?
2006-09-02 09:24:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough question really. What will you say was right 30 years from now? If you are really young, like in your 20's, then my answer would be to go on the trip. Look at the statistics on relationships. Most early relationships have a hard time of it and end up in divorce. For you to change your life for someone who in all probability will not be with you in ten years seems a terrible waste. Also remember this. For those who are truely committed, a year is no time at all. In my own relationship I live 3000 miles away from my spouse yet our relationship remains firm. We have been apart for 2 years and will probably remain so for another year or two. It is okay, our dreams are important to each other. Each supports the other's needs and we will be together in the end.
So, bottom line is, don't give up your dreams. Decades from now you will have to answer to yourself for the decisions you make now.
2006-09-02 09:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is that you view a husband and children as being incompatible with having a career. That's exactly why you think that "there's no turning back to my old me and old plans and goals." Hello! This is the 21st century. Women have been having both family and career for nearly forty years now. And those are the middle-class ones; working class women have been combining family with working outside the home for centuries. And having many sexual partners before marriage doesn't hurt your chances of finding your one true love. And, even though you've dated your fair share of jerks (and what woman hasn't?), you haven't dated every available man in the world. In fact, you probably haven't dated every available man in your hometown or even your neighborhood. That said, branch out. Stay away from the types of venues you met the last batch of jerks. Take up a male-dominated hobby. Have a trusted female friend set you up. Online dating, volunteering, and work-related networking events are also good places to meet guys. Whatever you do, don't give up.
2016-03-17 06:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met the woman of my dreams ... for her I would alter my plans. For the most part intertwine our plans and life together. Maybe he can go to and be happy in love, happily ever after. If he could not just do that surely their is some 'compromise'.
Simply put.
2006-09-02 09:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by uxemacs2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would marry him and take him with me. Life plans are never set in stone. What if you had other opportunities, for instance, have dinner with the Rolling Stones, or fly on the Space Shuttle, would you give those up because your "life plan" has been to go to another country for a year? Maybe, you should set little five year plans. I mean, things come up, really.
2006-09-02 09:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if it is real love, then go and keep in touch and if it was meant to be then it will be. But if you don't go, and you get together, one day you will have a fight and this will come up. You will throw this in his face. I know that you are probably thinking right now that I am nuts, but it is true. You will get mad and say something to him like: "I missed going out of the country for you." and this is how you treat me. Or: "I loved you so much I didn't go over seas so I could stay with you." So honey go, and like I said love will wait if it is real... Look how many soldiers go away for 1 or even 2 years and their marriages work. Sure it's hard on them, but love will withstand time.
2006-09-02 09:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't drop what you planned. You might never get a chance to do this again.......because usually after marriage then comes a kid or 2.......if he truly loves you and wants to marry you he will wait or go with you......never put your dreams on hold for a man........that is a mistake........don't make it......good luck......:)
2006-09-02 09:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then I think he will wait.. you can always keep in contact or maybe the best he can come with you
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-02 09:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop everything for the man of my dreams...all he'd have to do is ask~
2006-09-02 09:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known him? Also, why can't he go with you? If he can't and you really have the opportunity of a lifetime to go overseas, then go. Let him visit you. It will be tough, but you might regret it later if you don't go now.
2006-09-02 09:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would weigh my options, I wouldn't take something that wouldn't last. Is he for real and will be with you as much as you want him? Or is this trip everything you wanted in your life. If he really wanted to marry you, he would either go with you or wait for you.
2006-09-02 09:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by ebertlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋