My ex has made it hard for me to trust anyone of the male gender and I really want to trust my bf now, because he seems to care a great deal about me, and he tells me all the time that he isn't my ex, that he would never do that to me, he doesn't want to hurt me, and he knows what it's like to be cheated on. His ex-wife cheated on him, and he says he has never cheated.
2006-09-02 09:00:36 · 10 answers · asked by xxcallme_smileyxx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was a jealous monster with an old girlfriend and later found out I had a right to be. But I've never had a moment of jealousy with the women who is now my wife and know I have no reason to. The moral is not to let the old guy affect your relationship with the new guy. They are different people. I don't know him and can't say he won't cheat, but you can't project past problems that have nothing to do with him onto the new guy.
2006-09-02 09:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Disco Stu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you KNOW he has cheated on you then he is just telling you what you want to hear! Some people never get what real love is. I am VERY fortuenate I've been with the same guy for 25 years and neither one of us has cheated on the other now that's DEVOTION ! Good Luck at finding someone like that it's very rare these days!
NO you can never trust him, move on.
2006-09-02 09:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by rockinshewolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not yet healed over your past relationship it is not wise to go into the next so soon. That could be a rebound relationship! Each person should be treated as if they are innocent, until of course they do something like cheat, lie, etc. But it is hard to trust if someone has treated you badly in a relationship, it takes time and patience aswell as real love and commitment!
2006-09-02 10:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm , well i would say that your BF deserves a chance, but once he ruins the trust, thats it. Curious how old is he?Im sure you will have your guards up for a while but, remember your ex is your ex and your new companion BF makes his own decisions and knows what it feels like to be cheated on, therefor the chances of him doing that are less.
2006-09-02 09:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by sd_gummybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know it may be hard to trust another man again because of the pastbut you have to give your boyfriend a chance or you'll never know what a great guy he is and trust me I know i've been hurt too.So open up a little bit just to see how this relationship will turn out ok?
2006-09-02 09:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by sexyblakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to trust somebody when something l ike that happens, I've gone through the same problem. But you got to tell yourself that not everybody is the same way and that you can't take your hard feelings from a guy and stereotype it to other people. It isn't fair for your boyfriend now to be disliked over a mistake he didn't commit.
2006-09-02 09:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheater or not, guys will all say that. especially the players. you can ask for proof, talk to his close buddies, surprise him, talk to parents, talk of his ex. If he gives lots of excuses/stories or in general, then it's time to move on. trustworthy guys aren't as many as you girls think, good players are just better at hiding and sweet talking so even you feel the breakup was geniune. My best advice at this point is question the motives of all action and keep track of any change in his behavior compare to others but don't say anything for about 6 months, while keeping your normal deamonor.
2006-09-02 09:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by erk m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel. I asked myself this question before I got to serious with my current bf, is he worth it, is he worth the risk of me getting my heart broke (again)? Yes, he is! I'd rather take a chance and be with him than to not have taken a chance at all. He's a good guy (not perfect) but he is a good man.
2006-09-02 10:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Women have intuitions and can feel when there mate is up to no good. However, if you don't have proof then let it go. What's done in the dark will come to light. Just stay on your P's and Q's and don't be surprise about anything.
2006-09-02 09:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Chitea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys cheat, don't put yourself through this. There are trustworthy guys in this world. You just got to give them a fair chance.
2006-09-02 09:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Vivian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋