and her fiancee has cheated on her several times and if you ask him he doesnt even act like he cares wether he marries her or not . what advice should i give her
2006-09-02 08:52:13 · 16 answers · asked by angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is an article in Men's Health Mag written by a guy who was in this same situation. Basically he knew the girl his best friend was marrying was totally wrong for him, but even at the church, just before the ceremony, he failed to speak out to his friend that he was making a big mistake. The article goes on to months later, the writer of the article is holding his friend up while he is lamenting his pending divorce, and how rotten he feels at having failed at his marriage. The article ends with the writer feeling like a fool for not having the pair between his legs to have spoken up when he had the chance.
The moral, as I see it? If the two of you are really best friends, best friends tell each other the truth, even when it hurts. Your relationship may strain for a time, but in the long run you two should be stronger for you telling your best friend the truth. She probably won't want to hear it at first. Might even fight with you. But she eventually will realize all you are doing is looking out for your best friend.
2006-09-02 17:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you could tell her anything and everything but if she has her mind set she will do as she wants......but tell her how you feel.
Say
(insert friends name here)
I need to tell you how I feel before you get married. I don't want to feel like I didn't do all i have tried.....to keep you from doing this later on. I feel like you are making a mistake which you may not think is a mistake until later. He has cheated on you several times....and he doesn't give a d@mn about you or your feelings. If he truely loved you he would have never hurt you by cheating on you. You have to understand that I'm not doing this to hurt you, but rather because unlike him I do care about you and I don't want you to get hurt. I know that the final decision is yours, but I wanted to tell you how I felt.
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2006-09-02 16:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sadly you can not convince her to not marry him .. that ultimately is her decision. Just speak to her from your heart, be supportive and if it doesn't work out never say I told you so. Just be there for her.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-02 15:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her that you will always be there for her, but that you can't in good conscious attend or participate in her marriage to this two-timing, unfaithful idiot. Oh, and buy her a box of chocolates (she's going to need all the chocolate she can get if she marries this dud).
2006-09-02 17:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do give advice unless she asks for it. However, you might ask her if she is concerned that he may cheat again. (Only ask that if she already knows about his cheating.) This might open up the topic and cause her to think things through.
2006-09-03 00:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by metamorphosisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont marry him i would never marry a bloke whos cheated on me let alone go out with him marriage is for people who really love each other and want to be together forever .
2006-09-02 15:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by braddingsarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real loser! Just talk to her and let her know she should not marry him. Be a supportive friend that is really all you can do.
2006-09-02 17:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you want to protect your friend from making a mistake you can't... Speaking to her regarding this could damage your relationship.. She needs to make her own decision regarding this man (I use the term loosely)... Just be there for her when he breaks her heart... Don't critisize him to her and NEVER say "I told you so" or "I saw that coming" to her....
Sometimes as friends/family we have to bite our tongues so hard they bleed and let people make thier own mistakes..
2006-09-02 16:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell someone you can trust but do that last get proof and of it and some wittness and ask neihbours about in the houses of the sleep over, then do something about it before it`s to late
2006-09-03 14:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jason G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to get married once a cheater always a cheater and things will only get worst and they wont be married long ask her is taht what she really want to get more hurt tell her taht she is a better person and that and she can do so much better and try to get her to more on with her life please i hate to see her to get hurt divorces always cost more then to get married..........
2006-09-02 21:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by billie0059 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋