2006-09-02 08:45:43 · 15 answers · asked by Special nobody 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know exactly how you feel ... its really hard when they are away. Things that had helped me .. support from military wives (the only way I was able to receive that because 1. didn't live on a military base 2. we were newly weds 3. I knew no one on his unit was with yahoo groups for military spouses and in addition myspace has the same thing). The support from my family, I volunteered a lot (SAHM) and taken up a hobby. Things that helped was communication, I would blog to him daily (Yahoo 360 or MySpace) and if you are the lucky one he will have yahoo IM (We were not lucky .. sigh but had AKO). Sending him fun photos of yourself and I am sure he will do the same. Your not alone and there are many others going through it and know how hard it is .. just remember what ever branch he is, may have your soldier but you have his heart.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-02 08:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be depressed. I know it is a challenge when your husband is deployed. I've been there, done that myself. Now, it is more important than ever to get involved in your own life. Get involved in the base community where you live, if that is possible. Other military wives can be a tremendous source of strength and comfort during deployments. Attend the wives meetings if you can, it will keep you current on news from the front. If you are not located near the base (maybe your husband is Guard?) get involved in your community, thru church, schools or charity organizations. Frequently, when you extend yourself to help others, you get more out of it than you realize. I know this a difficult time for you (and your husband). Staying busy will help pass the time. I am positive that your husband knows how difficult this is for you, but he also knows you are capable of dealing with the current situation. That is one of the reasons he married you....military wives are a tough breed, not everyone can handle it. You may want to talk with your doctor about sleeping so much, in fact I encourage you to do so. It is better to seek help for depression earlier rather than later.
Finally, remember you hold a special place in your husbands service to this country. Because of you, your husband is able to go do the mission he was asked to do. Your husband is able to leave and know that all of life's idiosincracies are dealt with, because he has left a very capable women in charge........believe me, that means more to him than you will ever know. I hope this has helped a little, I will be thinking of you.
2006-09-02 16:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by savshamer65 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It must be a an incredible amount of stress and worry on you. I am sure you are sufferring a bit of stress induced depression and your mind needs a break. Sleep can be comforting and healing, just keep an eye on it and try to stay positive and active.
I am sorry for your hardship and I am so thankful for families like yours that pay such a high personal price to fight for our freedoms. Thank you and thank your husband for me, too. I wish the best for you and will keep you in my prayers if that is ok. Rest well and pleasant dreams. :)
PS: Can you find other dedicated military wives to hang out with or just talk to? Or maybe take a cooking class or some other group activity you would enjoy to keep you socializing and among friends in a relaxed atmosphere?
2006-09-02 15:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that you miss him like crazy but he wouldn't want you to be depressed. This is a great time to do something for your else. Take some classes, go to the gym ( by the time he gets back you'll have abs like Janet Jackson), find other women who's husbands are deployed and talk to them. Please stay strong. He'll be home in no time.
2006-09-02 15:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by L'teefaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, You need to get your tail out of bed, stop pouting and do something constructive!!!
If you have kids they need you now more than ever! Do extra activities with them!
Take up a new hobby! Hell write a book!
Your hubby is strong enough to serve his country, then you have to be strong enough to keep the home fires burning (so to speak)!!!!!!
I don't mean to sound harsh, because I know it isn't easy.
The best thing you can do is to stay busy.
Start a journal, write to your hubby every time you really miss him, and give it to him when he gets home.
2006-09-02 16:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by suequek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the USMC during the Viet Nam war. The best way my wife could honor the effort and sacrifice I was making for her and my country was to miss me in every active manner. She took over the house hold and was both me and her in everything she undertook. Honor your husband by missing him in the most active manner you can. Savor his lingering presence in your mind: this will make you feel better and realize that he misses you more than you miss him; after all, he is there and you are in the comfort of your home and your country! Be proud he is doing what he is and that you are fortunate enough to be married to a man with a sense of responsibility, honor and pride! God bless him and all like him! God bless you! Chin up and stand proud to be the wife of an American brave heart!!! God bless America and all the men who risk their lives so we can enjoy the relative freedom we have.
2006-09-02 15:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi!
Keep a diary of your thought and the things you miss about him and the things that you are doing, so when he gets home he can read this and you two can share the sad times together. He misses you too. Be strong!!!
2006-09-02 15:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by -------- 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
aww I'm sorry to hear that just try some pm pills or when Ur up at night writ him letters or poems telling him how u feel
good luck hope u get some sleep
2006-09-02 15:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by lost in love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, you need to get some friends to help take your mind off of it. How long will he be gone? You need to stay strong for him, he has enough to worry about without worrying that you are not doing okay back home.. Stay strong for him.
2006-09-02 15:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh, baby, I wish I could go get him and bring him home to you! I want them all to come home!
2006-09-02 15:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by Judy L 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋