I have a Major crush on my best friend, (actually I think I love her) but she has a boyfriend. They only just started. I care for her too much to do anything, so I'll just wait till (if) they break up. What should I do then? Details Please?!!!!??
2006-09-02 08:37:35 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's ok. You are welcome to wait. Just make sure it doesn't get too late.
2006-09-02 08:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Eternity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait. Tell her how you feel. You'll miss your chance, if you don't. As you said, they only just started up, and she deserves to know. Maybe their relationship isn't all that strong yet, but it could grow stronger. If that happens, you're out. You'll drift apart as time passes. If they're already very close, it could be too late for you already, and their relationship was meant to be. But what if it's only a casual relationship and she doesn't have a clue how you feel? It's always possible that the two of you were meant to be together. Because you're already good friends, she could be thinking that you'd be the perfect boyfriend -- if only you showed more interest in taking it things to the next level. She could be moving on because you never made your move and she thinks you never will. If you don't try, you might always wonder. This is something you really have to decide for yourself. Just something to think about. But DON'T send her love letters while she's in a relationship with someone else. It's a good way to get your nose broken. Now that I think about it, you could end up with a broken nose anyway if you don't handle it right.
2006-09-02 09:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Frosty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, tough one. Any reason why you didn't express your feelings to your best friend before she got this new boyfriend?
Now, if you wait, you may have to move on, because they may create a lifelong committed thing. You know, they may never break up.
Or, if you express yourself now, at the beginning of her thing with this other person, you risk creating some awkwardness between the 2 of you.
My opinion? Honesty takes courage, but when you cut to the chase, you at least don't walk in limbo. Whether you wait until when (if) they break up, or you do it now (thus saving the anxiety of waiting), I really believe that honesty about your feelings for her is your best choice.
1) pick a moment when the 2 of you will not be interrupted
2) pick an emotionally safe place for both of you i.e. if you or she feels the need to leave, it's possible to do so easily.
3) lead up to the full disclosure by beginning with pleasant and humorous reminiscence.
4) be honest, and be prepared that perhaps, her feelings don't match yours exactly
5) if that is the case, be prepared to shift gears to preserve the friendship if it means that much to you
6) if she finds that she's willing to explore a romantic relationship with you - or she feels the same already - Yipee!
Good luck on ya!
2006-09-02 08:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you think you have a crush on her. Like you said you guys are best friends that means you share almost everything together. Maybe you are just upset because you have to share her with someone else. Why did it take for her to get a boyfriend for you to figure out you had a crush on her. But if for some reason you do have a crush on her. Well you just have to keep it to yourself. Especially if you see shes really happy with him. Remember before you having a crush on her. You were her best friend and best friends always wish each other the best. Their are lot's of girls out in the world but a best friend is hard to find. Do you really want to loose it?
2006-09-02 08:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Speaking from experience i think you should let her know how you feel. It is obviously to me that you have passion for her and love her. I think you should ask her if she would consider someway to break it off with her new relationship before they get to deep. (In order to try and keep this Calm and Civilized when she breaks it off make sure she never mentions you ...cause yall don't need any drama right? and you don't want her to have any drama i'm sure. )
Cause that feeling that you have in your heart has to be fulfilled by what you want right? You don't want to regret not pursing this and wondering all your life.... if i woulda told her... we might have been together today?
if you already have a great friendship then that is the foundation to the start of a good relationship. I'm pretty sure yall know one another pretty well right so go ahead try to get the girl you want. I did.
2006-09-02 08:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww. thats so cute! Well when u think u can feel up 2 it u should just come out and ask her(tha good part is she might choose u over him n tha bad would be if she said "NO") I'll i can say is it never hurts to ask?! Don't wait until she breaks up cuz she'll be on the sidelines tryin to getover what just happened! Then if she says "no"
2006-09-02 08:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Shorti4u2envi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm......this is a toughy. I think you should wait untill they break up, then you should tell her how you feel not right after they break up but untill she seems normal again. And if she doesn't feel the same way about you just stay best friends, it , may be alittle awkward aftet but if you want to know how she feels you have to take that risk of rejection(not tring to sound mean) Good luck!
2006-09-02 08:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by |katt| 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she thinks about her boyfriend truthfully. Do you trust him? If you love her you will think about whats best for her not what you want. I've been in the same situation before and it sucks because you want more than anything for that person to love you back but they love the other. Make sure to tell her things about her boyfriend she may not know. If you ever see him with another girl tell her just so she won't get hurt, not because you want to get back at that guy. If you love her you will do this for her not yourself.
2006-09-02 08:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by LoveLyLonEr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes waiting can be ridiculous and then the person you were waiting for is in love by then with the guy she is with now......*hint hint* tell her how you feel now....you don't want to think what if......don't miss on a chance now because you know you will regret it.....now would be the time to tell her IN PERSON how you feel.....before she gets too serious with this bf of hers...good luck and if you need to talk e-mail me through yahoo answers......:)
2006-09-02 08:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wait.... you should always tell a person how you feel about them.. what if she actually feels the same way but is to shy or afraid to let you know.... and this is time you could be together. Whats the worst that can come of you telling her how you feel. If you are that good of friends everything should be ok.
2006-09-02 08:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me. I told him how I felt before they got to serious. It was too hard to see someone that I care about so much not knowing how I felt. He liked me to and now we are going out. It's the best move I ever made. Even if she doesn't like you, you should tell her how you feel. Otherwise, you never no what could have been.
2006-09-02 09:21:55 · answer #11 · answered by babybeast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋