I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, basically i had a comittment problem with i was blind to at the time. I hurt her & i deeply regret it. We had been going out 3 yrs (we had broke up for a month after 1st year). I realised thru our relationship i was always holding back, but we always got on like a house on fire, we are very similar and were a 'perfect match'!!
This time since the the break up, i have rediscovered myself and getting prof. help to get over my phobia's and opening up to my friends and family which i was unable to do before. i was scared of marriage and kids! Now i am no longer afraid!
Now with a clear head i realise how deeply i loved her. She has since returned to my town and we have talked a few times about our suitation but she wants time out and can't promise me anything, although i know she still has feeling for me, but i can only guess she's scared of getting hurt again.
Q: how do i approach her in the coming months without scaring here away or is it all over?
2006-09-02 08:22:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes time just tell her you want 2 b friends and then stick 3 -b-ing friends(nothin' else)and if she comes around 2 wanting 2 b closer o.k. let her see you've changed(let HER SEE) and love her and treat her write be tender toward her if not back off dont push her.hope i helped!!!!!LOTS OF LUCK!!!!!!
2006-09-02 08:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥~Tiffany~♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you deeply love her is attractive enough to women. They love the fact that they are really loved and if you just tell her that--even if she is mad at you--she will be once more newly attracted to you. Its something we cant reisit. Plus the other fact that you two are a perfect match (which im sure you are :) you guys can easily get back on track because im sure she knows you were one of the best things in her life. Tell her you will never hurt her again because you do deeply love her. She will start to cry most likely and realize how much she loves you as well. Explain everything you have done--and she will wont you even more. Good luck!
2006-09-02 08:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting help why do you not ask him or her to have a joint session with her if she would go. She is hurt more than once and that;s a lot for anyone.
Approach her with a open heart and tell her you would love to work things out and ask what it is she needs from you. But please if she says no to you don't keep going If you love her she may need to move on
If this happens work things or with your professional person
2006-09-02 08:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of going through a similar situation...you have to da as the first person said and just be friends...if something else grow from it then it does...you will know. Let her know of your feelings but don't hound her about it. Either she will come around, or you will have a lastig friendship from it...and if you play your cards right you will have both.
2006-09-02 08:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Memigen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk like friends and tell her how you feel.
if she needs time give it to her.
but make sure she knows you will wait for her till the very end.
dont be stalker like or call her everynight
but nice things to do would be if she was sick bring her soup or
if shes having a bad day bring her flowers
let her know you care about her and will always love her no matter what happens
2006-09-02 08:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by adancez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional pain is the worst.Do you blame her for not trusting you.You have to build trust again and prove youve grown.
2006-09-02 08:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by ladypet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling her you are very deeply sorry try being romantic to her the way you first did
2006-09-02 08:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by lalalalallalalalalalal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to hit on her just be freinds and nice then progress slowly......
2006-09-02 08:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by :Just Me: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋