and I still am very uncomfortable about going into a group of people. I get so nervous and my hands sweat. I even have a family now. I dont understand why I havent grown out of this stage. I am always bombarded with judgemental thinking. I cant get out of it. How do I go about getting out of this stage and actaully thinking not everyone is out to judge me???
2006-09-02 08:05:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
By remembering that there are many others like you out there. You are special and have the sky as your limit if not beyond that. The world is your oyster. Congrats on your family. Peace and love.
2006-09-02 08:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you are so worried about what everyone else thinks. Stop worring about it. WHO CARES? Your wasting you life away caring so much about what others think. Get some counciling if you need to. Call around or even ask your doctor, or local hospital, there are some free classes you can take or even groups that meet and talk about this kind of problem. If you live in a small town that may not have this convenience, talk to your minister at church. You might also be surprised at how many others in your area have the same problem. Please seek some help. You are to young to be wasting your life away. Try saying hello to everyone you pass on the street or in a store. You will be surprised at how many will speak back to you. A simple hello can be a start for you...
2006-09-02 15:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might suggest getting out of the victim mode and become a volunteer. If you don't like the way you re being treated is called a bottom. Volunteers have choices. No is a complete sentence. Keep all you re yes's. Lear to set boundaries. Boundaries is how you you think you should be treated. And tell them. And continue to reinforce it. Eventually they will back of. The beginning is everyday looking at the mirror and tell yourself you forgive yourself. And then and some point tell yourself in the mirror you love youreself.
2006-09-02 15:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by seekerb1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't worry about it. Be yourself. Love you and everything about you. ALL these people you THINK are judging you, more than likely are not, you're just paranoid, believe me, they have better things to talk about...and if they don't, that alone only proves they have low self-esteem and it makes 'em feel better to degrade others. If people can't accept you for who you are, you don't need them in your life anyway. Here's how I look at it: If you don't like what you see, don't look, if you don't like what I say, don't listen, and if you think you're better than me, ask God...only he can judge me!!! Walk tall and proud, feel good, and enjoy life. It's way too short to worry all the time whether or not someone's talking about you - SO WHAT!!! Everyone's NOT out to get you. I said a prayer for you. You'll be just fine. You can do anything you put your mind to....everything's mind over matter....if you think yourself to be a beautiful person inside and out, you'll become that beautiful person - I PROMISE. You have to love yourself before anyone else can truly love you....God bless!
2006-09-02 15:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a therapist will be able to help you (I'm not trying to be funny, I'm serious). That is a valid condition and you can't work through it on your own, you need the help of a licensed professional.
I've heard of people having issues like that.
Good luck.
2006-09-02 15:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them judge... your not living their lives and and they're not living yours. Above all else, Live in the moment, rejoice in each breath you take, the next may not arrive. Your attitude about life should focus on inner peace and happiness.
1 more thing, love yourself as much as you Love your girls and the rest will fall in place.
2006-09-02 15:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many, perhaps deep seated reasons for THAT... I feel bad for you. A primary defense is to get a little rough... Thing "Screw THEM" And continue on your merry social life. The mental Profession will tell you many amny other things also....
2006-09-02 15:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by bart4play 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Yourself
(Small but Striking Eh!)
2006-09-02 15:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by hamzab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about your accomplishments & good traits, say power power power take some cleansing breathes & enter the room. I know how you feel but lifes to short, just have fun
2006-09-02 15:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy does it just chill out and walk up 2 everybody and say hello just b urself but dont let anyone look down on u 4 being u
2006-09-02 15:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋