I am 51 years old and have been alone all my life. I have been painfully shy around women all my life which has limited my social life. I feel that at this age my life is basically over and I will probably die alone. I just wish there was still something out there for me. Someone for me. I truly want to hold on to hope but I feel it is slipping away each day.
2006-09-02 07:51:30 · 10 answers · asked by phil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you are asking is to find a needle in a haystack. I would say most women are drawn to men who are more outgoing and have high self-esteem. There is nothing more attractive about a man than confidence. That said, rather than wish that you find someone who accepts you as you are, you should seek ways to come out from your shy and lonely world. You are missing out on so much. My suggestion, is to volunteer or work a part-time job where you talk to people over the phone. There's lots of jobs and volunteer positions where you will get more and more used to talking to people over the phone. It will help you be able to slowly overcome your shyness. Most shyness is really fear of what you perceive people will do or say. When I was younger and shy, I would actually feel like I couldn't think of a normal thing to say. But in a situation with people I was used to being around, you couldn't shut me up. I worked phone jobs and it really helped me.
It's not too late. Good luck to you.
2006-09-02 08:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Phil. Can I tell you a quick story? Like you, I am a woman of a "certain age". And like you, I always felt I was too shy to ever really have a deep adult relationship. I had all but given up, having dug myself into a hole of self-pity and sorrow. In short, I had done the worse thing you can do: get resigned to your life. Then one day, I suddenly turned a corner and found someone. It was that fast and that wonderful. We have been together for a long time now and plan to do so forever. So can it happen for you? Absolutely. Just don't keep sliding into that hole of resignation. Wake up! Look around! Make some changes. Try something different. Shake off the cobwebs and start breathing. The love of your life is waiting just around the corner!
2006-09-02 07:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i used to be while i became youthful. yet now that i'm previous, I do exactly no longer supply a rattling. Being shy stinks, and that's a high priced anchor around your neck the two socially and financially. I heavily propose you to seek for some psychological help in case you could in all risk arise with the money for it now once you're youthful - i'm assuming you're youthful. no longer doing so and final shy will fee you. Shy all human beings is taken benefit of in such numerous strategies that those strategies are uncountable. i in my opinion wish you could conquer this subject. It took me the final years of my existence to realize this. i'm so sorry there became no expert help while i became youthful. ultimate desires. i'm rooting for you.
2016-11-06 07:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join an internet dating site and that way you can meet women and take your time to know them before you actually see them and you will be more at ease ..51 is not giving up time bud,i live in riverside,ca come out this way and i ll take you out and show you how to do it! im 38 by the way..my mom got married again couple years ago to this guy who was 54 or 55 met him on yahoo personals..lol..you just need to either get hooked up or drink more..that way you wont be as shy and can meet tons of women..just make sure your ready( get in shape if your not,good grooming all that stuff) good luck youll be fine...it will happen but you need to take action!!!
2006-09-02 08:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont feel that way!
I met aman who's also in is 5o's and I'm 26yrs.old and I'm going to marry him, I've always loved older men, I once heard it's because I love my dad too much, whatever it doesn't matter the point is there are many more females out there like me who, want older men to settle down with and have afamily,
Dont give up, you just need to be open to new opportunity's if you want he could give you atalk, I'm sure he could help far better than I can!
if your intrested you can contact me, via my 360page,
he was in your position just the other day!
2006-09-02 08:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by coleman_debby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER give up hope.
51 is young, a lot of younger girls LOVE older men (I mean in their 20's and 30's not teen age girls btw).
First believe in yourself, the rest will fall into place.
2006-09-02 07:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by steveinprague 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's so weird about that? When the right person (actually, by your 50s there have probably been many "right" people) comes along, you'll both know. Also, you have the wisdom that comes with age; don't discount it. Good luck!
2006-09-02 07:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by ensign183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i can almost relate i am 46 and feeling like i am just now coming out of my shell. first of all accept yourself.reality and perception are not the same.how do you see yourself?how do others see you can be as different as night and day.
2006-09-02 08:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up maybe you can start by going online dating sites to meet a friend
2006-09-02 07:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by jb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit a gay club, who knows......?
2006-09-02 07:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋