My fiance is at the army BCT right now and has been gone a little over a month now I miss him so much he has 5 weeks left... each day is so hard I miss him so much. Dose anyone have some advice to help me get through this lonely and hard time! I write him everyday and he calls me about once a week...Help!
2006-09-02 07:32:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I've been a Military wife for almost ten years, so I know how hard it is to be away from the person you love most in the world.
If it makes you feel better to write him everyday, continue doing that. Believe me, those letters from you help him as well. Try to keep yourself as busy as possible. Spend time with family and friends, and focus on how great it's going to be to see him when this five weeks is up. And don't beat yourself up for feeling depressed or sad, of course you're going to....You're away from the love of your life!
Hang in there, Sweetie. I wish you both the best and a very long, happy life together!
2006-09-02 08:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With him being in BCT all you can really do now is find family or close friends to talk to in order to help you through it. Just be proud of what he is doing.
When he gets into the Army he will have to deploy sooner or later. Even though it will be for a lot longer then BCT the post will diffrent support groups and so on that will help you and allow you to get to know other people whos spouses are deployed.
2006-09-02 07:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with his mom, soon she will become your mother also. Learn the fundementals of becoming a good wife and supporter.
Get involve with the other Army Wives. Pick up some tips and encouragement ideas.
Take a class in Finance and Automotive Repair, believe me those two things will keep him excited!
Get involved in the a local church. Make no commitments, you are there for support and prayers.
Avoid gossips. Take time to study the ranks and the possible MOS he will receive. When he comes home you don't want to look liike the deer with the headlights.
Become his best friend and then his wife.
2006-09-02 08:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by tmcs1959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, my boyfriend spent 13 months in Iraq...it was very hard, but your relationship will grow through this. We used to say "If we could make it through this, we can make it through anything." And, it's true, we've been through some other tough times, but the bond that we established when he was away helped get us through those times. The fact that he is in the Army will most likely mean he will be deployed for an even longer period of time in the future, and you need to evaluate if you will be able to handle a longer absence...lots of women can't. The life of an Army wife is alot harder than people give credit for. I wish you well, and stay strong, if he is worth it to you, the gift of standing by him will be something he will not soon forget. God bless him and you! ♥
2006-09-02 07:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by ♥austingirl♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go to the movie, hang with friends, read a book, anything to keep your mind off of him. It might be kind of fun to keep a journal of what your thoughts were for each day he was away, and then when he comes home you two can sit and read it together. Also instead of focusing on missing him, focus on how soon he is coming home. If you change the thought pattern from a negative "he won't be home for what ever number of days." "To, wow he will be home in this many days."
You can also find some fun things to plan for when he comes home that the two of you can do when he gets there.
Good luck
Final thought, don't forget to be grateful that you have someone to share your life with.
2006-09-02 07:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience yea its hard for you right now but just imagine how hard it is for him with all those guys telling him that your with Jody by now and he should forget about you all the while going through a very intense mind altering training program which our gov is put for future husband through and by the way make sure you tell him you love him if you and if you end up letting the time apart come between you now thank god and wait till he gets home before you tel him he would deserve that considering that he is going to be putting his life on the line so you can be free and make sure he knows that their are more people in civilian land who appreciate his sacrifice i personally would thank him but i ll let you do it stand by him if you love him or wait till he gets back before you break his heart we dont need any more people in the military with mental problems and a broken heart will create some for that soldier at this part in his training trust me it took me 4months to get over a similar situation and it almost cost me my own freedom
2006-09-02 07:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by matthew_yelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Volunteer for a Family Readiness Group (FRG) event or activities. That way you will keep in the loop, keep busy and help the soldiers at the same time!
2006-09-02 07:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by shar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can send and recieve mail, You can also book a ticket to see him on "family day" the day before his graduation. Thats what we all looked forward to. We get like an 8 hour pass to go out on town with our families and enjoy life again lol. focus your energy into something positive like this.
UPDATE: DONT GO SEE JODI
2006-09-02 07:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my hubby (bf then) was in basic I had a job and a child from a previous marriage - so I was able to keep busy.
I also went out with friends.
Just keep on keeping on!
I know it's hard but you can do it.
2006-09-02 08:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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