We were together for about 3 years. This girl is beautiful and amazing. The problem is that I took her for granted, and I didn't treat her with the respect and care that I should have. Eventually I actually kicked her out. I am now living in a world of regret. Since the break up, she has slept with atleast one other person. At first I was terribly hurt and angry. After those feelings settled, I just felt sorry that I allowed this to happen. I also felt very sorry that I never treated her right. I am going to see her this weekend, mainly just to appologize about the way that I treated her. Even though she says there is not, I think there might be a chance for us to get back together. If we do, I'm afraid that she may have contracted an STD. When and how should I ask her about this? Should I even ask if she used protection? I don't really want any details about her and the other guy, it would hurt to much. Should I just ask that we both get tested , just to be fair? What should I do?
2006-09-02 07:22:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU BETTER SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE AND TELL HER YOU WANT HER TESTED. IF SHE DOESN'T RESPECT THAT, FORGET HER!! IT'S YOUR HEALTH YOU ARE PROTECTING!!
2006-09-02 07:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. read some of the answers to your question and everyone is acting like she did something wrong.. First off, you are the one that screwed up so asking ANYTHING of her at this moment.. would be pretty stupid on your part, insulting, and none of your business. That conversation should be saved for IF she decides your sorry behind is worth the effort again.. THEN ask the question and do it right.. YOU are the one who threw her away.. For responsabilities sake and courtesy.. yes you also get tested.. Don't let it even occur to you not to because do not ask for what you are not willing to do in exchange..
2006-09-02 14:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
Since u regret for what u have done to her, u dont hav to regret it for life. What u hav done is over. Take a new page and start a new chapter. Dont repeat the past. Learn from your mistakes. If u wudn't hav dumped her in the first place, u needn't have to worry about this. Now look what happened?
Since she havn't come to u, i dont think its the right time to ask her this STD question, bcoz it cud give her a 1 way ticket back to where she went.
So, first, approach her and apolojize to her for all the things u did wrong to her.try try try till u win back her heart.never hesitate becoz she cud test u to know u really feel sorry for her and like her very much.Try till she fall in your arms and burst to tears. Tell her how badly u r in need of her. and for that, u need some tatics.
Second, try to b back on track.
Thirdly, be the way u both were once,i mean like sky above and surface below.
Fourthly, Just tell her that u r gonna check or get tested for STD and ask her whether she wud like to join him and test it or not. Ask her in a pleasant manner and tell her its for our own safety. Sometimes,on hearing this, she might tell u the truth about what happened that night, or else plead to her to come and get tested, so that both of u need not worry about it in future.
Then the turth wud come out. becoz its very mean to ask her whether she used protection or not and its not a polite way to approach your lost love.
If the tests show her negative..........then u r one lucky guy. or else............i dont know how to comfort u. So trust in god, be very humble and kind to her in order to win back her heart.
Always remember, do not have sex with her with or without protection before the tests.its for your own safety. bcoz what wud u do if she is positive???
So always take into considerations both advantages and disadvantages bcoz nothing and nobody is perfect in todays world.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-02 14:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bravo mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a very delicate manner. Just ask that you both go and take test for your good as well as her good. You could put it like a fresh start. You are assuming that she had unprotected sex and she might have taken the necessary precautions. But try the delicate approach.
2006-09-02 14:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do get back together that means she's really into you and im sure she would want you to be concerned about your well being so be straight up ask her but suggest that you both get tested because im sure you werent a 'saint' while she was away.
2006-09-02 14:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by babybounce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you want to get back with her tell her then tell her that we need to get tested before we start over again and we need to trust each other well at least try to trust each other. Dude what did you do to hurt her damn she must of be a good girl and just got tired of your bullshit.
2006-09-02 14:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by karla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get tested together. Everyone should get tested every six months anyway. Just say you're going and ask her to come with you.
2006-09-02 14:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by phoebster818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, you had your chance now she's sleeping with other people. Do you really think she's going to tell you she has STD's What if she doesn't know she has anything. Most STD's don't manifest themselves right away. MOVE ON.
2006-09-02 14:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be better if u just asked her befor u and her did anything if she wanted to get tested just to make sure there was nothing like that. but you would have to do it to bc it just wouldnt be right if u just asked her ask her and see hope things work for u.
2006-09-02 14:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by tylers baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u ask her she might end up lying to u. Just ask her to get tested it's alot safer that way.
2006-09-02 14:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by boricua_baby718 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want both of you to get tested, be safe not sorry.
2006-09-02 14:24:10 · answer #11 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋