with a married man? He is my only lover in over 10 years and I am faithful to him. I date other guys I meet online because I am looning for mr right, but I am human and need intimacy in my life to and I don't want to mess up meeting a good man by giving into him sexually to early because I hadn't had sex in years. Most of the people I see or hear about have had a lot of lovers in the past years. They might have did it with single guys but it is still the same, sleeping with 5 single guys over the years is worse than having one married lover. People who shack up and have children out of wedlock are just as bad, don't you think?
2006-09-02 07:19:27 · 43 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As I already said, I haven't been able to find a single man who had time for me either. It is also hard to go from an attractive man who is my ideal , sucessful businessman, dresses well, etc to one of the hicks I continuously meet. I can't help it but I am not attracted to country boys who show up on dates wearing shorts and flip flops and drive pick ups. Not to mention most of them have facial hair which I loathe. I have come to the conclusion that the only way to have the type of man I want is to borrow one. The good ones are taken. Yes I know it is about personality and character but most of those guys want intimacy too and I'm sorry it isn't going to happen with someone that doesn't turn me on.
2006-09-02 07:32:28 · update #1
you are right gal. Belive me you are way better then the ladies who have sex with 5 different single man. the only fear i have for you is that he may hurt your feelings and i dont want that to happen to you my dear Cox you seem to be a nice lady who just wants to be treated right keep your man and when God blesses you with a single man in the near future marry him gal!
2006-09-02 07:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Alice N 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The very first relationship I had was with a married woman when I was 19 (i'm 34 now, and I've been happily married for five years). I do understand where your coming from. However, having a intimate relationship with a married person isn't a practice I recommend. If you really have deep feelings for this married man then you need to let him know that he needs to make a choice. He either needs to get a divorce, and be with you in a proper relationship, or your going to end the relationship. I think the real reason you don't want to engage in sex with these other guys your dating is because your heart is with this married man, and the idea of "cheating" on him bothers you. I wish you well, and I hope everything works out for you for the best.
2006-09-02 07:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not "All about you"...... you have to realize that you may be affecting a family, kids - everything. Of course, this guy is no prize - or he wouldn't be cheating on his wife. In fact, I'd never go out with someone who would cheat. Personally, he is a very weak man - and I guess I just have too much self-respect.
Truly, if he cared about you, he wouldn't be able to stay married to his wife. So, you're being used. The real person getting hurt here is his wife - The difference between a married guy and a single guy is that the married one took vows, made a promise, a commitment to another human being. The problem is really not you - it's between him and his wife. Men who cheat just do and men who don't - really don't - under any circumstances. Same for women.
Just remember, what goes around - comes around. Funny how life makes a circle. Better to stop this nonsense - and find yourself someone who is free to love you.
2006-09-02 07:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if this man were your husband, would you think it was ok to cheat on you. You are very foolish, just get yourself all tied up with a married man, and miss the opportunities to meet your future husband. Does it matter what other people do? You are being taken for a ride, and don't even know it. You will wind up old, without a partner, and too late to find Mr. Right, because by then you will be competing with girls like you. Hope this will open your eyes. You are only trying to justify your situation which is a no win relationship to you. Who wins in this type of thing, not you.
2006-09-02 07:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess.....The people who criticize you for this are mostly....married women...
Technically, what you are doing is wrong. You didn't give any details regarding the condition of their marriage, but no matter what, people aren't going to be supportive of this.
I am wondering 2 things...
#1 Why do you need anyone's approval? What you are doing isn't for anyone to judge. It is between you and God.
#2 10 years is a long time. If you are in love with this man, you should tell him and ask him to either get a divorce or move on.
It sounds like you have made yourself a little prison to live in. Life is too short for that. Stop caring about what others think and try getting to the bottom of how you actually feel and why it is that you feel that way. Good luck.
2006-09-02 07:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the point is, he's amarried man and there is another person involved in this, his wife! Is she aware of his affair with you? Imagine you were her, and she was you, how would you feel? There are plenty of single guys out there, why can't you choose one of them. Just because you say you are faithful to this married man, does this justify the fact that he is being unfaithful to his wife. I'm not judging you, having an affair with a married man is your decision, but my question is; why are trying to justify this relationship, by saying you are of a higher moral standing than girls who have sex with various partners. You are not in a position to judge others. You are a married man's mistress.
2006-09-02 07:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by sarkyastic31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are doing is most likely safer, but if we are looking at it from a moral standpoint, I think sleeping with 50 guys is ok so long as no one gets hurt. What you are doing on the other hand, I could people having a problem with it. You wouldn't have any hard feelings for the other woman if you found out that your Mr. Right had been cheating on you with her for the last ten years?
2006-09-02 07:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Chris D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are incorrect in your assumption that sleeping with multiple single men is worse than sleeping with one married man, and here's why:
If you sleep with one or 10 or 20 single guys - that is your prerogative AND there is ABSOLUTELY NO CHANCE that you're about to ruin an innocent person's life (here I'll spell it out for you - the WIFE).
Your cohort in crime is contributing to the violation of his marital vows. He vowed to FORSAKE ALL OTHERS...that included you.
You are a tramp - skank - sl*t - hussy for continuing this relationship because you are just helping him to F*CK AROUND ON HIS WIFE. Both of you are whores - plain and simple.
If you want to have sex with a guy, go find a quick screw at a bar - that doesn't make you a tramp, it makes you human. LEAVE the married ****** alone... yeah, I said ******, because that's what he is SCREWING around on his wife.
2006-09-02 07:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're life seems to be centered around this "businessman" who is married. That is just about the only thing you talk about. What else drives you? What is your passion in life?
I'm sorry, but you seem pathetic even though you may not be.
2006-09-02 08:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by 3eleven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married!!! COME ON!! YOu are messing with a MARRIED MAN! Someone else's lover. Yeah everyone of us needs intimacy. , we are only human, but not with a MARRIED MAN , that is just PLAIN WRRRRRRONG. Remember what goes around comes around, you will get yours too.
2006-09-02 07:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing girl u don't need 2 be having sex with a married man anyway...... your just horny and of course seeking a relationship..... i don't know how old u are, but beleive u me, you will find the right man when u least expect it......STOP looking and it will happen eventually i know because it happened to me...
2006-09-02 07:26:35 · answer #11 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋