I dont know where to start with this one and its really hard for me to talk about it i never have any1 i can talk to bout this i mean i have a best freind and she is always there for me but she thinks me and my bf have a good relationship and i dont wanna tell her he sometimes gets to mad and he will grab me or hit me im scared to talk to her bout it so i figured it be esier to talk to people that dont know us. anywho me and my bf got into a huge fight today just cause i didnt know what we could do and when he came over he was just saying a whole bunch of stuff about me like i never listen to him or i dont understand him that i have never cared or loved him enough that im he has given up everything for me and i have done nothing for him and alot of other things that were really mean and after saying all that he just wanted to leave when i was crying and really upset i mean i love him alot but i dont know what to do i just feel like everything is my fault im so lost right now ??
2006-09-02 07:09:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take this from a guy: When a guy loves a woman he DOES NOT hit her, or treat her badly! In fact when we love someone we would die to protect her from harm! In any case your guy HAS NOT RIGHT to hit you! He's endangering you and it's against the law! DO NOT STAY WITH HIM! IT WILL GET WORSE!
Now I know you are in a rough situation right now. I know it's hard to talk about, but you have done the right thing by trying. Now take the next step. Call this number: (810) 239-5433 They're about 30 miles away from you and they can help! Just give them a call. A lot of other women have been though this. They will help you and tell you what you can do to make him stop. Good luck! Oh and if you need her, tell your friend. Remember, real friendship isn't about the good times, it's about the people who stand with you at times like this.
2006-09-02 07:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. You are in real s**t, eh? I don't know if you are like me but I would sack the living s**t out of him. Anyways, he's probably stronger than you so... hmm... you should tell your friend. I have never been in this situation. How about this. Sit down and talk to him. Get him in a good mood. Tell him you will leave him if he doesn't stop. I would (don't do this) go get a bunch of my male friends to keep me safe and tell him off when they are there. I would tell him how he hurt me or how I hated his behaviour, not him. As for what you should do, tell someone close to you that can get help or you might get seriously hurt or raped or something. Don't be afraid of loving yourself. You are beautiful. Do what's best for you. You can do better. Why do you love him?
2006-09-02 14:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by sugarpiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please for your safety and emotional well-being, leave NOW! Your b/f has issues that are being projected on to you. No matter what you do, in his eyes it will never be enough. Do not let him manipulate you into thinking that you are responsible for how he is feeling. He is trying to control you and you will never ever be happy, in fact, you will become progressively miserable and die a slow emotional death if you stay with him. AND sorry to be so blunt, but maybe even a physical death. Please get some help. Tell someone right now that can help you get out of this relationship. A counselor, mother, mentor....someone!
2006-09-02 14:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by shar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl- u got a serious problem at hand here. first- figure out if u really like this guy or u are with him coz u think thts the best for you?
if u really like him tht much thn- sit and talk to him-AFFIRMATIVELY. he says/does these things to you coz u let him do it in the first place. b confident and affirmative and tell him how much u care bout him, and wht he means to you.
aftr tht tell him tht the kind of behaviour tht he is displaying-is not right and it disturbs you.
if he is goin to continue this thn u'd hav to consider whether or not he's worth staying with.
well. whn he listens to this frm ur mouth- he wud either understand and ask for u to forgive him, or he wud scream at you.
if he understands thn -good. u won.
if he screams at you- thn he's not the right one for you. there is no point living with someone who dosent respect your feelings. stop being a doormat .
good luck.
2006-09-02 14:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by forevr.smiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been through this, my friend is going through this... you just need to tell him as much as possible that u do care about him and ask him y he feels that u don't understand or pay attention to him and everything... let him know that he is important in your life, you don't want to fight, you don't want violence (physical or verbal)... and the only way to continue with a good relationship is to talk to each other and understand... communication is key no matter how corney that sounds
2006-09-02 14:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if it is not this problem, it will be something else, you need to break of with him. That is if you want to be happy, yes tell your friend, why are you protecting him. it sounds as of he has an explosive personality. Get out of their while you can. Find some one who can make you happy, that is what life is about. Remember you are responsible for your happiness. no one but you.
2006-09-02 14:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is hitting you then you need to get out of that relationship because it will only get worse,he is also killing your self esteem to try to make himself feel better he has issues that he needs help with especially his anger,and he's taking it out on you,you need to tell him that you can't be together right now until he goes to get professional help for his issues and anger,i was once in the same position and i thought that things would change on there own,but i was wrong he messed me up so bad that i was in the hospital for 2 mnths and near death,no one deserves to be treated like that.glad that i could help,anytime.
2006-09-02 14:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by B.B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First break up and if he keeps coming back get a restraining order. He is abusive. Then get serious counseling.
He has given up nothing, he justs wants to control you. Classic abuse relationship. Get now while you are still alive.
2006-09-02 14:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweety there is nothing wrong with u ok........It's all him he has a problem, & a bad temper also...... if he get's mad and takes it out on u by hitting you.....DUMP HIM fast before u get hurt....... HE'S NOT A REAL MAN !!! if he hit's you ,,,,, get rid of his butt !!! You say that u love him, it might hurt u to do this but u have to for your own safety girl...... listen to me i know for a fact........ you don't deserve this !!! You won't regret it at all PLEASE U NEED TO DO IT ASAP !!
2006-09-02 14:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus Christ why do women put up with this..hunni go to the police station right now and file a report for assault.
2006-09-02 14:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by mrs michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋