Hello everyone! I have a problem...I am wanting baby number 3 and my husband says NO. We have been married 10 years, I am 32 and my husband is 34. We have been blessed with two girls, ages 5 and 2. But I feel that I am not done having children. I would be hoping for a boy but if we had another girl, I still would be thrilled. My husband feels it is SO MUCH work having to take care of the girls and having another one would make it more crazy around home. Could anyone give me some advice? Thanks!
2006-09-02 07:06:44 · 25 answers · asked by shewild 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
aggie_87 hit the nail on the head...you don't want to jeopardize what you have with your family for another baby. Keep being clear that you'd like another, but also let your husband know that you respect his view. Sure, he'd probably love a new baby just as much as he loves your girls. However, if you got pregnant without his blessing, there would always be some resentment and bitterness underlying it all. I vote you don't risk it.
2006-09-02 07:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by shawnabobonna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be Thankful and Appreciate the Blessings you already have two Girls and a HUSBAND!!
The answer is No, since your husband feels that it would be too much work having another child (girl or boy). Do you want to be 100% responsible for a third child? Do not put your husband in a position of having a third child that he does not want. Have more social activities, inviting your childrens' friends to your house, you might have a change of mind.
Best Wishes!!!
2006-09-02 14:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are having children these days into their forties, so even if your husband isn't ready now, don't be too upset. Maybe with time he'll decide that he does want another child. Or perhaps he just doesn't want to deal with a newborn again. If that is the case adoption would be a wonderful alternative. There are so many precious children of all ages waiting for adoption.
2006-09-08 22:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by smittnwithkittns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have two boys, and wanting desperately to have a girl, but as time went by it became too late, and had to have a hysterectomy.
Talk to your husband and see how he feels in about six months from now, if financially you can afford to raise three children, and it is only for the reason of keeping sanity, you can explain to him that sanity is no longer an issue.....especially raising two girls.
Good luck with this, whatever will be, will be.
It's fun being a Mom, isn't it. The girls need a baby brother.
2006-09-07 13:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t know what to tell you, but your certainly in a dilemma if your want another one but he doesn’t. Does he never want another baby? or does he just feel right now is not the time to have another and maybe in 2 or 4 years he’d be ready for another one. Today woman even give birth who are even older then 40, sure there are more health risks but some have perfectly healthy babies.
I suppose you could if you wanted get pregnant on purpose and call it an “accident” but that wouldn’t really be fair to your husband or your unborn child or even your daughters.
2006-09-02 18:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is great to have more children, why does he not want more children really ? Cost, responsibility, another child taking your attention away from him ? he sounds like he does not enjoy father-hood too much though. Hes 34 years old, fairly young, I had two by age 32 and my third at nearly 41. I love it when the kids shout "hi Dad" ! he does not know what hes missing! give him some time to come around to it. Talk about his fears with him, it will work out believe me, if your heart is in it LOL!
2006-09-02 14:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Latin Techie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband said No also when I asked him to try for baby # 3, I had my heart set on a girl after having 2 boys, He still told me No, well, I told him, no matter what he got, I would get fixed, a few months later I found out I was pregnant............... I was going to give the baby up for adoption, cuz, I knew his feeling about another baby, but, than one night my husband came to me and told me if I really wanted this baby, than we can do all we could to have a happy healthy baby............ I have my girl she is 7 months old and I am fixed, and he loves her more than anyone in the world, besides his 2 sons!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 14:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I want 3 more to make 5 BUT its not gonna happen. Financially its not a good idea, I just had 2 babies back to back and my body is whacked,lol. Be happy with what you got cause let me tell you, my sister tried 4 times to have a girl, she has 4 boys, her birth control pills failed ( so she says ) and number 5 finally a girl.
I think maybe respect your husbands wishes for now and talk about it again in 6 months =)
2006-09-02 14:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult if you want a baby and your husband doesn't want one but this is a joint decisions that affects your family therefore you and your husband have to both want more children if you've both had a good talk and really thought out why you want another baby and why he doesn't hopefully you will both work it out
Look how lucky you are to have two lovely children and if they have a happy mum and dad that will make two little ones very secure
2006-09-08 13:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by miakaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the feeling of wanting another child, but if your husband doesn't want another one then it may be better to accept that. Do you want to put your current family at risk to have another child? Especially your relationship with your husband? Aren't your husband's feelings valid, too? Have you thought about all the consequences of having another child? Maybe this will help you make a decision. Whatever you decide Good luck!
2006-09-02 14:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Nena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋