well i married with a girl from california .i m muslim .it was jus a paper marriage , im in pakistan she is in CA. we havent slept yet .
now we started mail each other , she applied for ma visa but prob is that she is not that much interested in me like i wanted ,she is quit bore kinda girl . when i mail her some romantic stuff she reply me like i m not much romantic , she is doing job , is this becuz of job , is she busy over there ? i dun know how she lives over there .plz tell me wut shud i do ....m not enjoyin ma marriage and ma wife ..
2006-09-02 06:59:37 · 7 answers · asked by Arthur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She is probably very busy but one thing to keep in mind is that each woman's idea of romance can be completely different from the next woman's. At the moment, due to the distance between the two of you, it will be extremely difficult. Relationships, other than marriage, can be extremely difficult long distance so a marriage will take that much more work.
What you are going to need to do is communicate with each other. That way you'll be able to figure out what she thinks is romantic and what her interests are. Once you know that, then you'll be able to give more appropriate gifts and gestures of romance. Hopefully you will be able to be together shortly but until that time, talk with her - write letters, send e-mails, chat online. Find out as much about her as you possibly can and then get creative. Romance is unique to each person - remember that and you'll do fine.
2006-09-04 06:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with, this shouldn't have been posted under "Weddings". It would have been more appropriate under "Marriage & Divorce".
As for your problem . . . what did you expect marriage to be like when you're both in different countries? It's extremely difficult to make a marriage work when both parties live together, but to have such a distance, then it's close to impossible!
She is probably very busy with work and lift in general. You both need to discuss what you both want from this marriage and try to find some compromise. If you want this marriage to work, you both really need to be in the same country.
Good luck!
2006-09-02 15:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break it off and tell her to forget about the visa and find someone where you are and make a life of your own. Good luck.
2006-09-02 15:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U married now stand up and be a man!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-02 15:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by keygirl95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is boring, why did you marry her?
2006-09-02 17:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whyd you marry her if this was just ghoing to be like this?
2006-09-02 15:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Newlywed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy but take it
2006-09-02 15:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋