A couple months ago I met this girl threw a friend. She and I started to become good friends, and started to communicate to me that she wanted to have sex. I on the other hand wanted to have a relationship with her. She said she wants to be on her own and do what she wants because she is still in love with her ex boyfriend. She never told me this until a few weeks ago. My friends told me she was turned off because i got too attached to her. I look back and I may have but that is sort of because she is one of those serial flirters at the bar. Then things started to get bad and she started sleeping with her ex boyfriend and started lieing to me. Then she told me I wasnt her type. Then I told her i dont want to associate with her anymore. about 3 weeks ago. everytime she sees me at the bar she tries to talk to me as if nothing happened. We have similar friends and she tries to get my attention should i b her friend and hope for sumthin to happen in future or just keep ignoring her?
2006-09-02 06:35:08 · 31 answers · asked by canuck131986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're in the same circle of friends, try to be civil with her. You don't have to be friends and you don't have to ignore her. But certainly do not hope for anything to happen in the future - she doesn't sound like she's worth the hassle.
2006-09-02 06:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Leo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A serial flirter is going to look for the emotional thrill and not an emotional attachment. Part of her excitement is coming from your ignoring her or showing your independence. Her exboyfriend probably has that quality, but she thinks he sucks for some reason. If you can't provide that confident, independent, and "hard-to-getness", then he will.
The best thing you can do for her is to see other girls. That will make her want you even more. This is all about romance and sex at this stage. If you want a relationship, you'll have to play this game until you make her feel some other emotional connection through rapport, humor, and trust.
2006-09-02 13:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not worth it, But you are...
Keep egnoring her. If all she wanted was her ex the whole time and she was playing you and wanted sex right away then that is not a good sign. Bad girl. Keep 1,000,00 feet away from her man..Keep away. She only wants to be with you when her ex isnt around she is using you as a toy. Give it up. She already blew it for you don't go back to trash when you can have treasure! think about it.
Good luck!
2006-09-02 13:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to be her friend be her friend. Just dont hold out hope that she is gonna want to go further than that. She probably wants to get you attention again just cause shes a needy girl. I dont think she's ready or mature enough for a serious adult relationship. It sounds like she's just in to games. Your better off just leaving her alone.
2006-09-02 13:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice but don't get involved, she is too in to herself. You need a woman who wants what you want and doesn't enjoy playing mind games. The other girl thinks she has you wrapped around her finger and can snap her fingers, and you come running and begging for her love. May not be true but she thinks it is and tells people that it is probably.
2006-09-02 13:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just enjoys hunting. once she catches something, she doesn't know what to do with it, but she can't wait to be hunting again. "serial flirter" is an apt description. without the quest, she doesn't exist, socially. she'd enjoy catching you again and again, until something a little fresher comes along. Buy her a catnip mouse and ignore her.
2006-09-02 13:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by dimbulb52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what your saying nothing is ever gonna happen...sorry. i would just stay friends but keep convo a bit distant. "hows the weather" that type of thing. because if you see her in the bar alot it would makes things very aukward to ignore her...good luck x
2006-09-02 13:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by loopy lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she never actually steadily dated you, she hasnt done anything to make you ignore her. If you didnt want just sex, you should have just told her. If she said you werent her type, let it be at that... But dont ignore her, you never know when she'll want to have sex with you again! lol
2006-09-02 13:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by jamz2277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN AWAY. She sounds like a future headache no matter how this comes out. You can be pleasant, but under no circumstances should you have sex with her.
2006-09-02 13:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games with you, just move on. Talk to her if you wish but make her aware that you aren't interested in any type of relationship with her.
2006-09-02 13:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by ada wong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋