help ex trouble?

Question

i want to get back with my ex, i have a 2 yr old and im having my 2nd on thursday, he wants to get back with me but we both scared things wont work out again,

Answer 1

you need to look out for your 2year old and the new baby when it gets here.you must be stressed out coz a two year old will run you ragged.i remember answering you last week .i think you son is as confused as you are and maybe thats why he isnt sleeping.take care of yourself and your babies thats the most important thing .good luck thursday.

Answer 2

Well if you both want to get back together there is obviously something there and theres a pretty good chance it will work out. By the end of the week you will have 2 young children and need someone else to be there by your side. If things didn't work out before because of something major, then i'd just take it slow, don't rush into anything. Just pretend like you have never met before, by putting all that old stuff behind you. If you only broke up because of something small, than you should still take it slow but you might realise it wasn't worth breaking up over what you did.
All the same if he is the father of your children and he left you after getting you pregnant twice thats pretty bad. One thing i hate the most is when men get a woman pregnant and then leave, just because the woman is the one having the child they think it gives them more right to leave. But it doesn't. So girl, i would just think about it, it really depends on whether the guy left you after getting you pregnant or if you both agreed on taking a break. And also what you broke up about, whether its something big or small. You should definately talk to him a lot and don't keep any secrets once things start getting more serious. But think of your children, put them first, then yourself. If things are looking bad at the start, just don't bother, you've already broken up once and its not worth contining, just end it then and there and find someone new. Your children and you, need a father you can depend on, one thats there for you through everything!
I wish you luck and hope that things work out. You must be excited to be having another baby! :)

Answer 3

Life is full of choices. Some are easy, others not so easy. Sometimes we make the right ones. The point is we have to make tough choices everyday. If the two of you agree on giving this relationship a second chance then by all means try it. You have more to gain than lose, and besides if you dont you will always wonder what if and then youll have regrets. Being scared here is not the worst feeling you could have as it will help you guys to try harder. Like in life, there is no guarantee that this will work but if you dont at least try you will always be sorry. Do it for the kids at least. Alot of marriages do rebuild and sometimes are actually better then the first. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

If you really feel as if you can't live without him then give it a try, but because there are children involved you don't want to get their hopes up by letting him move straight back in and become "king of the castle"! You split up for a reason and if those issues are resolved then there is no reason why you should not get back together. Just take it slowly for all of your sakes. I would suggest not letting him stay over for a month or so until you are sure that it will work out and try doing things together without the children to see if the spark is still there or whether you are just trying because you beleive your kids need a dad. Good luck with the birth and the man!!

Answer 5

If you are both willing to commit to each other again then go ahead. Depending on why you split up you have to make sure that that doesn't happen again. Talk to each other about what you would both like to change. Make a verbal commitment to each other that you will try to make the relationship better, so you know both of you are on the same page. Once you get back into the relationship, try to notice when either of you are hurting the relationship, like bickering all the time, stop it immediately and try to communicate why it is still happening. Just communicate with each other as much as possible so you don't wear out the relationship again.

Answer 6

You both should get back together again, for better or for worse. Because relationships are all about learning the self.
We always see in the other the flaws which we do not accept of ourselves. The other serves as a mirror to see ourselves.
Face us as we are. Accept all of ourselves, and love ourselves anyways.
If you think you can run away by separating, you're wrong. You'll face the same conflicts in any new relationships.

Answer 7

I think if you both want this, then go for it, as long as you are not both carried away with the emotion of the new baby. Life is all about chances, give it a second go, it could be worth it.

Answer 8

You have to take things slow, do not rush into anything. talk, talk, and keep and open mind. Put your children first, this is the most precious gift God could give you. That is what is important, Want more out of life, be nice to yourself, and think of your happiness.

Answer 9

Personal experiance has taught me second time around don't work. But mate your choice at the end of the day. Good luck with the new babber !!!!

Answer 10

You could always seek out relationship councelling together. This will likely help make your relationship stronger. Maybe churches and community organizations offer this service for free. Best of luck.