I am a Divorced father who has his children from Friday afternoon through Monday morning every week. My parents watch my children for me (9&11) every week on Saturday from 9-4. I usually ending staying until 9pm on Saturdays. This week is labor day weekend, and I had originally made plans to stay late Saturday night with my brother and sister coming over. Because of the heavy rain, they changed everything to Sunday without discussing it with me. I have things that need to be done getting my children ready for the first day of school (Tuesday). They have pre-class projects to work on for class, and I was looking forward forward to spending some time with them before the school year throws everything into wack (projects, homework assignments, etc.)
My parents are giving me a guilt trip for saying that I won't be over for Sunday. My brother and Sister have no school age children so they don't understand. Am I right for not coming over?
2006-09-02 05:58:39 · 4 answers · asked by bjmarchini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do understand where you are coming from simply because I have 4 children, 3 of school age. It is a lot to do to get them ready. However, it does sound like your parents help you out quite a bit. Maybe you could try to schedule the pre stuff before the party and some on Monday. Sometimes we have to prioritize the very important things. Also, maybe ask your kids what they would like to do. I am sure if you write down everything that needs to get done, you can schedule and still make time for your parents and siblings on Sunday. I feel you, I have also been a single parent. People sometimes do not understand you are only one person.
Also remember, it will not be the end of the world if everything does not get done. Enjoy your family and relax.
2006-09-02 06:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by peach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your parents aren't under any obligation to discuss changing plans with you, so allow them that. And you are under no obligation to attend a get together if it interferes with the things you need to do with your children. They are your kids, and they should come first in your life.
To keep the peace, you may want to try to stop by for an hour, so the grandparents can enjoy the kids. But if you can't do that, you have no reason to feel guilty.
2006-09-02 06:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get everything done, and get over their, you will all feel better, the kids will enjoy a festive time with family, and you, make the most of life, and don't sweat the small stuff. Have a great weekend.!
2006-09-02 06:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋