We were together 2 years before we broke up I actually left him because he didnt appreciate me, never spent time with me,he constantly acused me of cheating when i suspect he was. He is a wealthy guy and feel like because he has money and business he is untouchable and i should feel honored to be with someone so established. After I left I found out i was pregnant i told him because i was considering abortion he disagreed and said he would raise my child but he has a daugther that he dont spend anytime with at all he pays a nanny to watch her. I call him everyday and invite him to every appointment he never come i am now 25 weeks pregnant with a boy. He show now interest i thought maybe because he has not been able to bond with me since i have been pregnant because i move to another city, so like i said call him daily and i even went to see him, sometimes i call him 5 or 6 times a day he doesnt answer or call me back. I've heard he is seeing other people but he lies about it.
2006-09-02 05:58:10 · 19 answers · asked by msrosie04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. Its worth trying. But always have a backup plan and consider his positive response as a bonus if it ever happens. Be consistent but don't over do it. Make your calls positive and don't whine or threaten. Be clear about what you want. (Is it spending time, help with money, etc). At the same time don't feel forced to like this person just because you are having a kid from him. Treat the two issues separately, raising the child and your relationship with the guy. Don't do anything drastic, just sit back and wait to see what happens. There is always a possibility that things would work out with time. Hope this helps.
2006-09-02 06:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by kevinrtx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not chase after a boy who is pretending to be a man. You should feel honored to be with someone so established. What a crock of crap. He should be honored that you are willing to take his crap, have sex with him and bear his child. He is a complete jerk and basically used you for sex. Why would you be having unprotected sex with such a person? If he has been with other women, while he has been with you, you can end up with an STD or HIV/aids. I could about guess that he is one of these immature idiots that can't possibly use a condom, he is too much of a man for that. You need to walk away. You should not be calling him or chasing him, are you crazy; he has used you. That is all. If he already has one child he does not spend time with, what makes you think that your child will be any different. What you need from him, for your child is financial support and nothing more. If he were a man, worthy of your love and devotion he would be there for you and be cherishing you and the baby. I don't know how old you are, but you have to be an adult now, even if you are not ready. You are going to be a parent, and cannot act like a desperate clingy little girl ever again. Of course he is seeing and having unprotected sex with other women, why would he not? He does not have enough respect for himself and thus for the women that he is "seeing" to only be true to one woman. If he wants to be involved in your babies life, other than child support, which you should be going to a lawyer about right away, then let him call you and ask to see the child after it is born. Other than that, walk away. It is very telling in your entire long question there is not one mention of the word love.....love....and respect the basis for a relationship .... He is not in love with you, he used you, degraded you, he told you he was better than you and you should be grateful because he has money and is paying attention to little old you. You should be grateful, and you were cheating on him....that is a line that boys and men with the mentality of boys use when they are cheating so that they can place the blame on someone else. It is crap. Sorry if this is harsh; but it is just cold reality. You were used for sex and now you are having a baby. Have the baby and raise the baby as your own. As soon as the baby is born, get some birth control for yourself, and if you do decide to have a sexual relationship in the future, its condom on or no sex. Make it your mantra. Birth control for yourself and condoms. Buy condoms that you can keep in your residence and in your purse; if need be so there is never an excuse. Until you find a MAN who is going to be your committed partner in life, and not just a booty call, do not have another child. Love and cherish your baby and good luck to you both.
2006-09-02 13:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man O Man can i relate to you. Been there and done that. Calling him all day, he never returns calls, he never comes to any visits, never calls you back, time goes by and goes by, next you'll call him to tell him your in labor, and i hope what happened to me doesn't happen to you when u tell him your on your way to the hospital. I won't get too discriptive cause i never know if my babydaddy will have a 360 soon which i think he might lol i don't want to shout him out. that was my first baby so i'll always remember.
i'll just say don't call him so much maybe in the morning and in the night or a few times a week but don't worry he will either decide to be with you again or not but, Because i know how stressful it is to be pregnant and not have the father to go with you on your visits i'll just say its sad but that is how it is, so plz accept it and while staying in contact with him. Stress is bad for your pregnancy. I wish you the best natural birth hun Good luck.
2006-09-02 13:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him again untill the baby's born and you need to do the DNA test. After that, you wont need to speak with him at all until the child support hearings.
He has made it perfectly clear that he does not care about you or want to be involved, but that does not mean he shouldn't support your child. Sorry if this seems harsh, but sometimes when the writings on the wall and people cant see it,you have to be frank. Let it go, he's the one missing out, not you.!
Blessings,
2006-09-02 13:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit trying to get back together with this guy because he has no interest in being in a relationship with you. From what you have said it does not sound like this is the type of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. Just because he has money and is established that does not mean you should be with him. It does not sound like he has many positive characteristics. Allow him to participate in your child's life and if he ignores your requests then raise your child on your own but this guy IS NOT husband or father material!
2006-09-02 13:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with him. His type are only into themselves. Get child support though. Stop calling him and have an attorney do all the talking, he can say you harassed and stalked him. You will probably have to do DNA testing, no child support order without it theses days for unmarried couples.
Also in court ask the judge to get him to pay all your fees and court related bills. If he contests he is dad he may haveto pay for the DNA. Depends on the judge.
2006-09-02 13:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why in the world you want to beg a guy 5 or 6 times aday to be with you . it makes no since and as far as him being better than you because he has money is totally ridiculous. he has responsibilities to you and his child and if he doesnt want to do that meaning what is responsible then you take him to court and get child support for the child if you dont want to do that put the baby up for adoption so some one can have the baby that will love him and take care of him. but please stop begging any man to be with you it is demeaning and desperate and just sad.
2006-09-02 13:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has had the chance to be involved, and decided he didn't want to.
You need to try to get on without him.
When his child is born give him 1 chance to know him, if he doesn't begin child support proceedings immediately.
Don't make the baby pay for his fathers short comings.
2006-09-02 15:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to awake to reality!!! The man was getting milk from the cow without buying the cow. Now that the jig is up...away he goes. Give it up!!! This man is a loser and used you for 2 years.....so why suffer longer? Stop calling him, have your ph# changed and/or move. You don't need him and he doesn't want or need you. Wake up young lady!!! Start a new life without shacking up. Pops
2006-09-02 13:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to let the loser go and start taking care of yourself. Be ready to have to prove paternity so you can get child support. It might be hard now, but you'll be a lot happier in the long run without him.
2006-09-02 13:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋