I have tried soo much too avoid her,,,tell her we need a brake,, but nothing works,,,I MEAN NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
I love her, but i just want to be free for awhile....i dont want to brake up with her,,,,but just a brake for a while........ ,,,,,Plz....help me out ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,please,,,,
2006-09-02 05:56:46 · 23 answers · asked by deadman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that you want some of your own time and make it clear to her you aren't breaking up with her.
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I would be glad if someone would take time to answer this question as no one ever answers any of mine
2006-09-02 05:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by god0fgod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your plan is: take a break, enjoy yourself, flirt with other women, do things your current g/f would not approve of, get away from it all... then hook back up with her like nothing ever happened? Have you ever thought that if you want to take a break from her she might not want to get back with you after you have had your break? All you can do is tell her that you feel this way, straight forward, and explain your reasons for wanting to take a break. Is it worth loosing her forever? Because if you want a break and she does not, then you might piss her off to the point where she decides you two are through. Relationships are about two people, you can't decide what happens. Try thinking about her feelings in this when you talk to her. If your reasons for taking a break are good ones she might agree with you and then life will be just peachy. Relationships revolve around communication, the best advice is TALK TO HER ABOUT IT and stop avoiding her. Grow up.
2006-09-02 06:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Guber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok..first of all..if you want to end things never ever just avoid or ignore her hoping she will get the hint. Actually be a man and end things face to face. Tell her that you appreciate the time you spent with her as a couple but you think you both will be better off if the relationship ended. Also if you say you "want a break" then she will stick around hoping you just need a little space then you'll go back to her. So unless you still want her acting like your g/f still don't use that phrasing.
2006-09-02 06:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by mrs michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously think about your feelings from her. Do you really love her? Do you really think that a break with fix any issues you have with her? Will this be the last time you need a break? How long are you thinking it will last? I am not trying to mock your relationship, I just think that you need to understand your motives. Think about that before you talk to her. Perhaps you don't need a break, perhaps you need to break up.
In any case, it won't be easy, because no matter how nice you try to be, she is still being rejected by someone that she cares about. That hurts no matter what. If there is anything in particular that is making you want to get away from her perhaps you should tell her. Otherwise, make it quick and don't talk in circles and repeat things that you have already said. Taking a long time to do this hurts you both. Say what you need to and get out of dodge.
2006-09-02 06:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIrst, ask yourself why you want a break. You want your freedom, yet you want to string her along? Or you are just tired of her neediness? Maybe you feel like your needs are not being met. Maybe you feel suffocated. Maybe you feel like she has nothing going on in her life but you.....
Whatever the case, you need to figure it out and be straight with her. Tell her the real reason that you want to "take a break". Don't take responsibility for her feelings. That's her job. Just don't avoid the issue by thinking "I don't want to hurt her feelings". That is a lame excuse, and what it really means is that you are too chicken to tell her. Be honest.
2006-09-02 06:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have told her and she egnores you that can become a pain I know.. But hey that really means that she really likes you and doesn't want to let you go. also means that she is absolutely obbsessed with you. You should watch that in a girl if she is that way then heck man you are a deadman. LOL..
Although, If you are avoiding her and she isn't taking in what you told her then you need to stop worry about her and worry about you. I mean if she doesn't get it then thats her problem but if she doesn't understand that then maybe its time for a third party to get involved get someone to tell her to knock it off and get a hint. She should of got it a long time ago.
But hey some girls are like that, I know one of them... But if she doesn't from then on and keeps on then file for harrasment. I don't know make it known to her that your serious!!
Best of luck!
2006-09-02 06:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit like you're playing games, ask her for some space, or break up with her if she won't listen. Being on a 'break' is not a very fair way to treat her. 'Breaks' never work. Be honest with your feelings and maybe she'll respect your need for your own time...if not..better off without her.
2006-09-02 06:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by curiosity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have your cake and eat it to.. If you do not want to be with her right now then you have to break up with her. Do not lead her around thinking that you want to be with her and technically you don't. Because if you did then you didn't need a break.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-02 06:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question. No matter what you'll do, higher chances are that she will be hurt because she feels that you don't want to be with her anymore.
Hmm... What ever you do, don't avoid her with out telling her why. Then she'll be suspicious of your motives and come up with conclusions that are way off target.
2006-09-02 06:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by chibimaru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be free of her "for awhile" that is not love, it sounds like she has an obsession with you and is smothering you due to low self esteem, what is called a "clingon". Tell her the truth, whatever the reason is and start dating other girls/women.
2006-09-02 06:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her calls, Don't answer the door when she comes knocking. Don't seek her out. Don't answer her emails. Don't call her.
Just stop completely. Sooner or later she will go away......for good.
There is no such thing as a "break" only break up
2006-09-02 06:00:58 · answer #11 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋