I want to go in to the Marines but I am a single mother and I feal that this will be the best for me and my son... can any one help me please??? I need infor mation bc/ right now i cannot leave the house bc/ were both really sick.
2006-09-02 05:32:29 · 24 answers · asked by Christina Maria 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Single mothers aren't allowed in the marines.
Or single parents for that matter
2006-09-02 05:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Being a parent in any branch of service is hard. Being a single parent is even harder. How comfortable are you with the idea of having to leave your baby with a family member for at least 13 weeks, while at bootcamp. And possible another 6 months (or longer) if you get deployed. It can be done. I know a lot of single parents who have been in the military. Why do you feel it will be the best thing for your child? Yes you have a roof over your head and free medical, but thats it. Nothing can ever give back the time you will loose with your child, just ask my husband he missed the birth of our first son and the first 3 months of his life. I'm not discouraging your decision but you need to speak with a recruiter and your family. You have to have a will saying when and if you are deployed an adult is going to take care of your child, so if you family doesn't want you to go, it may not happen. All the bases that I've ever been to have childcare (you have to pay, it's not free and not cheap, but it's good), that usually follows the hours of 6am to 6pm. You will work long hours and some weekends...depending on your unit and the type of job. Your best bet is going to be to find a good (meaning willing to work with you) recruiter and find out what is available. If you can't go Marine, pick another branch. They are all good. You get the same pay and same benefits for every branch. You may even be able to get a bonus. Feel free to e-mail me with more questions or information...I've been there.
2006-09-09 16:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom, I don't think I could leave my son behind to do this. In any matter it is really up to you. I hear airforce is the best to go in of course that could be bias. You could research the different branch's and see which would best fit your situation.
Is the finance the only benifit? What about the emotional stress that you and your child will suffer. Are you going to have counseling set up for your son?
Have you considered other options besides the millitary? College? There are scholarships offered to single moms. Ask your local college about it and any other help you could receive.
Are you making this choice with a clear understanding of the ups and downs? Are you making this choice by looking for other options before the final choice.
I'm not trying to talk you into or out of the military all I am saying is explore all options in detail before making a final decision.
Good luck to you. It can be tough being a single mom.
2006-09-02 12:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Christina. I don't think I can give you any hard information, but I can offer you my support. It sounds like you are making a really important decision in your life. I respect you for that. In fact, I respect you so much that I want to know that you are getting all the help you need in making your choice. I hope that you have good solid folks that you trust who can talk to you about it. Seek them out and make sure you have thought about what is best for you and for your child. You are deciding for two people now, not just one. Your little baby may be getting bigger, but you are always going to be the center of their life. You want that center to be strong and to make sense. So take your time. Consider all of your options. Look for the changes you can make that will get you where you want to be. It may be that the military life is only one of those possibilities. What is the real cause or you wanting to make such a big change? If the Marines seems like the answer: are you sure you have honestly asked the right question? Good luck. I believe in you and I will be thinking of you!
2006-09-02 12:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's that I hear? A toilet flushing the next 4 years of your life away?
Here's the kicker about the military- most people enter into it 'cause they don't know what to do with their lives or they want the GI bill at the end of their sentence. The funny thing is that they get upset when they actually have to do something military-ish like serve in a war. Since you're a woman and have a kid you'll not see much action and will probably get to something uber-exciting like serve coffee to a bunch of guys who'll quietly condone the abuse of women in the military and condemn anyone for speaking out against it. You'll leave after your 4 year stint, you'll walk away with no marketable skills. Congratulations!
Alternatively, why don't you go to college? Since you are a single mother you are qualified for like a bazzilion dollars of financial aid which you don't have to pay back (more if you're also a minority.) Often times you can even get subsidized child care. The idea behind all this is that they don't want single mothers taxing the welfare system, so if they educate them it'll prevent it from happening. And hell, if you qualify, take advantage of it!
2006-09-02 12:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by April M 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Join the Air Force. It's much more laid back and you only have to go to boot camp for 6 wks. (if it's still the same) so you don't have to be away for that long from your family. Mom's know best, so go for it! It's such a great experience and I promise, it'll be a decision you'll never regret making.
2006-09-02 12:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go Airforce, they are the most family oriented of the branches. My wife and I are Army and were told we had to wait a year to be stationed in the same country let alone in the same base. My Friend got his Airforce wife moved to his Army base and a job was created for her on that base in order to keep them together.
2006-09-09 02:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a tip from me.
Find a different occupation 2 aspire 2.
U'll end up in some God-forsaken Country & get more trouble than U bargained 4!
Find something safer, huh?
If not 4 U, 4 UR son.
2006-09-02 12:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You will have to sign over temporary custody of your child while you are in training. Go to the marines website and fill out a contact form
2006-09-02 12:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by bluekrjupa 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not fault a single parent for wanting to better their lives for their children, but be realistic is the military where you really think you can benefit you and your child the most. our kids need their parent/parents to be around for them,and it is my opinion and it is just that "my opinion" that you might be better off maybe going to college or finishing school or whatever your particular case may be and getting yourself established where you and yours have a stable environment to live in rather than giving all your time to the military. they have plenty of other folks to choose from rather than a single mother.
2006-09-07 07:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by ems junkie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you will need some one to take care of your son while you are in boot camp. Here is the link to the corps' web site it should be able to answer your questions or put you in contact with someone who can: www.marines.com
2006-09-02 12:36:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋