My 8yr old daughter thinks I should not help her in the shower anymore. I know she does not wash her hair correctly. I have tried to see if she can do it by herself and there is no way she is getting her hair cleaned. She has very curly hair and she doesn't even get the back of her hair wet. I am sick of fighting with her everyday about this.
2006-09-02 05:00:39 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i have the same problem with my 11 year old.. We made a deal.. She does it herself when she showers and our deal is that she take a bath once a week and let me wash it. I usually pick a day that it is looking very rough. Then I wash and rinse it very well. Her hair is not curly, but it is very very thick. This way i know at least once a week her hair is washed good. She has trouble getting all the soap out. Actually we've been doing this for about a year now. It's come to the point where she knows when I should do it and asks me. And she is getting better. Pretty soon I won't have to do it at all. Hope this helps Good Luck
2006-09-02 05:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by mommy of 4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 8 year old showers by herself and has been since about 6 1/2.
I don't think it's a huge deal if they don't do a fantastic job as hair should not be washed that often anyway. Unless a child is very dirty, there is no reason to shower everyday.
2006-09-03 01:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say by 5 a child is more than old enough to clean themselves properly, or atleast to the best of their ability.
Theyre also old enough to want some privacy when naked, so i think its totally on cue for your daughter to argue with you about being showered by her mother at this age. Its not a normal thing at all.
I would suggest, for the sake of her growth, and your rest, that you wash her hair in the sink a couple times a week, just to catch up on what she may have missed.
She's not going to learn how to wash her hair properly by having you do it for her. You'll have to show her how, and then explain to her what she has missed when you find she's getting flakey or matted.
2006-09-02 05:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is old enough to do these things herself. She is reaching the age where modisty is kicking in. My suggestion is this...tell her you will allow her to do it herself, BUT if she cannot do it right, then you will be FORCED to do it for her. Let her know that it must be really clean, and tell her that you are going to show her ONCE how to clean it the right way, BUT if she cannot do it right, then you will have to keep on helping her until she can prove that she is a big girl and can do it right. Then let her try...remember you gave her the consequence of losing her independance and I would remind her to take her time, and to to it right.
My boys are 11 & 13, and recently they have become lazy, and I threatened to start bathing them again....that was all it took.
2006-09-02 06:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age they act like they can handle it responsibly. There really is no perfect age when kids can all start doing their hair. Last week my 13 year old cousin had knots so bad in the back of her head, it looked like she was growing dread locks. It was because she wasn't being responsible and combing her hair everyday. She's not ready for responsibility. Sometimes we take for granted how much care needs to be put into our hair. The best way to judge is to see how well they listen to how you tell them to treat it and give them a chance. If they seem like they care about their hair and can take care of it, then they are ready.
2006-09-02 05:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mizzy Hunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 2. She still takes a bath but she washes her whole body and her hair. It just depends on the child I guess. Your kid is normal. Gradually ease her into it. Make sure you have one of those shower mats. I don't let her stand in the shower yet though. I don't know why.
2006-09-05 18:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no could desire to bathe your hair on a daily basis different than you artwork in a deli or a eating place, the place your hair might scent badly must you probably did not. in maximum situations, this is now not only suitable on your hair to bathe it on a daily basis,this is honestly risky FOR IT, using actuality- your acquaintances' mothers are suited- it's going to bathe the organic oils out of your hair, formerly than they have have been given the prospect to artwork their approach to the ends of your hair to moisturize them. you like those oils to make it to the ends, otherwise, you could become with dry, stupid hair on the backside. if your dad is an absolute skill holiday form of guy and insists which you only wash your hair each and on a daily basis, try warming up slightly olive oil interior the microwave for 20 or 30 seconds and rub it into the ends of your hair and leave it on as long as you like, even til the next day in case you like. try this some events a week....If he's now not insisting, then pass as long as you like. some people wash their hair one yet another day, some do it as quickly as a week. frequently, you will have the skill to have the skill to tell while it desires it.
2016-10-01 05:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do it, after showing her how to do it, and explain why. Then let her do it herself, and have her call you to check it out before she gets out of the shower, if it is not done correctly tell her what she still needs to do, and have her get back into the shower. Keep checking it everyday she showers, until she gets it right. Kids are smart, but do need your guidance until you give the "seal of approval".
2006-09-02 05:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by cccccccccccccccccccc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 6 year old takes showers and washes her own hair with adult shampoo and does a wonderful job, better than i could do fighting with her about it. but i think it all just depends on the child. i have a 5 year old who will only bathe his unmentionables and thinks the rest of it is my job.
2006-09-02 05:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before puberty, that would be embarrisng for her..
Go through how to do it, also, i like the comment above about one night you do it, another she does it, but if she gets into the habbit of washing her hair too often she could become bald when older. Hope this helps
2006-09-02 09:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by garethjones1992 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋