My dad said I should "thank my lucky stars and any other dad in American would tan my butt until I couldn't sit comfortably for a week." I don't believe that I think he is exagerrating and most dads aren't that strict. Am I right?
See the roof pretty much fell in this week because I got in school suspension for mooning a boy at school. My dad went in and got the punishment changed to other things. He was mad he missed work to come in and grounded me for 3 weeks, no allowance for a month, extra chores. I keep computer though.
My mom passed away a year and a half ago. Dad and I have gotten along well until recently, and I have to admit, I haven't been exactly an angel recently but I am pretty attention starved, that's all.
I don't like the no allowance at all and I miss my friends and boyfriend. I asked my dad if I could just get the butt whipping if I could get ungrounded and get my allowance and he told me no if he did it would be something we would both really regret.
2006-09-02 04:54:22 · 28 answers · asked by Lori 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a parent of a small baby right now. I know that when I was growing up, (I'm 23 now). My Dad did "spank" me. I know that you probably haven't been an angel, and maybe you need to start thinking things through before you get into trouble. There are a lot of things that a yyound lady MUST do to LEARN, but you know what's wrong and what's right. Just remember that he's your dad, and that what he says goes. You need to listen to him now, because you don't ever want to lose a relationship that you have with him. He's a great person I'm sure...just a little agrivated with your latest actions. Always remember to stop and think about what you will do in a situation, because it can and WILL always come back to haunt you later. You Dad is probably doing the best he can without your Mom around, so sometimes, you just have to do things his way. It may not be what you want for the time, but you must realize that he knows what is best for you, and he wouldn't ever ever do anything to hurt you if he didn't have to. Keep your chin up! Things will get better, I promise you that. You can contact me directly if you need further advice, or you need to talk to someone.
2006-09-02 05:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go Dad!!!!! He is trying to give you guidance and assure when you become an adult, if you become an adult, you'll have a good head on your shoulders. You know... have some sense? A punishment is a punishment. It is meant to make you think about what you did. If you'd rather a have a whipping than miss out on the fun stuff, how is that being punished? Plus you made him miss work! Then you have the audacity to ask for your allowance! Girl, please! He should have taken all your extras away. You shouldn't even be on-line. You said you are looking for attention. I think you need to go about in another way. Why not just talk to him? Tell him you are sorry, you respect his punishment, and you'll try to do better. Then do what you are supposed to do during your grounding. When it is over DO BETTER!
2006-09-02 05:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by decababe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is right and he does because he cares. But do not just go against him because he doesnt give you enough attention get counseling or tell him. Maybe ask to go live with an aunt who was close to your mom or an uncle for a while so you can learn about her.If your dad says no then do not keep rebelling against him be on your top behavior for as long as you can an if you cant any more than ask counseling at your school for help immediatly beore you take it out on someone.Then if he sees you made a big diffence in life,attitude,and grades maqybe he will let yu go saty with that aunt on breaks or maybe even let you stay up there over summer or christmas or just stay up there
2006-09-02 06:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by soccergirl1323s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is punishing you as he sees fit. The point of a punishment is for you to suffer a little bit in order for you to learn your lesson. If he gave you what you asked for, then that wouldnt be much punishment, would it?
Im sorry about you mom passing away. That must be difficult. Maybe you can let him know somehow how you are feeling. Misbehaving isnt going to get you the attention you really deserve.
Your dad is all you have now. Stay close and be good. Open the lines of communication a little bit and tell him how your feeling.
2006-09-02 04:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lori Amanda: a couple of things. Have you any idea how much your dad misses your mom. She was probably his best friend as well as his lover and wife. He is most likely still suffering. No matter what you think, he can no doubt see his lost wife in you and felt ashamed when he heard what you had done. He obviously loves you more than you will ever truly know and could not see you being punished. If you are attention starved do everything he asks of you and give him a chance to show you his love. Do not doubt it - he truly cares. The punishment he meted out is so superficial and although it seems like eternity to you, at your age it is just a split second............. Go on make it up to him, truly and sincerely apologise to him and promise never to do anything like it again................
2006-09-02 05:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since you are attention starved and you lost your mother less then 2 years ago I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Mooning will get you the attention you crave. Keep up the good work. I think it would have been kind of funny if your dad would have whipped your (bare) butt for mooning. If you need extra money cause he took away your allowance, you can just borrow a few bucks from his wallet when he is sleeping to tide you over till you get off the grounding stuff. You can have phone sex with your bf to help out there and keep in touch with your friends via electronically.
2006-09-02 05:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yikes, you definetely don't want to ask for physical punishment - that leads you down the wrong road. And he's kinda right, some dads don't care enough about their kids to even go up to the school, they'll just let you figure it out. And some dads don't even give allowence or care who your friends are. Your dad sounds like a good person but he just wants to act right.
2006-09-02 04:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by CR2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your mom. I lost mine too and well... But as for your dad. Believe it or not his punishment is his way of showing his love. He wants the best for you and he does not want you to have a difficult life and mess up allot.
My father could give a hoot about what I do, and if you look at my life I have messed up so much because I didn't have someone to teach me how not to, so I have to figure everything out for myself, and I am usually wrong. :) Your dad also sounds pretty wise when he says "we would both regret it" He does not want to hurt you, just teach you. He may not be perfect but definitely is allot better than many many fathers out there.
2006-09-02 16:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by crct2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lori Amanda be kind to your dad. You have both gone through a very rough time (he certainly has!). Yes you must admit that what you did was irresponsible and with all the other things he must have on his mind, these troubles feel a lot worse for him then what they really are. He seems to be doing his utmost to raise you into a fine young woman, who can take care of herself (unlike a lot of mums and dads out there, you know) and he seems to be doing a good job.
You don't want your Dad to go over the edge do you? Please take care of him as he is trying to take care of you. You owe him this. You are a family and you have to stick out for each other. You know what the right thing to do is.
Keep it up girl. You are OK.
2006-09-02 05:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by jimbomediterraneo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your actions, there are consequences..Why would you moon someone? That's just obscene. It's your own fault. Your dad IS correct. Talk to him though and let him know that you feel attentin starved. But seriously, getting into trouble doesn't help anything so don't go around mooning people or anything else like that! Never!
2006-09-02 04:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kiara 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋