My boyfriend is 18- four years older than me. Last week he asked me if as his going-to-college present we could "fool around". But I'm only going into highschool, and he knows how to do things I've never heard of. When his hands started wandering, I told him to please stop. He slapped me across the face and now he won't talk to me. What should I do-I love him!
2006-09-02 04:48:48 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know your bf and im gonna kick his ***. u have so many boys lining up for you, get away from him
2006-09-02 05:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by renthead 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure you are not getting love mixed up with infatuation. You are young and vulnerable right now. He is taking advantage of you and I will say you need to leave him alone. He is going off to college well let him go he isn't talking to you so what....... He should be putting his hands on you for any reason. I know me telling you to go to your parents is going to be out of the question and so confide in an adult that you can trust and aunt, older sister, cousin. He shouldn't be pressuring you do to anything that you don't want to do or not ready to do. If he can't respect you enough to stop when you say no you need to step up and respect yourself enough to understand that he actions are unforgivable. You have plenty of years ahead of you. Start loving you now learn who you are think about your future like starting high school, before you can say I love you to someone else who has the never and the audacity to put his hands on you. For the record though I am glad that you did tell him to stop when you did. Never do anything that you don't want to do and don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that you feel isn't comfortable.
2006-09-02 05:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Laila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, He's messed up.
You need to step out of this relationship and focus on schoolissues. You are only 14 years old.
No man can replace a diploma.
Love means:
Loving each other in a loving and tender way, it doesn't mean being slapped around across the face.
2006-09-02 05:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Dogla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he doesn't feel the same way he is cheap find someone and I know you will who will love you and not just want a piece. If he did love you he would know he has plenty of time for the other and just get to know you better until he could make a long term commitment with marriage and he would never slap that special woman unless it was wanted on the butt. You are way to young to get that involved obviously you need to take your time a little more before you get that involved in the next relationship but please get rid of him you are to special to let someone treat you like that.
2006-09-02 04:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by mikel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i need to ask u a question, why do u date guys that are that many yrs. older than u? Do u really love him or is it bc hes older that it makes u feel like ur somethin? I think if he respected u and wasnt just tryin to get with u, he wouldnt even lay a FINGER on YOU. That is called RESPECT. He smacked u bc u would let him get it in, well, if he loves u, he would understand that u might need some time to think about what ur doin, and u need to think is that how u want ur relationship 2 be? If u dont give in to him, he smacks u, im sorry, but i have a rule, if a guy lays even a finger on me, im done with them, bc it shows that they dont really care about u and that they just want something. Well, thats my answer. I just hope everythin works out for u, and PLEASE THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT AND IF YOU NEED ALL THAT ****?
If u need to talk to me, my email is cheer_red_chick@yahoo.com Good Luck With everything.
2006-09-02 05:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by cheer_red_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not old enough to know what real love is. Someday you will, and the right guy won't treat you like that. This guy only wanted a little action before heading off to school, where I doubt he would be true to you at all. Cut your loses, and be glad you didin't get hurt more. Good Luck.
2006-09-02 04:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get out of that relationship now and get him out of your life. He is not a real man if he hits a women. He doesn't love you the way you think he does, the fact that he stopped talking to you after you don't want to do anything sexual proves that. If he did love you the way you thought he did he would've respected that you don't want to do anything with him and he wouldn't have slapped you either. He's using you. Even if you do love him let him go, it's the best for you. You have to take care of yourself and putting up with his shi.t is emotional and physical abuse. No one deserves to be treated like that. Please do get out of that relationship for your sake.
2006-09-02 04:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! You should not be dating someone with such a huge spread in age, this is a good reason. I know you think you love him sweetheart, but you need to step away from that situation and don't see him any more. It's dangerous and it's not healthy.
Second, that's physical abuse and you need to really get away from him for that reason. I can think of NO reason it's appropriate to hit you, and I can't see anything in your behavior that would ever even PROVOKE someone to hit you. You did the right thing by standing up for yourself.
Now, even though it hurts you HAVE to stay away from him. Please, for your own good.
2006-09-02 04:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you like that type of treatment go ahead and get you head bashed several more times, What on gods green earth are you messing around with an 18 yr old raging hormone woman beater. set your priorities, go to school and don't start your life off with trouble. You really have so much going for you. and you did great for saying no, I am proud of you for telling him that . Loose that loser and get a better crowd to hang with. best wishes. B
2006-09-02 05:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by BONES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey chole i hope ur having a good day ,
i know u really love him but if he slapped u in the face or any other bad things i dont really loves u and what else did he do to u contact me and tell me everything i think what u should do is that u should forget about him and find a boy who really loves u. because no girl should be treated like that. and i know ur going to find ur dream man so dont worry and good luck from , alianis and angie
2006-09-02 04:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by gabriella montez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never ceases to surprise me how stupid women can be for love.
If he is willing to disregaurd your request and also hit you, then you need to get rid of him. This is only the beginning of your relationship, think of how bad it will get!
It could lead to him beating you, raping you, beating your kids if you eventually get pregnant... etc. Just think of your well-being.
If you really love him and he loves you, then tell him that you need a break. Tell him he needs to go and get help. And if he loves you he will and then you two can be together. If he doesn't, then he doesn't love you like you do him. And then he isn't worth it and possibly only in it for the sex.
2006-09-02 04:57:43 · answer #11 · answered by Yooper chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋