I do not want to get hurt or find a one night stand
2006-09-02 04:45:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, I'm sorry for your loss. I had a Friend that lost his wife 10 years ago, and It took him about the same time (6 years) before he was ready to date again. It seemed like the woman that he had been dating were very sympathetic in the start, but in the end I think they were scared that they would never fill the void of his first. We had talks about this problem, and came to the conclusion that he had to fully let his past go (but not forgotten).I honestly believed he was now ready to date successfully. 2 years went by and he finally did it, 5 months ago he got married. Now my Friend is my brother-in law. The only point that I tried to make is that you really have to be willing to start a new relationship and not work around a old one .
2006-09-02 05:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Billy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join singles clubs. Take you time. I know you don't want to move fast so don't let any lady wrap themselves around you right away! Again, take your time, even though there may be a strong attraction to a certain lady, take it cool. Be very cautious and don't let anyone be over-aggressive with you. There are singles out there that are ready to hook up quickly and before you know it you're a couple. You are looking for the right woman, you will know when the right person comes along. Also you will know if there are children involved whether you are prepared to accept this situation. Good luck, think positively, but cautiously! A new life for you will happen when the situation is right.
2006-09-02 12:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by busyfingers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so hard to find the right person for anyone these days. Im really sorry to hear about your wife and child. You are a strong man for surviving that. I don't know what i would do if I lost my children. Just have to try a few of the places that you like to go. What are things that you like to do? If you go to church try a local singles church group. Check online for Singles groups in your area, they have many things like that now. You will find someone that will be exactly what you want. Good Luck.
2006-09-02 11:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what you are going through, but my mother-in-law lost her husband about eight years ago and she was wondering the same thing for a long time. She started going to these "BE" weekends. They are for people that have lost their loved ones from death, divorse or other causes. They really helped her get an understanding of what she was going through. They also helped her start finding friends with the same emotional issues. She became friends with a man and they kept in touch for several years, then about two years ago, they started dating and last Christmas got married. She couldn't be happier with him and she is glad that they are together. I do not know if this will help you, but I know it did her and my sister-in-law. Hope you find someone that will love and care for you soon.
2006-09-02 11:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anita C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to say something that you may not agree with, but its said in the best meaning with best intentions, move on, don;t dwell on the past, you cannot chnage what's happened, while it is still part of your life, don;t let it get in the way of beginning again. There are lots of places now, where you can get to know women, workplace, local bars etc, singles clubs ( mind you I tried those, didnt like them), internet dating does work, if you keep your sensible head on...I found my husband that way, or rather he found me...thats three years ago and no regrets at all, don;t do one nighters, while they satisfy the urges, they dont do your head or your heart much good, please also, dont view each woman as a potential wife, just relax and see what comes...and best of luck, hoping I havent offended you in any way..
2006-09-02 11:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your tragic loss. The only thing I can suggestion is hook up by family and friends. Or trying the many dating services such as eHarmony.com. They are always bragging about how they put the right people together. You can also trying by taking the chance of asking ladies out that you find appealing and going from there. It will take time but don't get discourage.
2006-09-02 11:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, you must know that it's not easy no find what you are looking for. You might be lucky, you might be not. Try to be realistic, so what even if you get a one-night stand. What YOU ARE looking for is life, somethign that will make you smile, feel good, a friend. If you encounter some crappy people, it can't be any worse than what you have been through, can it.
2006-09-02 11:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry about yr loss.start going out socialising with friends,u probably will find the wrong ones at first but im sure mrs right wont be far behind them.who knows though,u mite find her straight away.good luck and i hope u find sum 1 who is very nice coz u sound as though u deserve sum happiness in yr life after being alone for many years.
2006-09-02 12:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by mizz1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was some magic formula I could give to you but there is none. What about trying something like eharmony. I have heard many people say they met their husband or wife on there. I am sorry you are alone now. I understand how you feel. I have grown accustomed to being alone.
2006-09-02 11:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am deeply sorry for your loss .. maybe you can find what you are seeking for in a grieving support group .. as well as yahoo personals. Good luck in your search.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-02 11:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋