2006-09-02 04:23:41 · 23 answers · asked by niceman steve 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
life is too short to be miserable and live in DRAMA. If she won't change.............NEXT!!!!!
2006-09-02 04:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think divorce should be the last option to look into. There are always ways of salvaging a marriage, but it takes some hard work. What's most important is establishing where each of you is coming from and what it is that brings you to yell at the other. Find compromise, learn to try to understand one another better and most importantly learn to communicate in a calm and rational manner. Yelling only brings your heart rate up, creates high blood pressure, bare this in mind in the future and you might not be so quick to start yelling. I also strongly suggest seeking professional help if you feel this is out of your hands. See a marriage counselor.
2006-09-02 11:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this be the criteria for divorce than atleast 90% of the marriages will be annulled now at this moment of time all over the world!The answer to this is given in our ancient scriptures which roughly translates that if one is shoutting (for any reason whatsoevr) and the other keeps quiet and just listens then the one who keeps quiet and listens has the knowldge equivalent to the entire universe which as you know is infinite.If you keep quiet (which is difficult) then sooner than later the other party will stop yelling just give a try.May god give you patience which is defined as a virtue in the bible,patience is virtue and virtue is grace and all the three togather make a lovely face.
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2006-09-02 11:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by sweet smell -removes bad oder 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you both should go into counceling and see what the problem is, so that you can both reconcile your differences and have a happy marriage.
I always advocate marriage counceling, before divorce, so that a marriage can be "saved" instead of two people going thier seperate ways and making themselves miserable and a lawyer rich!
Besides, the LORD joined you two, so, you should do your very best to stay together, as that is a feeble excuse for divorce, and mind you, if you "did" divorce because of that, then if you or your partner started to date again, it would be considered adultery by the words of the Bible...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-09-02 11:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends. If there are children involved then the couple should quickly seek counseling. It the yelling continues after a good amount of time in counseling, a separation might be best. If there are no children involved then it is okay to divorce if that yell er is unwilling to change.
2006-09-02 11:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the main questions he should ask himself are "Is this a good marriage? Am I happy in this marriage?"
If this is not what he wants from his life then yes, he should file for a divorce. There's no reason to stay in a miserable marriage.
2006-09-02 12:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...And I should divorce my husband for never remembering to lock the car doors, pull down the toilet seat, clean up spills and wiping our daughter from front to back when changing her diaper, lol...Come on, this is petty stuff! The way to get back at someone who yells is to ignore them. After awhile they realize no one's listening so they keep yelling at themselves and then get quiet. Once you stop responding to the yelling and no one's entertaining them, they'll calm down little by little.
2006-09-02 11:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by duvaldiva.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was "for better, or for worse" a part of your vows? Did you grow up in the Cleaver household? Everyone yells. Spend more time getting to understand each other's needs rather than thinking an attorney is the answer...
2006-09-02 11:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not on itself.
Though constant yelling by either spouse is a secondary action. It happens because of some reason, or reasons. THAT, is what they must address.
2006-09-02 11:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by MotherNature 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
raising your voice is a common form of showing emotion. however if this person has a problem with anger/rage, possibly resulting in domestic violence, or they are verbally abusive... well some people are into masochism, but if you are not, leave them, because they can only change themselves, and must want to change.
2006-09-02 11:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by ricie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did. Actually I cheated before filing for divorce just to get back at her.
2006-09-02 11:25:28 · answer #11 · answered by hpneil 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋