PARENTS: Do you spend time w/ your Children?

Question

i never got to really cuz she's always working and i understand why. i appreciate what i have. parents,education,home, food, etc.
just never really got to spend that time.
do you think this could affect your child as he/she grow older?
i has affect me. not in a good way. i'm 16. it's too late now because she's working,dad too,and i'm busy with school.
i'm not complaining. i'm just saying.

Answer 1

You say you're not complaining yet, in all reality that is exactly what your doing. Which is understandable. We pay the price, as parents and children for the Lots29 and South-poles. But, in answer to your initial question Yes, I spend as much time as possible with my 14 year old daughter, that is the only way I can help her become strong minded, with morals.

Answer 2

Well, I was a working mom when my daughter was young (she is 15) and I don't apologize for it. I tried to be a stay at home Mom when she was little and I was horrible at it - I don't know how women manage it, truthfully, if they are GOOD moms and I do know some that stayed at home and were lousy moms.

Once I left work, I was a Mom, 100% and we did things together. Yeah, so the house wasn't always Better Homes and Gardens, but we flew kites, picked flowers, played ball in the back yard, made cookies (and bread) from scratch. She learned how to help with dusting and folding clothes and grocery shopping on weekends. I read to her each and every night, from the day she was born, before she went to bed. We talked and we listened to each other. Her world was an amazing place when I took to the time - and that is what it is all about. In fact, her world still is an amazing place, but very different and much scarier now.

As I said, she is now 15 and we still talk about all kinds of things. There is a lot she doesn't tell me - heck I am her Mom, not her best bud, but we have open communication.

Her Dad worked a zillion hours then and works a zillion hours now, but can't understand why she doesn't choose to spend time with him when he is around - why she doesn't talk to him, but comes to me.....duh. He was always "too busy" and now it is smacking him in the face - not like I didn't warn him, but you can't tell some people anything.

Absolutely, it affects people when they get older. My mom was a stay at home mom and was horrid - my dad worked and partied with his friends (he died when I was 12). I made a vow to myself that I would not be the same way if I ever had kids.

Answer 3

Someone in your situation can turn out anyway you choose. Longing for a relationship either from your parents or a mate, can be time consuming and sometimes less than rewarding. It is worst to have them there and not have them, then to lose them forever, knowing you will never see them again. You sound like you could use a little more attention from your mother. Write her a letter and send it in the mail, that will grab her attention. Make sure not to be condemning, just let her know you missed all the things you could have shared with her. Let her know how much you appreciate everything she's done to give you a decent life, but you would give up all the luxuries for some quality time. Tell her to enjoy you while your there because it's later than she thinks and one day not so long from now, she'll be showering her grandkids with the love you need right now.

Answer 4

I have spent a lot of time with my two children. My daughter is 11 and my son is 6..I have been working at home since my daughter was 2. My son just started 1st grade so I am now ready to go find a job. I enjoyed being able to be here for my kids when they needed me. I do not disagree with parents that work. I know most have to or choose to. I chose to stay home because I did not want someone spending more time with my kids than I did. Now that they are in school all day, I can work while they are there and be home when they are here. They are good kids..Not sure if being away from me more would have made them different or not. I do know they appreciated me being here for them at all times.

Answer 5

I can tell that your a kind and considerate young man...great qualities, obviously your parents are doing a great job! I know how you feel, I was in that position when I was your age, my mother worked, she was gone before I even wok-up, everyday of my school life and even when I entered the work force. Be patient, all will be revealed to you as time passes so quickly. A suggestion you might want to consider - when all the "answers" have been sent to you - save them, review them, and pick out the ones you like best and find time when your parents are at home -like - Sunday - and let them read your question and the answers - it just mights trigger some one-on-one for your with your parents. Otherwise, keep asking on Yahoo Answers and caring,loving people (like me), will always try and give you helpful answers. Be happy and never forget that your parents LOVE you and its NEVER TOO LATE....

Answer 6

look man i know where u coming from and yes that hurt i mean i use to feel out of place when i hear people talking about how they family do all kind of things and when i see families together i used to just wish it was me. I'm not gonna say I dont feel that way any more cuz i'll be lying. Im 18 now and i think that older i get tha more i will appreciate life because it could have been worst for me but it wasn't
i believe everything happens for a reason and because i live my life by that quote i know what to do whaen i have a family and believe me i will be in my kids lives no matter what
so man check this out dont let this kill u in the inside let it make u stronger because we gotta be better for that future ya know
well take care and i hope things work out for u before it's to late just let them know how u feel

Answer 7

I spend a lot of time with my children. I spend more time with them due to the way my husband works. Growing up my parents were not around like they should of. My mom divorced my dad when I was like 7 and my dad was a drunk. So I never really saw much of my dad until after I was a teenager, and decided to move with him after he stopped drinking. My mom was busy attending school herself and I felt really neglected.

In some cases it could affect a child if they don't have proper guidance. I think I turned out alright considering I have never been in jail, never addicted to street drugs or prescription ect. Heck I don't even really drink at all. Just once or twice a year. I decided not to do those things because I believe my children deserve better than I feel I got growing up.

PS I don't think its too late. Talk to your parents and let them know how you are feeling. If you don't think you could actually talk to them, write them each a letter and mail it to your house or just put it someplace that they would be sure to get it. I did that to my dad once and it got his attention big time. He appologized and then had a talk with my step mother. So I don't think it could hurt if you write those letters. Good luck.

Answer 8

I stayed at home with my daughter. I enjoyed being with her everyday. I went to work when she started kindergarten and I work while she is in school. I am here when she leaves and I am here when she returns from school. I also have a great job that lets me take anyday off she has. I took the whole summer off has well. I think it is a sacrifice that mothers have to make. I love working but I love her even more. I understand when some woman have to work but I would give up things to be able to stay home with my child. I get sick of friends and family who say stuff about me and my husband choosing for me to stay home. They go out and spend lots of money and drive nice new cars but we could have that has well if I went to work full time. I think it will pay off in the end for my daughter. Talk to your mom and dad and tell them you need more time with them. My mom has never had a job and my family is very close. My husband's mother worked and their family is not close at all. Good Luck

Answer 9

I think it affects the kids. Its not always neglect. The parents have to work, and alot of parents BOTH have to work to keep all the nice things they have provided their families with. Its sad tho. I was lucky to have my mom all my young yrs. I am also a stay at home mom, so my son has me all the time. Now if I can just get him off the video games, HE might spend some time with ME.

Answer 10

I am a stay at home mom but I did try a part time job last fall and winter, but I quit to spend more time with my kids. That may not be an option for your family, but maybe you could talk to your parents and let them know that you would like to spend more time with them...I bet they would be thrilled. Maybe you could go out and do something fun on the weekend Every now and then.