how do you live your childhood like this? what effect does it have?
2006-09-02 04:13:41 · 17 answers · asked by jay Lo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm always accused of the opposite, being over protective, Even now my boys are 20 and 22, when they go out I always say mind how you go.
Today the news broke at work that a lady that works in the staff canteen, her son was killed on the by pass just yards from work yesterday, and It made all us mum even more paranoid, when my son went to work I said Mind how you go and come back and watch what you do in the middle.
I can't understand any one who does not feel protective of their children no matter what age.
You can have some of my love and protection, as would appear I have more than enough to go round. so BIG HUG, and mind how you go.
2006-09-02 05:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by angelcake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not going into too much detail, but my mum loves my kids and my ex husband more than she even likes me! I recently wrote her a letter and disowned her so that I can move on and put the bad stuff behind me. As a child, she was fine most of the time until I got to about 14 and then she was only interested in my brother. I left home at 16.
2006-09-02 15:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by paradisefound1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to admit that I came from a very caring family. I probably gave them more grief than they ever gave me, although of course I couldn't see it at the time.
An uncaring mum is an impossible burden to carry for anyone. If it is you that is suffering then you need to talk to a social worker, or a counsellor of some sort. Someone who can give you your self esteem back.
We can tell you 'till the cows come home that it is your mother's problem not yours; but being on the non receiving end isn't easy.
You need another adult who can be your alternative mum.Someone you can reach out to and respect. If you need someone you can talk to on the net, someone who will be honest and hopefully non judgemental then I am here for you, write to me at any time.
It may help you to know that in Muharraq where I live hardly anyone knows my name , they all call me "Mum"! 'Course it could be that Christine is hard for Arabs to say.......!
If it is someone you know, then be the best fall back position they can have and see if a female adult in your family is prepared to take on the role of alternate mum.
Whatever, it is a crock but it is not the end of life. Life just goes on growing and blooming in all directions if you allow it to.
2006-09-02 04:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F**k em, they shouldn't have kids if they cannot show love to them.
My parents are/ were proper idiots, never had the time of day for me bcos I had a mind of my own and didn't bow down at their feet without question like my brothers and sister did. I don't know if they are still alive and I don't really care.
The best thing to do is get on with your life that'll annoy them more
2006-09-02 08:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a mum like that when i was young in some cases it can not affect you but in most cases it does i still feel insecure sometimes and sad we all need a mum try talking to her im 28 now and im still not close to her dont give up hope your mum might need some support and love to. ps keep smiling
2006-09-02 04:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by melody3470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was a young girl my mother was an alcoholic and still is maybe not as much as she was but i still think about the times she put me into childrens homes time after time but i became stronger from her rejection today i have seven children and another one on the way and i would never turn any of them away or ever reject them believe me you will become stronger out of this just hold what pride you have left and rebuild your life for the best for yourself
2006-09-02 23:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a super mum, she is 87 and i am the youngest of six lads, im 50.
2006-09-02 04:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom cared about me in her own way....She and I loved each other, but sadly we didnt like each other....I rebelled, my grades suffered in school.......Why do anything to please her, when it honestly felt like she didnt care....There are lots of other things I could go it to, but mentally, physically, and emotionally, it made my life at times, screwed up. You really have to look for the love.......Sometimes it takes till you are an older adult.....My Mother was sick......bi-polar and an alcoholic.....I am bi-polar and nothing else...I look back on my life it hurts..I am not mad, just hurt. I guess my biggest wish, having someone, professional, to talk with about what was going on in my life, and help me to make more responsible decisions.
2006-09-02 04:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who's mother is like that.And her little sister was raped and her mother didn't even believe her.Now my friend's 17 years old, has herpes and is 8 months pregnant with a little girl.It has really tore her up
2006-09-02 04:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was young, my mom was very strict and demanded obedience, which she couldnt have from us. i was rebellious, so she resorted to curses and abuse. well, when u got cursed when you're young, you grew up believing you're useless. i was really good though at hiding my low self esteem, having good grades and plenty of friends..and none of them knew how broken i was back then. my mom's still alive, but things changed a lot after my brother died, that was 7 years ago.she's changed. i connect to her better now once i come to terms to my angers towards her.
2006-09-02 05:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by julita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋