Do you find it difficult to tell your children NO?

Answer 1

hell no.

I always say no first (usually verbally, sometimes mentally in my head), then think about it. If they can persuade me otherwise, then I change to yes.

Kids will NEVER ask you a question that is beneficial to them if the answer is no. (daddy, can I have some candy? - for example)

Answer 2

When I thought about the short term - their cute little faces standing there looking at me, their little smiles crumbling on their faces while their eyes filled with tears my heart would break and I would give in.
The funny thing is though - I went out into the "real world" and discovered so many young adults that I did not care to work with.
They always wanted their own way and would get very whiny and irritating when they didn't.
Now I find it much easier to say no because I am thinking of their future.
Instant gratification is not a good habit to be into.
Learning how to understand no, will be a lot easier when they are little than when they are big, at least when they are little you can hug them and dry their eyes with kisses.
When they are big - you won't always be around to pay their debts because they didn't know how to accept no - and got fired because of it.

Saying no also gives your child conviction.
When you say no, and you mean it and stick with it, they learn that they too can say no.
Say no to stealing that candy bar.
Say no to cheating (or letting someone else cheat off them) on that test.
Say no to the boy who says "if you really love me......"
And the ever popular say no to drugs.

Let your children hear the word no from you and your children will in turn grow to be the kind of kids the others wish they had.

Answer 3

No way. I say you must teach them no early. For example:
Teenagers don't accept no and may go behind your back. It is best to teach them in their early years.

This does not go along the same line, but I thought it was interesting - like I did not already know - however those parents starting out, can learn that TV should not be the babysitter.

For instance, my physician brought up a instance from a kindergarten teacher. The teacher has taught kindergarten for years and had noticed how much they have changed. So she did a little research on her own during the Summer, by watching the cartoons. After that research - she totally understood where the young kids are learning so much - so early.

Answer 4

It depends on the situation. If it's something that could hurt them or there health, like running in the street or playing outside in pitch dark (unless lights are on), or bigger things like sex, drugs, alchohol, and smoking, then no, it's not difficult to say no.

But if they wanted something at the store, and they beg and plead, then it's hard, because you love them, and you just want them to be happy, but then againg, diffrent families have diffrent finacial needs and/or statuses.

I know that it's not right to let your child get away with everything, but then again i just want them to be happy, but then againg, i don't want them to turn into snobs that don't give a dam about anyone else when they grow up. So I try to balance it. I give them something at the store one time, but the next time, they can't buy anything over $5. That teaches them that they can't alway get EXACTLY what they want WHEN they want it, but makes them happy at the same time. It also teaches them patince. For instince, if you are at target on one rainy april day, and they've been dying for that new barbie jeep that's out, tell them that you will get it for them for christmas. Then, christmas comes, and they are happy, while at the same time, they learned the value of patience.

Answer 5

If it's late and I have had a long day at work and then had to come home and chauffeur them around to practices and then feed them supper, then baths... and then I think I am this "close" to bed and then my 5 yr old says, "Read me a book, Mommy". Yes, I find it very difficult even though I know when I read him a book I am gonna have to read 2 more afterward.... In the same scenario, when one of them ask, Can we sleep with you and daddy tonight? My no may come to quick for them... lol. I just can't sleep with feet in my face no matter how hard I try. As far as material possessions go, if it's something they want really bad then we usually work something out with extra chores or something. If they aren't willing to work for it, then they really don't want it!

Answer 6

Not at all, but it is clear that A LOT of parents never let the word cross their lips. There is nothing wrong with telling a child no. It teaches them that they can't always have their way, as well as how to deal with disappointment. And in my daughter's case, it teaches negotiating strategies, hahahaha! It's amazing what she will think of to say when I tell her no to something. I think too many people are trying to be their kids' friend and you just can't be a parent and friend. It doesn't work that way, period. Good question!

Answer 7

Yes i find it extremely hard to tell my children No its so damn hard to say it i have no clue why, everytime i say No i feel like an idiot cause nothing happens, maybe the message doesnt get through or maybe because i am just a 15 year old kid and i dont have any kids yet.

Answer 8

I don't see why it would be hard at all. You're the parent. They are the child. You are the point of authority. They are the subordinate. You just fix your mouth into the appropriate postion and say, "No." And if they have a problem, you remind them "This is not a two way converstaion. I am the parent. You are the child. I said, 'No'. The conversation is over." If that doesn't work you threaten to whoop their behind. If that doesn't work, you whoop their behind. Then it'll work.

People have problems saying no to their friends. If you are trying to be FRIENDS with your child. You are wrong. Just like being freinds with your subordinates causes problems in the workplace, being freinds with your child causes problem in the home. Just tell them no.

Answer 9

Well not really. It just depends on the circumstances. Like if my daughter says "mom can I please have some Ice cream?" and it is before a meal I tell her no, but i will give them some after they eat their dinner.
Sometimes it is a question "mom can I watch this tv program that you so do not want me to watch", well then that is always a definate no and I do not have a problem with that.

Answer 10

No. Children have to learn things, they have to accept the word "no" when you say no. You don't want your kids growing up and not learning what's right and what's not right. You have the right to say "no." They cannot always get what they want but you have to explain why so they understand why you're saying no.

Answer 11

Not at all if you tell them the reasons.

It will get more difficult especially they are in their teens.

I will give them the space they need but with measured controls.