why are guys such A**holes and why do they have to act different around us when there's people around? i dont get guys my bf is always telling me i dont listen to him or understand him or care about him enough when i try my hardest to do those things then 3 hours later his saying im amazing and how im the best gf how do i beileve that when 3 hours ago it was different. should i believe him ?
2006-09-02 03:54:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, your bf is immature. guys will act differently around other people; trying to show that's you are not too important in his life. baby girl. you want to set him straight. either don't say anthing about you or don't say bad things about you around other people. you want him to be real around other people. this will get sticky so be prepare. tell him that sweet words won't cut it; just be real.
2006-09-02 04:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't speak for all men because this doesn't hold true for every man, this olnly holds true for your man seeing that your the only one going through your own personal relationship with him. I don't have a boyfriend like this. What he tells me is his word and he sticks with it. You don't need a boyfriend like this that tells you these things and then tells you something different later on. He has problems and he needs to get his attitude and personality together. If you have a guy that acts different when you two are around other people then this is not a guy you need to be with. That is one thing I have never put up with. I won't be with a man that can't treat me the same way he treats me when no one else is looking. I'm glad that I have a boyfriend that's confident in who he is, and a boyfriend that truly respects me in that way. I'm sure you could get a lot of men. Why not try to find a man that will treat and talk to you like your the love of his life everyday all the time. Don't believe him when he's saying this three hours later, because he's confused and he needs to get a life. Your too great to put up with this. You deserve a better relationship and a better man. Think about this and listen to your heart. Your worth it girl!!!!
2006-09-02 04:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man is not consistent with his wording, then there are other motives.
Perhaps he is being nice to get some physical attention and is a jerk to you around his friends so they don't think he is a "loverboy" - as his image to them is a "playboy" - a big shooter - a girls man. He is immature. Next time he changes stop him - no matter in front of his friends or when alone with you and say he needs to be straight with you are you are out-a there.
You cannot get close to a person that has multiple personailities as you will not know the one you would marry or get close too.
2006-09-02 04:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there's this one hot guy that only me and a few friends are around he's kind of quite and really funny, but then the next day he's totally out there and my friend thinks he's an a** when he does that, I don't but what I'm saying is that I can kind of relate!
2006-09-02 04:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol guys r seriously like that, n theres nthing u can do about it.. u can try to sit down n talk 2 him, but i really dont think thatll work. why dont u try like watching his patterns, i mean, does he say that ur not trying hard enough to understand him or care abt him after speaking to his friends or after a looong day of hard work, or does it just come n go? cuz sometimes, if hes in a bad mood or smth, guys take their anger out on others.. that im SURE us girls can relate to..
2006-09-02 04:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Macho guy stuff, gotta act cool around the fellas. Always seem to backfire on me,I gave it up.
2006-09-02 03:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Skeeter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can believe him. Men act differently in front of their friends. I have been married 30 years and he still does it, but that is why I don't go any where with him. He takes his car and I take mine. and never the twain shall meet.
2006-09-02 04:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hey hey hey hey, who is this ? serena ? is this you no way,,, ok ok i m sorry if you are not serena, but sorry, i m like what u said, *** hole... no but listen if you really dont listen to him then may be you should, coz i love my girlfriend so much that no one have ever loved any girl before or will ever love in the future. but sometimes she never listen to me and she never understand anything, i get angry over her but still my heart is like i love you ( her name) . ok dont think your BF is an a** hole, i dont know if he truely love you or not, but yeah if he is saying that u never listen to him then may be hs loves you and really wants you to listen to him and understand. coz wow your case sounds exactly like mine. Exception is i love my GF Hell mad.
2006-09-02 04:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Some Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't believe him he's an ***, just like any other guy trying to get some action, if he really cares about u he wouldn't be questioning u and how much u care about him
2006-09-02 04:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....if he really felt that way, he'd express it all of the time. Get yourself a new boyfriend, honey. Do yourself a favor and kick this a*ss to the curb. Godloveya.
2006-09-02 03:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋