Meeting my boyfriends parents, so scared need advice?

Question

My last boyfriends parents disliked me. Fair enough for silly reasons: too young, no degree, not posh enough.. But i'm still worried as next month I fly to Ireland to stay with my current boyfriends parents, its our first meeting want to make a good impression. Advice please i'm so nervous. I really like him and want them to like me too.

I have a good job, my own house but my problem is I get so shy and don't know what to say

Answer 1

aw, no need to be nervous. "meeting the parents" always brings a little bit of anxiety to people though. my advice is just to remember your manners and be yourself. If you try to act differently around them, they will most likely notice. your boyfriend likes you for who you are and im sure his parents will too if you just be yourself. compliments and good ettiquite always work for parents though! so you could add those in! good luck, you'll be fine

Answer 2

You must be pretty special to your boyfriend for him to be bringing you to meet his parents all the way to Ireland. I'm sure he has given you an idea as what they are like. I bet after the first initial meeting, you will start to feel better. Be yourself. Maybe you can let them know you are a little nervous and I'm sure they will do everything to make you feel at home. Did you ever speak to them on the phone? Sometimes you can get a feeling just from chatting. I wish you lots of luck. Have a nice time!

Answer 3

Just be yourself. If that doesn't work, just be yourself !! After all, who else can you be?? Just because the 1st set didn't work out, doesn't mean it will happen now. Most parents are always critical of whoever their child dates ....as if the person isn't good enough. The reality is that they just can't let go of their child (even if he's 40!!). So its not about you...any girl would get the same treatment. But just be you. You've already impressed the boyfriend and thats the most important thing. After all, he's the one you're dealing with, not the parents

Answer 4

Spend this month learning about some of the family traditions that may still be up-held by his parents. Different cultures go through different 'rituals' in their daily lives. If you know ahead of time, then you're less likely to get caught in an innocent faux pas. Learn what to expect at meal-times, especially!
If you do a little research on-line, then you can catch up on some of the local news of their region. It's a great way to show that you're interested in their lives, as well as preparing yourself for exposure to a different lifestyle.
And keep in mind what most countries think of Americans; That we are loud and inconsiderate. Speak distinctly, not too quickly. Try to avoid use of American slang. Keep your voice soft, not as if you're shouting over traffic. And be prepared to immerse yourself in their way of doing things! "When in Rome, do as the Romans do" is a good catch-phrase. You'll enjoy your visit much more if you participate in their culture, rather than trying to do everything the same way you do back at home!

Answer 5

most people in ireland are cool and welcoming, just be yourself with good manners, because who you are is what attracted this guy to you in the first place dont try to overly impress them if you dont have ajob or degree as stated in the question above if they ask just let them know that you do have goals let them know what your plans are at least that way they will know that you are working toward something. dont dress too reveiling it might be a turn on for the bf but maybe not for the family. it will be okay just breathe and be open and talk with them dont sit there with your head down and say nothing if you do they will think you are uptight. good luck

Answer 6

Be polite and compliment them and there place. Be mindful of yourself and when asked a question so not to ramble on, being shy is not a problem, most mothers like that in there son's girlfriends. Good luck.

Answer 7

Be pleasant, simple and easy in your adjustment. Smile at their silly jokes, add sensible conversation, show adequate interest in their family doings like their plants, pets, furniture, photographs etc.
Do not express very strong political leanings, sexual preferences, pet peeves or the like. Show them that you are intelligent, have opinions, think about the future, have been brought up with sound values and have a healthy outgoing mature confidence. Share laughter and conversations with your boyfriend and don't embarass them by being intimate or romantic with him in public. If they get you a bed in a separate room, just be game about it, enjoy the food served with appreciation and help a little about the house. BOL

Answer 8

lol something we all have to go through at one point or another...
Here are some pointers:
1) This is NOT the time for PDA
2) Punctuality is important
3) Wear something comfortable/respectful
4) Don't try too hard to impress them
5) If they ask you a question that you don't know anything about, say something along the lines of "I actually don't know much about this...but can you tell me more?"
6) Never, ever have alchohol beforehand.

Good luck =)

Answer 9

Just be yourself and they can see the person, that their son loves. Don't try to put on a show, or be different for them. If your boyfriend wanted you to be someone else, then someone else would be going to meet his parents, right?

Answer 10

you dont have to pretend to be someone else in order for them to like you. you just have to be yourself. you are already lovable all on your own without having to have pretentions. if his parents wouldnt like you as a first impression, dont worry because you have lots of time to prove yourself that you are the right woman for their son. and first impressions usually dont last. and if they still wont like you even if you showed them that your intentions towards their son is pure and true...dont bother about it. anyway, they're not the ones whom you're going to marry in the future so it is really not necessary. and if in the future you two will get married, they'll just be forced to like you anyway. dont fret--just be YOU!