i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and last night he got in a mood with me so i said am sleeping in the next room and he grabed me by the arms and through me back on to the bed not letting go of my arms then i started crying and he put his hand hard over my mouth so i could not breath so i tryed to get away and he done the same draging me back to the bed and this time when he through me i hit my head hard and he said to shut up because i was making to much noise and covered my face again so i got away and locked myself into the bathroom so scaired he got all my things in the hall and asked me to leave so i was packing my stuff and he came over and huged me and said sorry he dont know what he was doing it was like he was just a diffrent person i need help and i know i should stay away but its hard as am still in love with him this is not the first time he has done this before i have marks all over my arms now he said he will get help what should i do pleace help me
2006-09-02 03:44:15 · 30 answers · asked by help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, he could be bipolar. has he ever been really happy and then all of a sudden get very upset or angry for no apparent reason. for now i think you should stay away from him, but look into it, see if he has a mental disorder, it truly may not be his fault, and its the 21st century so many disorders can be aided. but be careful.
2006-09-02 04:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by gogo 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Oh sweetie, please open your eyes and mind because this is the beginning of Domestic Violence. Don't keep putting yourself in dangers way, and he is or can become dangerous again. If you can put your emotions of love for him aside and think about the trauma he just put you through you will realize that reporting it to your local police dept. would be the best protection for you right now. He could be bi-polar, and episodes like the one you experienced can and will happen again unexpectedly. For your future happiness and welfare stay away from him. Please!
(I have two girl friends that went through this same experience, they didn't leave the first time, not the second time, not even the third time, until they had to be taken out by Paramedics in an ambulance.) PS They were the lucky ones, they survived!
2006-09-02 03:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no excuse for domestic abuse on any level, whether or not its physical or mental abuse.
If he has done this before, than its a sign that you need to steer clear from him. It seems like he has these "rage" period and you are just letting him abuse you by staying with him.
I don't doubt your feelings for him, but your feelings along will not stopping him from hurting you again. You can not endanger youself just because you have feelings for him, you need to do the right things here.
Also if you continue to stay with him, you are telling him that it is okay to abuse you and later on make up with you; since you will stay and forgive him. Why would he want to seek help then?
You need to stay away from him and tell him that in order to continue your relationship with him, he needs to get help and show signs of improvement before you will go back. If you don't draw the line, he'll just think you're just a helpless woman that he can do this over, over and over again.
Think of your safety before your feelings, staying alive and well should be your priority.
2006-09-02 03:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey i hope you are okay!! the best thing to do would be to get away from him, i grew up with a step dad like that he was like that to my mom and it only got worse. If he would do that to you cause u wanted to sleep somewere else imagine what he would do if u did something socalled "worse" he will keep doing that and then he will always say sorry. The minimum you should do is get outta there, he is obv a controlling, angry man. and you dont need that stress in your likfe. Did you know that picking the right person for marriage makes over 90% of your overall happyness....and i have a feeling a man like that will definitly make u the opposite.
2006-09-02 03:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Follower Of Christ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea why you are asking this question. You already know you need to leave. Unless you want to DIE you need to leave. There is no excuse for a man to hit a woman and he has done this before. You need to run like hell. Leave when he is away and have no contact with him. He just may kill you. You have to be strong and do what is best for you. May God bless you now and always.
2006-09-02 03:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by altotazz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing you do is go to the police and report the abuse so when he KILLS YOU they will know that he had a history of violence! Now, does that tell you something? What is WRONG with YOU that you would let this man treat you like this? You need to love yourself and leave this monster as soon as possible. Godloveya!
2006-09-02 03:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Glutten for punishment, it sounds like you like it, This has happened before you said, I think enough is enough don't you. I would seek counseling, not with him just by myself, he has a problem but you have one of your own. Anyway you look at it is abuse, abuse that you should NOT be enduring. I know you have heard this before but love can kill and this sounds like one of those times when it might kill you. Get help and stay away from him. Good luck.
2006-09-02 05:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only going to get worse. Holding U down is assault. If you don't want to press charges, leave the loser and get help for yourself. Counceling and a restraining order. You won't be done with him until you are ready but don't you feel that you deserve to be treated better than that? The sorrys and I will get help are bull. He said it before right and did he get help? Put your foot foot down or pick them up and start walking.
2006-09-02 03:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by melkhel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say so, but I think he has a mental condition.
Therefore I can't give you the perfect solution of turning him into a normal loving boyfriend. I don't see that happen.
So he needs professional help and you need to get out of there quick.
2006-09-02 03:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Vage Centurian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
life lesson variety one: in no way direct any destructive skill in direction of a guy's mom. next why might you desire to be with somebody that gave you genital warts? It sounds to me that he has discovered somebody else, and that i'm so sorry. He made it sparkling he loves you yet that he's not in love with you. in case you rather fairly love him such as you're saying you do, then you certainly could desire to enable him pass. If its meant to be this is going to, and if its not then evaluate it considered one of your life classes found out. there is often somebody accessible greater clever than your ex you only could desire to attend. finally i might desire to assert, we girls each and every person is powerful creatures, we take the discomfort of toddler beginning, take pains of the coronary heart, and nonetheless are in a position to attain life, do not enable one burning enormous call be the concentration of your finished sky at this evaluate time. You sound rather youthful, so sturdy success to you.
2016-10-01 05:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is violent.A guy who can't take no for an answer is an idiot.STAY AWAY FROM HIM - unless you want to be dragged out of there in a body bag by the police.If i guy gets violent th e 1st time you are a victim but the 2nd time it happens, you are the enabler.DUMP HIM! HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU NOR RESPECT YOU!There are better guys out there and 1 of them has your name on him.Goodluck
2006-09-02 03:50:55 · answer #11 · answered by T.I 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋