alright, so this guy i have been hanging out with for a year now, i kinda gave up on, i really dont think that hes looking for a relationship with me, just for other stuff. then theres this guy whos a really good friend and we hang out all the time and hes so nice and i can tell that he likes me alot a lot but the only thing is that he hangs out with much younger kids then me, hes a year younger, and hes a very passive person. then theres another guy who i have been talking to for a few months and he has a girlfriend who lives like 3 hrs away. and he told me he didnt think is was gonna work between them, but there still together yet he tells me when i'm at his place that he really likes me and wants to keep me around. then the other night we kinda got in the heat of the moment and ended up hookin up. and he went away this weekend so i havent been able to talk to him about it... what should i do?
2006-09-02 03:14:56 · 12 answers · asked by Ashley Rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when he went away he went to a wedding for his friend. i was with him when he was booking the hotel. hes in buffalo and his gf is in albany
2006-09-02 03:26:21 · update #1
i'm 19
i'm not throwing myself at guys
the guy that i liked that i talked about last is going to be a doctor, the bestfriend is in a band,
i'm not pregnant and single
i have guys after me all the time and despite the clevage in my picture i usually wear t-shirts.
guys are asking me out but i dont go out with just anyone i mean i really like this guy.
and you dont understand that i get guys i mean i have a brother and most all of my friends are guys... trust me i understand them and know what there looking for. i just get caught up in emotions when i really connect with someone and i came onto him with the sex, he didnt come onto me... i was on top
2006-09-02 03:33:56 · update #2
OK, I understand the situation. Yes let the first guy go, he is not into you, the second guy sounds OK unless you can't get past his young friends. The last guy is not for you either, at least not right now, Just tell the last guy that when he is available to look you up. Stay away from him in the meantime because you are influencing a decision he needs to make on his own and it could come back to haunt you. Just go about your life and if he seeks you out then he is with you because he wanted to be. Good luck.
2006-09-02 05:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is complicated because it is a very complex process. If you were my daughter, I'd suggest patience, patience, and more patience and then a little more. Here's the deal. It's an extremely important thing you're doing. Why? Because there can be a great deal of pain, suffering and heartache if you and the other person make blunders. There is a reason counselors suggest waiting a long time for sex. (I know you din't bring it up--this is for illustrative purposes.) Getting the choice of an intimate partner is difficult at best so just keep looking and search especially hard for deal-breakers--things you absolutely don't want in a mate--lying, unavailability, abusiveness, dis-interest, disrespect, dishonor and so on. And always examine your standards. If any warm body will do, it's not a very good indication of compatibility.
There is no silver bullet nor magic formula.
2006-09-02 03:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you?
and why are you so anxious to throw yourself at anybody?
do you have low self esteem/ goals in life / ambition / taste in guys?
you seem like the type that gets pregant and being single and wonder how it all happened..
if you want guys after you
then you need to make yourself vaulable
that means your looks and attitude
that menas not to be a snobby person
but to be cool that a guy WANTs to be with you
and not just hook up for a night
you have low appeal if guys are not asking you out
don't mistake bedroom politics for being attractive
those are 2 different things
there are plenty of hot looking girls that a guy would mind taking to bed...
but that as far as they want to take it..
long term they can see te problems they'll be getting in to
so they become evasive once they have bagged you in bed for a few nights
so it how guys percieve you that will get the right type of guys asking you out
remember you control that part
2006-09-02 03:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first thing, you don't want to be called "the other woman." On the other hand it seems that you "hooked up" because of certain things and it could be more of a physical thing. I may be wrong b/c I don't know the whole scenerio. But it depends on what kind of chance you want to take.
2006-09-02 03:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by whackiejackies 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus choose one person to b with. u have gotta b lookin 4 the 1 at your age and not b tryn to get with jus any1. i say you go with the guy who is like your best friend. the other guy u hooked up wit is jus tryn to get in your pants, whick i guess happend. but look you need to take some tim 4 you and chill till all this blows ova. put yourself frist.
Good luck
2006-09-02 03:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by dukebrothafosho 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, never hook up with another girls guy. What is wrong with you people. Would you want someone to do that to you. I would stay away from him. That isn't fair to his girl.
2006-09-02 03:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always that way. When your looking for anything you can't find it and when your not looking it shows up. Just life funny way of making us wait.
2006-09-02 03:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first find a b/f that dont have a g/f already. i bet he went to see his g/f when he went away. there are other guy out there. if you like to chat email me.
2006-09-02 03:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait until he comes back and see if he contacts you... if he doesn't, he was just using you... :(
sounds like you need to stop worrying about finding someone... just let it happen... if you are good looking, it will happen...
2006-09-02 03:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just use him for booty calls and forget the rest
2006-09-02 03:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋