A guy and I both want to meet for our first sex, and he's the one who wanted it in the first place. Yet he seems very self conscious about the size of his penis. He kept telling me that I had missed my chances for bigger ones, although I told him the "size" did NOT matter. I only want a gentle lover who knows how to do the job, but he still made the same excuse to put me off. In addition, he also said that I wouldn't find him handsome enough to be turned on. What does this guy make you feel? Too self conscious or what? How about his self-esteem? Why do most guys seem to feel that women prefer bigger and longer penises when it's not true? Thanks for your input.
2006-09-02 03:11:33 · 19 answers · asked by prudence z 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out together---share mutual interests, laughter and activities. Don't plan and go for a sexual encounter---it is unromantic and unfulfilling. Build up to the big event with days of intimacies, foreplay, teasing, casual touches and verbal flirting. Don't discuss size and nitty gritties like you are shopping for a steak or sneakers.
Let the romance build up and go with the flow.
2006-09-02 03:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he has problems in both of these areas to me. Guys want a bigger penis no matter how large their penis might be already. I know this because my boyfriend clues me in on how the male mind works. They always feel they need to have a bigger penis. If this guy is putting you off all the time then go and do your own thing somewhere else. You don't need to sit back and hear his petty excuses about his own penis when you have told him his size doesn't matter. If he can't have some positivity about his own penis and put aside his own insecurities then he's going to miss out on great women and great sex too.
2006-09-02 10:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what I can tell he is just really anxious. With guys they may suggest things, like 3somes and other sex acts. But usually they will suggest it if they don't think they'll get it. So in this case, he didn't think you would agree to being each other's first and now he is wigging out and realizing that he might let you down by not being big enough or attractive enough for you. And for most guys no matter how much you verbally convince him its not going to change his mind. So try showing him in other ways that he big enough and sexy enough for you. Like saying how amazing he feels in your hands when you are caressing him or how hot he looks when he is about to orgasm. Those are just examples but anything that will boost is confidence up til he feels like a super star.
2006-09-02 10:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a little of both. It's a great thing for guys to have a big penis. I mean that's basically the one asset they can brag about! Just invite him over or whatever and make the first move! Good luck!
2006-09-02 10:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Staccato 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All guys including girls are self conscious when it comes to sex. In some way everyone (including the ones full of themselves) are afraid of denial. Until you prove to him you are satisfied with him the way he is, he will always feel like that . If that is not the case then he just wants to hear how much you like him.
2006-09-02 10:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by crafts c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Better take him to separate place saying not about sex as if as a walk.
once u find ur ready then u try on him nakedly once u turned on he may be too on with out bothering the penis size and without dress to.
oops find it separate since 2 r naked or it may problem 4 u only.
if it does not work take him with u to my room i will show him how to do it with u.
2006-09-02 10:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sampath 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is playing on your pitty and he has low self esteem, If you want this be a little more aggresive with him and put it on him. He may not realize that he can get it yet. Either way good luck.
2006-09-02 12:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are one and the same. try meeting a guy to date, or at least just hang out with. then see what happens. you can't plan sex with someone you've never met. that's just way too awkward, especially since it's his first time too. later you can talk about while you're out with your boyfriend at some party, but you'll change your mind when the two of you get home anyway. but that's later.
2006-09-02 10:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by That Guy Drew 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Kid's watching too much Jon B'Kok films. He self concious about his lill buddy. If he continues to be this way, throw it away cuz it'll never be gone.
An old buddy of mine brags about how small he was. BUT the girls loved him.
2006-09-02 10:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by James S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's noot about the size of him but whethter or not he knows how to use it, this guy is definetly self-concious maybe somone made funof the size and he can't get over it
2006-09-02 10:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by dark rockchick 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋