I´ve found this wonderful man in the net, so I´ve never met him. we´ve wrote few mails and I really like him. He wants to meet. The problem is he doesn´t want to meet in public, what do I do?
2006-09-02 02:44:52 · 25 answers · asked by hl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on,he could look like the north end of a southbound moose and smell like a 1964 Buick.
2006-09-02 02:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever meet a man for the first time alone and not in a very public place. It's incredibly dangerous. But if you must. Find out all his info first and give it to a friend just in case. Make sure that phone number and name he gives you is a good one! And work out some kind of system where you call that friend at certain times to let her know that you're ok. That way if she can't get in touch with you, she has enough info for the police. Insist on meeting him in a public place in broad daylight and after the date, don't go home. He could follow you and hence find out where you live. Don't forget to bring the mace! If he really is genuine and not some crazed mass murderer, then he won't mind all the precautions. Good luck. Or you could have a friend follow you around on your date from a distance, but that's kind of weird.
2006-09-02 02:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by waterlogged1214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should you NOT meet him privately for the first time, you should also bring a friend for back-up. You can still have a private conversation in a public place like a coffee shop or food court in a mall, and your friend can sit a few tables away if needed.
As you can tell from the other answers, I am not the only one concerned by this. I can't think of any legitimate reason he doesn't want to meet you in public except he is married or he intends to do you harm. This doesn't make him a "wonderful" man. Be careful!!
2006-09-02 02:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by RDW928 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man says that he does not want to meet publicly means "DANGER". So what do you do when you see the "DANGER" sign. STAY AWAY, that is what it means.
A wonderful man you say....I believed you already know what he wants and where he hope to meet you and what is going to happen next. Unless you are up to it you may go but if you are not that sort of person. YOU SHOULD NOT MEET OR EVEN REPLY BECAUSE IT IS BAD NEWS.
Once you reply, he will find other ways to get you to the place that he wants. And when that happens, all he wants is to get into your pants. You know it and I know you do but the only problem is anything more then that is beyond our imagination. THINK ABOUT IT AGAIN.
2006-09-02 02:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you do not meet him as he has something to hide. He may be someone you will certainly not be safe with or has something to hide, such as he is married or has a partner. Steer clear. You need to be really careful meeting off the net, ensure you have people who know where you are and will call or come with you for first meet and be able to check out his identity through home address or phone number. If he wants to meet he should not be shy of giving details to you or meeting in public. Also it is much safer to meet in daylight in a busy place. Take Care.
2006-09-02 02:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the Mom in me talking "NO" How do you know he is a wonderful man (for that matter, how do you know I'm a Mom). By meeting him alone you have no backup if he turns out to be dangerous. Use your common sense, you only know him through a few e-mails, you don't really know him at all.
If you really feel that you have to meet him, insist and stick with it, that it is in a public place (like a Denny's), and bring a few of your friends with you. Tell your friends that no matter what you say they are not to let you go off alone with this guy.
A sad, but true, story is a friend of mine's gf daughter went to a bar to meet a guy she didn't know, with her friends, she talked to friends into letting her leave with him. They found her dead. Please be careful.
2006-09-02 02:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Meeting should always begin in public places. If your comfortable later you can always have another date at a park, which isn't as crowded or other places. Remember to be careful and try to be safe. Good Luck!
2006-09-02 02:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't exactly meet him, considering the fact that these days there are some strange men who are going around just to have some sex or do some strange thing. Because he doesn't want to meet in public, it makes it all the more suspicious. But be my guest.
2006-09-02 02:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Chop J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are his reasons for not meeting in public? has he given any explanation? if not, then probably he just wants sex. a few mails are not enough to really know a person. either ask him to meet in public, or ask him to wait until you know him better.
2006-09-02 02:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by publically_private 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE!!!!! this is very important so do not allow him to persuade you otherwise... he is not so wonderful if he insists ... you cannot know his intentions and at the very least it probably means he's married... there are plenty of nice, genuine men on dating sites if you're looking for someone to date... please take care x
2006-09-02 02:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by charlie123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋