Okay so things between me and my boyfriend have been serious...well the problem is...I cant what he calls "let go" which i think he means an orgasim. He had it once, but sense then nothing. Last night it didnt really feel as god as usually when he "touches" If I dont have an orgasim does that mean anything...and how do i keep it at some point where I can get one?
Please no rude comments, im curous about things just like all of you. I just need help on what I should do.
2006-09-02 02:36:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are not real relaxed yet. If you're uptight while having sex you're probably not going to orgasm. Maybe you have some issues right now or, in your heart of hearts, you don't really feel right about the sexual aspect of this relationship. Once you can relax, I'll bet you'll c-m :)
2006-09-02 02:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal....there are people out there who experience the same problem. Normally ladies are the majority who will have this problem. Tell your boyfriend that it does not mean that not having it means you don't love him enough. And likewise he should be caring enough to understand. You both need to make sacrifices. I believe you haven't told him how you like it done. Also maybe you are not ready to do it could be another possibility. Most ladies who can't get an orgasm is because they are not comfortable or not ready to do it yet. Some ladies told me that while having sex they have a guilt feeling about it, some said they just don't feel right so that's the reason. You could be in this catergory. So think about it. Only do it when you are really comfortable with it. You must be 100% sure you are with the right person and then you might have multiple orgasm.
2006-09-02 02:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's harder for women and if you're nervous/anxious about it because you're thinking about it since he mentioned it, it will make it worse. Make sure that he's spending enough time with foreplay because most girls need to get warmed up . How comfortable are you having sex with him? Are you still nervous? Just relax and enjoy it. Let him know when he does something that does make you feel good so he knows you like it. You can both get a book (whole section at the bookstore) and try things together but let him know that even if you don't "let go" you are enjoying being with him. He may be feeling insecure about not being able to bring you to orgasm. Good luck.
2006-09-02 02:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very rare for a woman to really have a letting go or orgasm. Mostly it happens when you are self masturbating, watching a sensitively done sexual scene on TV or when he is making love to you in a totally pleasuring way seeking no fulfillment for himself.
BUT---you can fake an orgasm. It has to be well done in order to fool him. Men need to feel macho that they can take you there. Fake it only when he is pleasuring you so that if he wants that excitement again---you will have the fun. And never in all your life let him know this deception. It will excite you to no end and maybe you will end up having a mini one.
2006-09-02 02:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one and orgasm is yes physical but it is also.... Mental and emotional. If your heart and or mind is some where else then it will be harder for you to climax and get to that point. You could be tense or unsure about things. If so, you need to find ways to help you relax. Try different kinds of foreplay extended foreplay not 5 min but to have your entire body stimulated and aroused. There are other ways to achieve and orgasm than penetration try orally or masturbation even. He is not going to fully satisfy you unless you know what you like and ultimatley love. Try exploring your own body and see what turns you on and how you like to be touched. He can even be there and learn along with you. Just be patient.
2006-09-02 02:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Laila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to know your own body. Know what feels good and what doesn't. Exploration is the key. You have to know what arouses you to the point of an orgasm and go from there. Explore your own body. Tell your mate what feels good WHEN it feels good. Not all women experience an orgasm right away. It takes time to know how to get there. No, it doesn't mean anything if you don't have one yet. Take your time, relax and find the arousal point that makes you feel good. Believe it or not, masturbation helps. That way, YOU will know how to have an orgasm and teach him. Good luck sweetie... : )
2006-09-02 02:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I'm old fashioned. Sex is not only about the physical connection but the emotional and spiritual connection with a person. One usually doesn't have all of this toward a person unless they are in a very serious relationship (engaged) and or married. So... this could be the issue. It's simply and "act" to "perform".
You sound too young to be having sex, don't degrade yourself. You loose a bit of yourself with each sexual partner, don't have nothing left if/when you find your life partner. I'm sorry, probably not the answer you want, but I'm answering the best of my knowledge and experiences.
2006-09-02 02:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes i have found that some woman try to hard for the orgasm and then don't achieve it. strop trying to hit climax and just focus on the ride do what feels good. i personally like to start out in a hot shower with my partner then give her a full body massage, totally relaxing her then move into some fore play, the results are 99 percent successful in her achieving orgasm and multiple orgasms. she had never had an orgasm before and told me up front she couldn't achieve them.
i told her don't try just relax and focus on what i am doing and the good feelings of it. the orgasms followed quickly.
2006-09-02 02:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's is a very simple problem first shave your flower's hair so it will look clean and let your boyfriend touch your clitoris with his tongue until you reach orgasm maybe twice,three times or even more before penetration don't let your boyfriend penetrate you if you have not yet come to orgasm. If your boyfriend don't know how to do it come to me and I will do it, I'm sure you not regret. E-mail me at aihtync03@yahoo.com and I'll give you more advise for your satisfaction.
2006-09-03 01:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by aihtync03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a lot of women don't have orgasms. Some have never had one. A lot of women only have one occasionally while others have them all the time. A womans vagina is only sensitive for a certain number of Inches inside. Her Clitoris (or clit) is very sensitive and that's where most orgasms come from.
2006-09-02 03:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋