im a 15 year old mom and a really hot guy keeps saying; will you have sex with me?i keep saying im not ready yet.i'm afraid he will get me pregnant like the last guy did.im going crazy because people are telling me to but my mom said she would disown me if she found out that i had sex again.i really like this guy and he really likes me but what should i do.we have only been dating for 3 months.
2006-09-02 02:26:50 · 15 answers · asked by *shorty* giggles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you already know what the consequences can be if you have sex at the wrong time. Not only a child, but also the fact that if you broke up after that, went your separate ways, you left a bit of yourself with him, and he left a good deal more than a bit of himself with you.
You of all people should know from experience why it pays to wait until you're in a position to have a responsible, permanent commitment before you have sex. That will mean, among other things, waiting until you are completely independent from your parents and have no other obligations that might take precedence over your relationship with the person you are to spend your life with - because once you make that commitment, that person, that relationship really do have to take precedence above everything except God.
So tell this guy that obviously you've had the opportunity to learn a thing or two in this life, and that you have profited from it to gain the wisdom to wait. And if he can't take no for an answer, then he is someone you need to keep your distance from.
You are a precious creature made in God's image, and you're worth more than having some guy try to use your body for his pleasure.
You are worth someone taking that responsibility together with you and making that permanent commitment, that decision to focus on doing what needs to be done to make a good and lasting relationship.
And so, for that matter, is he, regardless of his behavior - so that whether or not he is 'hot' has nothing to do with whether it's right to have sex with him.
Bottom line: the important thing in that decision is respect for each other, as well as for the God who joins people together when they make the sort of commitment I am talking about here.
May He bless you
2006-09-02 02:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are a 15 y/o mom. I think that classifies you as being an "adult" and able to make your own decisions of free will without your mom thinking she has the right to tell you what to do. You need to get some education regarding Family Planning. Birth Control Pills and condoms can extremely lower the risk of another pregnancy. Emotions and desire aside, once you know enough about what you are doing, it will be easier for you to decide if you want to do it. Shame you r mother is so concerned now that you are a mom instead of teaching you better before you got pregnant.
If the guy really cares about you, however, he will wait until you are emotionally and mentally ready. Learn more about birth control and contraceptives before getting into bed with another guy. It sounds like he may only want to sleep with you because he thinks you are "easy". Most boys look at teen moms in that regard, so make sure he's not just using you.
Be Well.
2006-09-02 09:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by jobie023 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you are "15" and a mom. You have had your wakeup call. Sex is what got you in trouble and pregnant the first time. If you don't wake up soon, you're going to be 18 with 2 or 3 kids. Your child does not deserve that. You need to focus on your child. You have schooll and trying to support your child to think about. What happens if you do get pregnant again and you get kicked out...??? Where do you go...??? And, this guy knows you have a baby and ALL he wants is sex. C'mon now, open your eyes. Is sex at 15 more important than anything else...??? You need to have more respect for yourself. Wake up and see what's going on around you. Your world could go down the drain just because of sex...Think...think...think...
2006-09-02 09:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns! If you are not ready to have another baby then you are not ready to have sex...even with all the protection in the world you still have a chance of getting pregnant. I applaud your decision to stay abstinent! You learned from your mistake...so many girls don't.
If this guy really does like you then he will respect your decision...if not he's a cad and you can do better!
Blessed Be!
2006-09-02 09:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello! Fifteen and a mom! How tragic and sad, you are still developing yourself and you have a child? Sad. DO NOT, and I repeat DO NOT have sex with this person! Sex is not just an action "because it feels good", sex is an intimate and special act shared between 2 people committed to each other for life! Do you understand me for life. Masterbate if you have to, but don't have sex with him or anyone! Your mother is right!
2006-09-02 09:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi
Its hard being young and having pressures on you, but if youve already got a baby, you must know its hard and no matter how hot any guy is, its your choice.if your going to do it, be safe and careful, but I think if you need to ask for help on this matter then you already know the answer. There's no harm in waiting and if this guy's keen he'll wait to.. Hope this helps xx
2006-09-02 09:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by amber1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doing the right thing girl, if your not ready...then your not ready! Dont give in to pressure from anyone. If this guy care for more than a good lay,..he will be patient and wait until you are ready. Good job babe....hang in there!!!
2006-09-02 09:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your a mom at 15 and still wanting more sex.You must be awful busy with school and baby and if your boyfriend is mature enough he should easily see why your not getting into sex just now.
2006-09-02 09:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by steve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, talk about white trash!
Heres an idea, why don't you grow up a tiny bit, realize that the whole "gangstaz and hoez" bullshit doesn't pay the bills, or help raise responsible kids!
I bet you're on government assistance, aren't you?
2006-09-02 13:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by White 2.5rs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to then done and at 15 and a mother you have more important things to worry about then having sex.
2006-09-02 09:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋