2006-09-02 02:02:53 · 13 answers · asked by CHIQUITA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talking to a child about sex is something that should be casual conversation... age appropriate... and done in bits and pieces as he grows up. It really shouldn't be one sit-down discussion at a particular age. You need to gear it toward what curiousities the child has, his/her individual "need to know" and the situations that present themselves.
Let's say a child is three or four... and Mommy or a friend or relative is pregnant. This would be a good time to discuss where babies come from ("They grow in a special place inside of a mommy until they are ready to be born") "How do they get out?" "Mommies have a special opening, in their private area, just for babies to come out."
Only tell them as they ask. They'll ask what they want to know. If you get too complicated you'll wind up with a conversation that goes like this:
"Where did I come from?"
(Mom launches into long drawn-out explanation about conception, pregnancy, childbirth, etc... then totally drained... she looks at the child for his reaction...)
"Huh. Jason came from Cleveland...."
As your child gets older, they may see or hear things... or your pet might have kittens or puppies or they might see animals mating. It's fine to answer those questions as they arise... with honesty, but not more detail than is age-appropriate.
Just make discussions about reproduction and later, human sexuality, a normal part of your child's question and answer sessions. As long as you answer without fear or embarrassment, your child will feel comfortable asking anything at any age. It will be just as easy for them to ask as "Why is the sky blue" (and sometimes, when you're caught off-guard, not much easier for you to answer!)
Keeping the conversation comfortable between you will be especially important as your child becomes a teen and even an adult. Having open discussions with my children allowed them to feel comfortable discussing with me their level of sexual involvement so I knew who was planning to "wait" and when the "waiting" fell by the wayside and that it was time to take my 19 year old daughter to the OB-GYN for a visit and birth control. Good luck... and remember... sometimes they don't want all the *gross* details. They just want a simple answer and if they want to know more, they'll ask :)
2006-09-02 02:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your child will let you know when they are ready. They hear and learn things at school so be prepared for some strange questions. My little girl was seven when she became fascinated by the subject, having listened to a lot of children in the playground. I explained the facts of life to her (using words she could understand) then told her that every body knows about sex but it should n ot be discussed in the playground. She was happy with this and has grown into a level headed, happy 20 year old
2006-09-02 02:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by PHILIP C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the time is not set for any particular age. it goes by when you think your child is ready. before you talk to him/her do some research so you know what to say. then approach the child with great care and talk to them at their level. If your child is showing signs of being interested like if its a boy if he is talking about girls and suddenly keeping himself clean or if its a girl and she becomes secretive and maybe starts asking about birth control. then you might want to start doing the research and be ready to have a chat with him/her.
2006-09-02 02:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by hopalong 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all you does not be a stable determine if u permit ur newborn have intercourse on the age of sixteen, particular its criminal yet come on, rather? in in simple terms shall we are saying 5 years time they discover 'the only' and that they already had intercourse nicely then its not particular. in the event that they are over 18 then ok in keeping with risk in case you have faith them through fact they are older and that they like to boost up. yet to be truthful do not motivate them through fact they are nonetheless youthful, howdy they have extra advantageous than 50 years to have intercourse!
2016-11-23 18:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by eskdale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say its not about the age it's about the time they start maturing if your child seems like he/she is still in that non maturing stage then its not the right time as a "good" parent you will notice things like your child maturing when you realize that is happening it's probably the right time
2006-09-02 02:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by becca . 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it;s when they start asking. Sometimes it's when they start "developing". You can ask your child's school when they start teaching your child sex education because that would really be a good time to start.
2006-09-02 02:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Katrina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All along, but in words they can understand and tell them more as they get older. WHen they ask a question, answer it age appropriately.
2006-09-02 02:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he/she asks you questions; schools do have sex education for 9-10years,well my daughter came home and told me all about it out of the blue.
2006-09-02 02:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by cheyenne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NEVER!!!! Throw them in a deep dark hole the first sign of interest!! Then let them out when they are 25 and send them down the road to figure it out for themselves!!!!
2006-09-02 02:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by stangsearchin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say 14 for boys and for girls when they start having there period. Just my opinion, Good luck.
2006-09-02 03:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋