Yest i had gone out with my friends and my boyfriend. He kept tellin me the entire journey tat he wants to spend time with me alone nd not with my friends. He wanted to be romantic. After a while i got very pissed saying nothin can be done now.He said he doesnt want to go out with me anymore. I started cryin terribly nd he didnt even bother consoling me. He juz kept saying he wants to break up. We got back home and he called up in the night to apologise. I didnt accept it as i was hurt. He got very wild and got scared that he was gonna lose me . So he started abusing me and my family in his anger. He abused a lot and then started crying. His words very were rude. What do i do now? how do i ever respect him again? I love him but i am confused. Please help
2006-09-02 01:58:24 · 12 answers · asked by dolly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not really speaking from experience exactly, but from friend's situations etc: You should leave it up to him. Don't be too anxious to get him back. If you make that everything is fine then this might become a regular occurrence. However, don't make it too hard for him, let him know he's messed up, but that your willing to give him another go.
Seems that he is pretty confused himself, one minute like he wants to sleep with you (sorry for presuming) and next wants to break up. I guess some guys are like that, but if he bothered to call you up, and got so angry and upset at the prospect of losing you then I think that says something in itself.
You might want to text/phone him saying that you were offended by what happened and that you were upset about the whole thing, and also upset at losing him. If he is quick to apologise etc, then you know that he is sorry, but if he starts blaming on you then I wouldn't take it. If so, give him a chance to collect himself, and if he wants you too then he'll call you.
Good luck, and if it's meant to be, it will be.
2006-09-02 02:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but love has nothing to do with abusing you and your family. His actions are showing a problem with anger and the fact that he is immature due to his abuse reaction. This will not stop because this is what he has learned. If he does not get his way in this relationship take a deep look at what you and your family will be in for. At this point who knows what he would do. Sorry, but you say that you love him. Is it because you sense that he needs someone? This doesn't make for a "love" relationship, what you are really looking for.
As for "how do I ever respect him again", you can't. This incident will always be in the back of your mind. And rightly so, because you don't know about when and if will be the next time.
It's time to move on. Don't be a victim of his anger abuse and emotional abuse as he is to unstable.
2006-09-02 02:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then you have to understand that people can say and do things when they are feeling hurt/angry/threatened. Talk to him and tell him you guys need a couple of days to think about what you both want. At the end of that, sit down and have a heart to heart and decide together if the relationship is worth saving or not. All he wanted was to spend some alone time with you and things got a little out of hand. Good luck.
2006-09-02 02:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Gaby A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that any guy that you date should respect you, your friends, and your family, cuz over all you have to say that makes your whole decision..Sure he could be the hottest guy in school ,but he isn't nothing if he disrespects you.. I mean if you one of my friends i would have totally went off on that dude, cuz one you don't need anyone that makes you cry, 2 It might be hard, but you can find someone so much better, 3. Everyone has a soul mate it just isn't him.. Personally I wouldn't go out with the guy anymore.. I would try to become friends with him or something, but the way he did you.. is never going to change..Respect comes with a lot of time.. he must also respect you too. if he doesn't , There is no use to even try.
-Corie-
2006-09-02 02:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by Corie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother with him if he is hurting you in anyway physical or metal it doest matter he has problems that he needs to get rid of there will be tons of guys out there waiting for you they just dont know it yet so lose him and go get a big contanor of icecream that helps when im sad! so go have fun!!
2006-09-02 02:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a guy and when we broke he said some hurtful things as well and punched walls. I would forget him. Sounds to me like he is only after one thing and i dont mean a relationship. Good luck xx
2006-09-02 02:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Sexy D♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh feelings control us...... Anyway you know he was right wanting to be just with you and you should not have gotten mad about it and he shouldnt have abused you. you should ask yourself if you think he deserves a 2nd chance. but i say you should give him the chance he overreacted but i am sure he didnt mean to
2006-09-02 02:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Dreamcaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds dangerous..i was with someone like this...when he thought he was gonna lose me, he broke into my house and tried to kill me...so i guess if you still wanna be with this dude, ok then.
2006-09-02 02:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by california gurlie poo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carry on>>>>>>>>
2006-09-02 02:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wrote so much, i m not gonna read all that
2006-09-02 02:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋