5 years ago my soulmate jump over the fence to be on the other side along with my X- best friend. He could care less for his ordained marriage , his true wife, his true family and God. Marriage is what it is UNTIL DEATH. I know it to be true in my heart if my husband was truly born again , he would NOT be where he is stll today. God will being my husband back to me when he is truly born again. We know that it may NOT happen because of the free will. My husband does not want the responsibilities of being a husband to his true wife, a leader of his ORDAINED family, & a Father to our children. Now he is being two face and my christain counsellor told us that is how he can now live his life. Plus he is NOT truly repenting from his adultery retionship if he was truly repenting from it than he would return to his true one & only wife & his ordained family God gave him to have in the first place. God will deal with him one day. Meanwhile my children & I are going forward in our life .
2006-09-02 01:28:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, he is a two-faced hipocrite.
Life gives us many circles & he will pay fo it dearly one day!
2006-09-02 01:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.
2016-02-11 01:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Donnette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, I am sorry to hear what your husband did, In my eyes, he was never Born Again, I don't care how many times he was ordained. To give you some comfort, read 1st. Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him/her depart. A brother or a Sister is not under bondage in such cases But God hath called us to peace. Sister you are free to Marry again only in the Lord, which means if you are a believer, then you are free to marry another believer. You are not any longer under bondage of your marriage vows.
2006-09-02 01:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are obviously feeling a lot of pain. If you truly feel married to your ex-husband with a deep and spiritual connection and cannot go beyond that, maybe you should explore the possibility of a reconciliation in the form of a plural marriage like many of the old testament examples. Don't be afraid to share your love.
2006-09-02 07:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sincere Questioner 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he isn't a strong man and if he can't be responsible you should be thanking the Lord for revealing his ways to you and everyone else and move on. he isn't worth you waiting for, if he was worth you then God would have kept you together. this man you chose never was who you wanted him to be and probably never will be. God will not send him back to you because as in the metaphor of Sodom and Gomorrah, when lots wife looked back her life turned to stone well if you keep looking back your life will become as stone as well. move on and let the Lord send you a real hero. won't your ex- be shocked when you move on with your life and step out on faith. be glad that deceiver has been removed from your life and good riddens to him. the sl** who got him has nothing but a cheater,you don't want that man. forgiveness is for your soul not his. you can forgive him for being stupid bot you do no have to ever live with such a person again. teach you sons that this behavior is unacceptable and will not tolerated even if forgiven and teach your daughters that women in Christ have the right to be treated as queens and if daddy doesn't care about anything but his needs than his love is unacceptable.you can forgive and should for your sake,but forgiveness doesn't mean acceptance of anothers bad behavior. revenge is mine sayeth the Lord.
2006-09-02 01:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not a Fundamentalist Born again type of Christian so I cannot answer this but this doesn't sound like "Christian" behavior. I am so sorry to hear of the troubles for you and your family. You are in my prayers today.
Peace Be With You,
Debra
2006-09-02 01:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could have just backslidden and may still be in error. regardless of what did occur, it is time to release all these things to the Lord. if the soul tie there hasn't been dealt with, it's time. According to Christ, the actions of this man allow for divorce. now of course God hates divorce. However, He forgives and makes new. There's hope and eharmony.com might be a place to start. Xianz.com might help with re-emerging.
2006-09-02 01:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by DexterLoxley 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
god condones sex.if you wouldve been more sexuall he wouldnt have left .he was born again thats why he left with your best friend (THE DEVIL MADE HIM DO IT)so your wish came true.sounds like a true christian if you ask me. maybe offer to do a threeway if he comes back he can bring your friend back too.thta way you can be happy again .maybe lose some pounds .(did you get fat??there is a reason he left . maybe god took over and you were too pure to have a husband you christians think your better than everyone else anyway ,maybe he got tired of you preaching to him and called you friend over to drowned out you bitchin ,they probably did it in YOUR BED .youll never wash the sin outta that bed .ill bet she wore your panties too,oh they might be too big for her .but if you wanna get him back let me know we can work somthing out as for your friend she must be pretty hott
2006-09-02 01:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by whiskeydog06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he could have truly asked Jesus into his life or he may not have asked him in.
If he did, he just does not sound as if he is comitted to Christ. Some counseling maybe in order. But i am just a Christian as you and not a qualified counselor, not sure if anyone on this wonderful forum is.
2006-09-02 01:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you so hung up on this ordained business? unfortunately men and women aren't designed to be monogomous and marriage is a false and flawed concept. The sooner people realise it is impossible to remain sexually faithful to one person for whole of their lives the happier they will be!
I hope you get over him, and the pain the he caused you and that you stop trying to justify your actions through your religion, you should know what you feel in your heart with regards to him and I can assure you that's what your God wants!
Blessings
X
2006-09-02 01:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by CHARLOTTE B 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋