I lost my dad and have no male blood relatives. I've got a step-grandad and a Mum. Who should I choose?
2006-09-02 00:34:41 · 66 answers · asked by Juliet H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Find someone you feel closest to. Maybe a friend, otherwise i would recomend your step-grandad.
2006-09-02 00:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have personally dealt with this dilemma. First of all, you do not technically have to have anyone give you away. You could come 1/2 way down the aisle and have your groom meet you and walk you the rest of the way---this symbolizes you have been on your own but for the rest of your life's path you will walk together. Your step grandad sounds a couple of clicks removed from your daily life but if you are close to him, that would be great. I have seen several women have their mother's to give them away and this is completely appropriate. If you have a very close friend who is male or a godfather, either of those are common choices. Remember, don't let details like this get in the way of why you are really there---good luck!
2006-09-02 05:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Missie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have someone give you away and your close to your step-grandad he might love having the honor, but in today's world you don't have to have anyone give you away, because you haven't been owned. You can just as well walk yourself down the isle and just skip the part where the pastor ask who gives this woman to be married.
2006-09-02 02:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now adays you can have anyone. Even a close friend. Male or female. If you really want to be traditional a step grandad is fine. However if you are close to your mum, why not ask her if she would like to?
Enjoy your big day.
2006-09-02 00:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Nneave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose someone that you want. Don't choose someone just to have someone. If you want your mum or step-grandfather to do this, then fine. If you don't and have no one else that you want to choose, then consider this option. If you loved your father and had really hoped that he would give you away, talk to the preacher or minister performing the ceremony. Ask him to announce (just before it's time for you to come down the aisle for example) "that while your father is 'not alive", you feel he is present in spirit. You are not walking down the aisle by yourself but that your father's spirit is there by your side and holding your arm. Being as that if he was alive he would be "giving you away", you feel that he is there "in spirit" to give you away." Proceed with the ceremony in this manner.
2006-09-02 00:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritual but not religious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is what you feel comfortable with. Your Mum can give you away just like your father would have. And your step-grand father could do it if you are close to him. Also any close male friends of the family would be appropriate. If it was me I would go with my mom. good luck.
2006-09-02 00:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you a good male friend, or a son? My aunt was given away by here 8 year old- it was very sweet. But they don't have to be a relative. If you are in a civil ceremony, you don't have to be given away, although if you do want to, why not ask your mom what she thinks? I personally wouldn't choose her as she is mother of the bride, a role of great import in itself- she'll be busy!
Congratulations!
2006-09-02 00:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by big_fat_goth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tradition says your Dad should give you away, but this is the 21st century. This is your day surely it is up to you what or who you want. I know someone who used their mum, i also know someone who didn't bother with anyone. are you getting married in church? i suppose the other consideration is where you are getting married. Do what you want . I hope you have a great day.and i'm sure your dad will be there.
2006-09-02 00:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose the person who means the most to me. Its your wedding day and you're being given away to start a new life of your own.
2006-09-05 12:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by OzAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Mum has a sister, or your Dad had a sister, ask them if they would be happy to give you away. Leaving your Mum to be the proud mother of the bride. After all, its all family.
2006-09-02 00:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
I would recommend your step-grandad! Let your mum retain her mother of the bride role.
Enjoy your special day!!
2006-09-02 00:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋