We've been together a couple of years, but that part of things is dwindling fast. Tried to talk to him about it. Am getting really sad about it. Any advice?
2006-09-02 00:34:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem you have is not sexual. It is emotional. You look at the situation from the wrong angle. Do you still love him? And I mean really love him. Do you still talk, laugh, and do all the things you did 2 years ago? Buying new sexy lingerie or other new tricks in the bedroom are going to be just a quick fix, which will not work in the long term. Show him you still love him, take care of him, be the best wife/partner you can be. He will take you to the bedroom without you having to say anything.
2006-09-02 01:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ovidiu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant talk to him about it with out hurting his male ego. male egoes are extremely fragile, so fragile that even us guys have a hard time understanding it. the unfortunate side effect of marriage the "quest" is over we have had "that" and" been there done that "
if your sure that he is a man that wont cheat on his wife then your best course of action( from my perspective) is go to bed acting like everything is awsome and you have the greatest husband in the world and wake the next day the same way and treat him like your in extreme bliss all the time.... it doesnt mean you have to be his maid or servant. the more you do this the better the marriage is the more confidence in your marriage he will have. you need to talk but with out pointing to his ailing sexual drive but do point out the positives of your sex life.... " oh god, honey when you do this or when you do that" you make me feel like this " the more you stroke his ego and make him feel like a god in that dept. the more he will be proned to act like a god. in contrast the more you have said your less then a god in the bedroom lately and your slipping and we are not having a great sex life the more he is "ego damged" and the less he is doing.....
notice the decent in the bedroom the more you mention his lack of action in the bedroom??? now turn it around and work the positive with out pushing, he will start a redirection on his own as long as you compliment and allow him to be a mangod in that dept.
2006-09-02 07:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey friend take my advice. Ya told you have been for couple of years. And know I ask you was that true love or you had sex on your mind. First you should show care for the other person and then gradually let the person feel you. Look in the eyes and try to say through the eyes. Try it the person will know then you can say what you want.
2006-09-02 07:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by anurag_love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey but if the spark is no longer there then it all hard work from now. We had the same problem till he went away for a week or so and its been none stop since!. You have to talk to him and try and nip it in the bud.
2006-09-02 07:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by doodlepol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem as well,,,we've been together for almost 3 years and i am the same way. but let me know if theres any good advice that people give. and hope you can share with me. thank
2006-09-02 07:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by jhonstennis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought that he might be getting it elsewhere? You could reinvent, try dressing up and experiment...when you have friends over, get him to go with you into the kitchen (make sure the doors closed) and have sex right there and then on the floor...this is just one example of spicing up your love life, I know I have done it...the threat of being caught adds to it.
2006-09-02 07:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Molly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring home a GF to share with him!
2006-09-02 07:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
communication is still the best weapon...talk to him a little more...i'm sure you'll soon get what you want...best of luck.
2006-09-02 07:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by james ian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him you aren't wearing boxers or briefs!
2006-09-02 07:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Bear Naked 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i need to know when you find out, i have the same problem.
2006-09-02 07:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by phooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋