My younger cousin as been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks and she'll be 16 next week so is planning to have sex with her boyfriend. I know this is the age that your allowed to have sex at but don't you think its a bit young ? I'm trying to persuade her not to have sex with him yet and wait for a couple of years but shes just ignoring me. Please help, I don't want her to do something she'll regreat later on
2006-09-02 00:18:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
16 is too young and she most likely wont listen none do at that age and yep she will regrete it and chances are will blame you for not working harder to stop her. tell her parents. i am sure they will stop her. thats what i would do if she didnt listen
2006-09-02 00:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Think back to when you were sixteen. were you ready? Providing she uses protection there should be no other problems. We don't really know what is happening inside someone elses head. I am a firm believer that we should guide and advise people on what we BELIEVE to be best, but that the decision is down to them.
people learn better from there own mistakes.
*** and for all, thos people who's answers are all "no, no, no. What planet are you people from. At what age did you become sexually active? Have any of you actually tried to sit down and speak to a sixteen year old girl without demanding things or being patronising. Everyone is different. I losy my Virginity at 15. I had opertunities to do this before but did not feel ready. I made my own decision and it was the correct one. At 16 legally you may be married, move out of home, have a full time job and visit other countries unacompannied. At 16 you are an adult, and an adults greatest gift is free will......Learn to respect that****
2006-09-02 00:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by friskydragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be difficult to accept however you have no control over what she does. If she is not the one asking this question, she probably isn't looking for any answers. When I am considering having sex with someone I ask a few pertinent questions like; what kind of previous history this person may have or what can I do to protect myself? If she is going to insist on doing this maybe the best thing you can do for her is make sure she asks herself, and answers, some similar questions. Has she considered protection agains disease and pregnancy? What is she willing to do and can she live with the consequences of anything that may result? You may not be able to 'tell' her anything so try 'asking' her some questions and give her time to answer them.
2006-09-02 00:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by silinserene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your cousin is young and 3 weeks is a very short time also. It is possible that your cousin may have some insecurities and therefore may feel she needs this guy to make her feel more complete. Try having another talk with her and ask her why she feels she needs a boyfriend and why she feels that she cannot wait?
2006-09-02 00:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will just ignore you & worse yet - if you say anything more, it'll make her do it even sooner.. The best way is to talk to her about it - tell her how good it is, the forms of protection (Joke with her) - but tell her about guys... let her make her mind up - she'll make her own mistakes with or without you - just try to make sure that when she does she comes to you first for help..
Have fun!!
2006-09-02 01:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus take this advice yeah. if you try and prevent her too much she'll just get curious and go and do something you never thought she would so tell ehr the neccesary precautions but then let her know that its her decision so she feels a bit of independence and she has been warned so if something really bad happens your hands are clean and that excuse is off her list
2006-09-02 00:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by $w££t£r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is going to have sex and made her mind up i dont think you can persuade her otherwise. I would make sure you discuss the implications of her decision and she uses protection, so she practises safe sex.
2006-09-02 00:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by clairie1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about age, it's about maturity. If she is ready she will do it no matter what you say. Give her protection, tell her to relax and to remember the most important thing - whatever the man tells her to do she should do. The man is always right and should be able to do anything he wants to her. She should thank him afterwards.
2006-09-02 00:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an older cousin, the best you can do is advise her. Sometimes you have to allow others to make their own mistakes and be there for them to pick up the pieces. She is being hasty in my opinion.
2006-09-02 06:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you tell her not to do it the more determined she will be! The best thing you can do is make sure she is safe! At least she is waiting until she is 16!
2006-09-02 00:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by dazed & confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-02 00:24:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋