They over dominating men, who will ask for your opinion but will always make their own decision. Who won't admit their mistake even when their wrong. No one wants to be with a wimp. Accoding, to psychiatrists the "extra" dominating men turn girls on big time.
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2006-09-01 23:07:42 · 10 answers · asked by Razor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maddy, I find men with streangth a turn on. However, I do not subsribe to men who are incapable of not only knowing when they are wrong, made a mistake, behaved poorly, and who will not only not own up to it but refuse to make amends to the woman they love or other loved ones. I am a woman who believes strongly that men are the head of the house. However, many who like this train of thought have forgotten the rest of this, that men are to treat their wives with respect, to always take her needs not only into consideration but to strive to meet those needs. He is not her boss, or her father, but her partner. She is also the same for him. She is his helpmeet, his comforter, his friend, lover, the most important person in her life who she honors and respects. However, he must earn that respect. He can not simply order respect. It is something he must show her he deserves. We women are suppose to pick our husbands with care. We are suppose to be sure he is the right man for us. If we act rashly and marry quickly we only have ourselves to blame when what we took as a strong minded man who was capable of being the head of household, turns out to be an abuser who looks down on women and never takes her or her need seriously.
Now, women tend to reach a state of readiness to committ to a long term relationship much sooner than do men. Women should take head of this decrepancy between the sexes. Women tend to reach the idea they want a certain man for a long term committed relationship in a few short months. This is due to the women's inate trait of hearth and home. Her nurturing capabilities. However, men reach this stage in about a year or a bit longer. Women who push a man to committ before he reaches this point will head for the hills in a heart beat. They will not be pushed and women need to understand how attempting to do so is detrimental to their goals for the relationship.
Now, women need to learn to curb their desire to rush into a relationship. They need to take the time to really learn who the man is, how he relates to them, and life in general. Women often make the mistake of allowing their initial attraction to what they percieve as a strong man to color their judgements. They do not wait to see if this behavior is of the healthy and desired variety or if it is the result of a controlling and abusive personality. This is where many women go wrong. Then they make this next classic mistake. They think they can "change" their man. We can not change anyone but ourselves. However, many women believe they can change men. This is a situation which leads to heartbreak. Women must understand they can not make a fully informed decision on a mans personality and behavior patterns within a few months time of knowing him, or that if he begins to show signs of controlling, over dominating and/or abusive behaviors, that they can change him, or that they will be the one woman who he treats differently as she is so special. I am not being mean, just honest. All individuals are special in each's own way. We all have unique talents and qualities which make us all special. However, we can not change anyone.
So, yes, women like men who are strong. Yet, todays society has taken apart our roles as men and women. While women crave a strong man who can be a leader who will consider her needs and be considered the most important person in his life, many women today are attempting to take on the role of a male. These women are not allowing their men to be men. On the one hand they know deep inside they want a "real" man, but once they have him they begin to "unman" him. To attempt to take on his role and also keep her traditional role. This creates great angst in marriages and they will end up in divorce. One reason our divorce rate is so high.
So, all is in a state of confusion. Women need to understand that men must be allowed to be men. They really do want their men to be the "man" but then begin to undermine him, to question his role. Now, it is also true that the man must be able to be the man. Many men today are abdicating their roles and are not growing in maturity as men should. They are lost. So we are in a really tangled web right now. It is so sad. I see this all the time, yet nobody wishes to really listen or take the steps needed to correct the problem.
Regardless of whether or not women wish to admitt this we must allow our men to BE men. When there is a partnership and the discussion of an issue comes to a deadlock, SOMEBODY has to make a decision. If the man is capable of making this decison why not allow him too? We are allowing pride to get in the way of what could be a vibrant, healthy, deeply bonded love which grows ever deeper over the years. Women and men both are confused about what their roles are in todays society. However, if they only put aside their pride and listened to their deepest most secret heart, and followed what is spoken there, things would not be such a mess. Women will continue to crave a strong man, but them begin to undermine and devalue his role by attempting to take it over.
This is not a small issue. It has so many facets and it is just too difficult to talk of them all here. I appreciate your question because it brings forth a dialog on a much needed discussion.
Women: There is NO shame in allowing your man to be the man if he is capable of that role. There is no shame in allowing him the final say if he is taking all your needs into consideration and is a loving husband.
Thank you for this question and I wish you a great day. Serenity
2006-09-02 06:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well this is my opinion, everyone has a different description on what turns them on. I like dark haired guys, not long hair, not bald! I don't mind blondes, but brunettes are better, and also i like their hair gelled/spiked up, and highlights are good too! Any eye colour will do. I prefer them to be taller than me, but if their aren't I would still like them. Tattoos.. I'm not overly keen on them, but one on the arm is okay, I hate men that are tattooed all over. I don't like endless piercings either, just one ear lobe at the most, maybe eyebrow. I prefer them tanned, but any skin tone is fine. And sexiest body part.. has to be a sixpack! Oh and guys have to have really cute eyes! Well I hope this helps! xx
2016-03-27 04:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a dominating man isn't a turn on. They come across as cold, rough, arrogant, uninterested, cocky, and selfish. If you take a sweet guy, who at the "right" time exhibits some dominance....that can be sexy.
2006-09-01 23:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not... we interpret "domination" as confidence. the best way to put it is like this: confident men turn women on.
2006-09-01 23:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has been the case for decades!
2006-09-01 23:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- Women want a man who is stronger than them, but not crazy....Controlling and aggressive.....Wife-beaters are not sexy
2006-09-01 23:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i want my man 2b in control but not 2 manipulate me...
2006-09-01 23:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately not
2006-09-01 23:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by vbplr_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gf is dominating...sometimes i like it sometimes it just pisses me off
2006-09-01 23:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gud better be out of this matter
2006-09-01 23:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋