my guy is being silent and cold towards me, he was getting to close to his cousin girlfriend's adn i didnt like it so i told him to stop and i even told the girl to stop paying him a visit in my absent,i guess i hurt tham, but i mean i was getting sacrd cos we are far from each othr (distance rlship) now he is being very cold whaen we talk on phone though he is coming to see me next week. is he suppose to be mad about this? and why? or did i do the wrong thing by asking him to stop getting close to his cousin girlfriend,meanwhile his cousin is far away from his girl (distance relship) too
2006-09-01 22:41:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he really loves you he shouldnt be mad , he should understand that you did that cause you love him and you are worried about lossing him and you want him only for yourself , if he didnt understand it that way tell him if he didnt think you were right he does not deserve you
2006-09-01 22:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Roy Keen 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's a catch 22, if his cousin has a relationship with this girl, then you had nothing to worry about, in a way, but it could turn out that he ends up with his cousin's girlfriend, which wouldn't be good, but perhaps he is just friends with her, since he is close to his cousin, you shouldn't have gone there, especially, you don't tell a girl anything like that, it makes you look cheap! Unclassy, guys are supposed to fight for the girl not the girl for the guy. And, the bad part is that if you the shoe would've been on the other foot, he can fight but not you, why because it makes you look low and not together, insecure, you should never give that kind of idea, or impression.
Now you have to let things cool off a bit, and you should be doing other things, be busy, and have other friends yourself, if he is coming to see you let him and just act normal and happy, indifferent towards what happened and do not fight, if he brings it up just say you already forgot about the whole thing, can we change the subject, or just change it immediately. This should teach you a lesson, and if he didn't love you he wouldn't come to see you, he'd break up with you over the phone, even if you are jealous, do not show it, it's the worst thing you can do, looking insecure and possessive, stop being possessive, it's not attractive, my best advise, Good luck, just relax and be positive, don't show you are nervous either.
Be positive and energetic, happy, and it will blow over. You need to show him you are busy, or have other options, other friends or other guys are interested. It helps so much, it makes things turn around and don't talk to him on the phone that much, don't call him. Let him call you, it may be hard to do all that, but the reward is big. (I have the feeling you really need to play hard to get) why don't you just ignore him and let him pursue you all over again, he feels you emberessed him with that girl, you have every right to be upset, but men are like that. You need to let him evaluate the situation, let him miss you and want you, do that for sure! And if he doesn't come back, maybe it wasn't meant to be, don't show him you are crazy about him, just act normal
2006-09-02 06:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I noticed that you said you were scared. So in other words im going to assume that you felt threatned by this woman and the distance between the tow of you. That let's me know that there couldn't have been a real foundation because you wouldn't feel aprehensive, stressed, worried or any of those nervous feelings. You should feel peace and their should be trust, expecially if you choose to be in a long distance relationship.In this type of situation, it is best that you try to keep the "freinds" thing going. This way he will be as open to you as he open to his homies which is what you want. But if you display jealousy, insecure or any type of "typical girlfriend worries" is what i like to call it then your going to get that wall. If he loves you and has no desires for no one other than yourself sista that you should have no worries, if your doubting that then yea..you gonna worry ur *** off! On the other hand I don't feel that you were wrong about expressing your feelings about this matter to him. But theire is a certain way in doing that. Hoevever, I can not speak on whether this man should be mad or not, or if he should be giving you the cold shoulder. Usually, this means that the relationship is at a downfall, especially when it stems from another woman.
2006-09-02 06:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are extremely difficult. It takes commitment and true love. Talk It out with your dude and ask him where he wants it to go. And more importantly ask yourself if it is what you want. You deserve the right to feel secure in your relationship and if you don't feel it with him then it's best to separate as friends then to have a messy break up. Good luck.
2006-09-02 05:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by D baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were absolutely right to ask him to stop seeing the other girl. He doesn't have to be mad. If he really loves you, he would want the best for you and definitely wouldn't wanna hurt you. Think seriously about the future of your relationship and if it's worth ur worries and heartache.
2006-09-02 05:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Stella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your relationship is about to be over. He probably has feelings for his cousin's girlfriend, and you have caught him out, which is why he is being cold towards you. I would end the relationship now yourself, otherwise he will and it will hurt more.
2006-09-02 05:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Stuart M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your relationship is going through the death throes.
It's over. You don't want to be the first to admit it, but you need to break off everything, before you end up hating each other for life.
Long distance relationships don't work, he's eyeballing other females, it's not a good thing.
2006-09-02 05:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by thatwench 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think its time you dumped him and get out of the relationship and I think in your own heart and mind you already know that is the right thing to do,hence why you asked the question in the first place.
Good luck !
2006-09-02 05:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you mean too close? Maybe he thought he was being friendly. Guys don't like being told what to do. Also you raised a trust issue that you think something would happen between them. Or he didn't like it because it sounded possessive.
2006-09-02 05:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥kazzalou♥ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well baby ,, i think there is no a problem ..
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which go around and every where , in this world..
looking about its waiting chance, to enjoy the feelings...
and you charm the eyes and the hearts...
quietness sneak into , and to settle down in the mind and the heart ,against of you ...
inside of the heart , to own the heart and the passion..
to control on you...
the love is that feelings which can own the person from inside...
and to take him around the world as it wish ,
with its happiness or its sadness...
wander him any where even on the seas,
and to walk on the seas without diving into deeply inside...
the love....
is that tasty epidemic , which infect all people without exception..
has its magnetic , which attract all together....
and without love , life never to continue in any planet...
love has many great meanings and definitions,
differ from one to another lover..
every lover has his private imagination and definition to the meaning of love...
and has his way in loving ...
that is my imagination about that great words..
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2006-09-02 05:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you were not in the wrong. It sounds like they may have had a thing going on, but you said something, so they think they have been caught.
2006-09-02 05:45:42 · answer #11 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋