I live in Germany with my boyfriend, whom I've been together with for 2 years now. I love him a lot and we have a pretty healthy relationship. We just started university and things have been weird for the last week. He has been withdrawn and just completely different from the person he was before.
My home is really in California and I'm wondering if I should go back home and begin my life there again. I really like the uni that I am at, but if my boyfriend broke up with me, I know I wouldn't want to be there. Its a nice place, but of course I would rather be home if I wasnt with him.
He says that everything is just so new and he thinks he's only awkward because he is trying to make friends at school instead of focusing on me. I am totally fine with this, but he is awkward at home too and that makes no sense to me.
Could it be that we have just outgrown each other? Could it really pass with a few weeks time? I dont know! Help me if you can!
2006-09-01 22:38:08 · 12 answers · asked by rachael b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, it sounds like he is into someone else, you should come home, he is not worth it!!
Don't show him it is affecting you, act like nothing, don't beg him or seek him, if you are sharing the same place, treat him like a roommate, but don't create a hostil environment, just let him be and go about your business, you need to evaluate him and see if
A. He is acting like this because he feels much pressure
B. He is resentful about something
C. His love became weaker
D. He might've met somebody else or doesn't know how his family, etc., would react and he feels the preassure, just concentrate on studying and when he comes, let him see you are doing that, if the situation doesn't change and he is just being a jerk, because perhaps he doesn't want you living with him, then either move out, or come back to California, there is tons of fish in the sea! (Something might've gotten to his head) perhaps you should ask him, if he wants you to go back and why the sudden change, wouldn't you want a honest relationship, rather than guessing and not being wanted? And both feeling uncomfortable? I would. And, though it may hurt, you'll get over it, and still keep your dignity.
You shouldn't be treated like that after moving 2 continents away for him, you don't deserve that!
I'd come home immediately, you'll find someone much better,
2006-09-01 22:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he an American too? If you are both new to the country and starting college, I can imagine it can all be little overwhelming. It is normal to be homesick and lonely, even you two are a couple. The best thing I can say to do is just talk to him and ask him how he really is feeling about things. He might just need time to adjust to the whole situation. If he is admits that he might be thinking about seperating so he can focus on school there and meet new people, it might be in your best interest to move back home and continue you schooling here. That way you won't feel so abandoned and alone. Just a thought. Hope everything works out.
2006-09-01 22:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by PepperPatty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do think that you should give it a little more time,
relax, and lower your expectations,,
I remember something about positive thinking,, and goals,
When you have a goal, that keeps you up, and makes you strong, but when you have accomplished that goal, you need to have another goal ready, and lined up, ready to act upon.
Because, when you achieve a goal,, if you do not begin another one immediately, you will take a nose dive,, you will fall into a funk, a depression, and not know why,,
so maybe your boyfriend emotionally is going thru a low period..
be real lovable, and kind nomatter what, and maybe this will pass, or bring you closer
good luck
2006-09-01 22:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well,i guess the best thing for you would be to move yourself from the same apartment as his and not the uni or town.....why do you wanna show that you are waek by being so affected by his behaviour that you are ready to ruin your future,your studies and your career....just leave him alone and you too try and make new firends and if the love is true he'll come back or else just move on with life......live and happy rather than running away!!
2006-09-01 22:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound right. If you were living with him before this, something is really up. If you just moved in with him, maybe he is screwed up by the adjustment of living together. Maybe he doen't want to tell you to go back to California. ?
2006-09-01 22:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by wondering 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This for sure , he wants change & thats why he is trying to get close to other people . Now you must learn and practice to stand on your on feet , not to depend on anyone's mercy . PL do spend time for jogging and concentrate on your studies , then decide to go back . Must have confidence on your own qualities and strength
2006-09-01 23:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it time its only been a week!! and if things are still awkward then talk to him again and try to be as open as possible try to get him to communicate with you as much as possible so u can make the best decision for urself and not regret that u didnt try to work things out or communicate with him properly..
2006-09-01 22:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by lazydazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ,, you should go out for some how ..
love is ...
love is ...
that a hiding feelings ,which you can`t explain it by words..
which go around and every where , in this world..
looking about its waiting chance, to enjoy the feelings...
and you charm the eyes and the hearts...
quietness sneak into , and to settle down in the mind and the heart ,against of you ...
inside of the heart , to own the heart and the passion..
to control on you...
the love is that feelings which can own the person from inside...
and to take him around the world as it wish ,
with its happiness or its sadness...
wander him any where even on the seas,
and to walk on the seas without diving into deeply inside...
the love....
is that tasty epidemic , which infect all people without exception..
has its magnetic , which attract all together....
and without love , life never to continue in any planet...
love has many great meanings and definitions,
differ from one to another lover..
every lover has his private imagination and definition to the meaning of love...
and has his way in loving ...
that is my imagination about that great words..
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2006-09-01 22:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
are u goner give up that easily 2yrs minus 1 week wakeup
2006-09-01 22:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Snifer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
GO BACK HOME FOR A WHILE NOT TO GET HURT.
2006-09-01 22:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by my flame 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋